Mitkoo0

Hello to all! I am sorry if I am bothering you again, good people. Some of you know about my story, as I posted several topics about it. It is about a woman with who I chatted online and we talked over the phone and with cameras daily and for months. We used to talk as friends at first, but then things escalated and we started talking in a loving/romance way and flirting. I confessed my feelings towards her around Christmas and then we did plans to see each other, but she distanced herself from me and basically cut me of just a week before me going to see her. She didn't gave me any real explanation, just that she needs space off me and time for herself. Now it has been a month and a half since then and we talked on cameras again, she explained everything. She met a new guy in the begining of January. I confessed before she met that guy, but my point is that she told me she doesn't want relationships now and she is always bad towards the guys she dates, like she wants to just use them and thats it. But her feelings for me were pure, real, genuine and etc. She also told me that when we see each other she wants to kiss me everywhere and that I can kiss her "down" there and having an intimacy. Then she told me how she can't wait to see me, how she can't wait to hug me and kiss me and how we will keep our friendship and love (her words). But I guess 3,4 days later she went on that date, with her female friend and that guy and then her friend left them to be together and she liked him a lot and yeah.. What I can't undertand is how she could be talking to me in loving/romance way like that and in the same time going out with that guy, then being with him obviously and still continued to talking to me in a love manner for a week more, then she distanced fully and unexpectedly That was really bad from her and really hurtful for me. As I was thinking how we will meet each other, about our connection and in the same time she was already with that guy. I want/wanted to be her friend, but its really hard now. I mean I know my romantic/love feelings towards her will fade with the time and I do like her as a person and it would be good to have her in my life, but it will be so painful for me. And I don't know how I can forget her and also, because she texts me more now and even today we also talked on WhatsApp with cameras and she told me more things about him, but I don't want to listen to that. I want her to be in my life, I want to see her someday, but it will be really painful for me to go through this.. And yeah, I forgot to tell that she told me that this guy has two or three hotels and a lot of money.. And before when we talked as friends at first, she told me about her ex boyfriends and all of them had a lot of money.. And I am just a regular, hard working guy sadly.. Sorry all for bothering you.. I want to tell that all of you on here that are trying to help other people - you are amazing! If there were more people like you in this world - it would have been a better place!

Just had a 1 hour talk with her over the phone with the cameras on WhatsApp. She opened again, explained everything. So she met a new guy in the begining of January, even went on date with him, but didn't tell me. There was a few days in the begining of January where she didn't texted me in the nights (now I know why) and I have been wondering.. So, yeah. She didn't tell me about him to not hurt me, but the point is that her distancing from me, cancelling our plans to see each other hurt me most. She told me she needs time for herself and space from me, but I guess it was time to be with him.. It could have been way better if she told me, explain me and that's it. She told me that she also had feelings for me, that what we have, the feelings, emotions were real and it means more for her than some man. That she can't see herself with that guy after 5 months or a year, but she want me to be in her life if she thinks 10 years of time in the future, but as a friend of course.

Well, I know her flat, I have seen it on pictures/camera/videos many times. And there was also her hand (she has a tattoo and a two rings), so I am pretty sure.. The point is that she even today texted me this : "Hey, how are you? Hope you are okay." How could I be okay? She ignores my messages when I ask about what happened..

You speak with so much wisdom! I don't think she is a narcissist, but I can't explain her actions now. Because I would never tell someone something, make a promise, tell that I love them, will be there for them and then just pull away without explanation and anything. And I also would not be talking to another woman if I am talking with a woman in a love/romantic way and we want things to get serious.. But not anyone is the same, I understand that. I never want to say anything bad towards her, so I am sorry if here it seems like I want to make her looks bad. I just can't believe what happened and feel really bad and there isn't anyone that I can talk to. It feels like she was my closest person in these last 8 months (now 9) and now when I need her the most - she isn't here. Also, when I get to Bulgaria, tried to see her, she wasn't at home. But I was there for a week. She knew where I was, she didn't care.. 😞 And my gutt was telling me that there is someone else, because how could you change so suddenly then, but until yestarday I had some hopes that this is not the case..

Well, because yestarday she sended me pics of her gifts that for sure are from another man. I don't want or need to label her as a narcissist, I don't want and I will not say anything bad about her and I wish only happiness and the best for her! I just can't believe in what happened. You don't sound harsh, you speak the truth and I need to learn from all of this and be able to not get into that situation again in the future. But I explained that I had fiance before and she left me for another man before our wedding. It has been 6 years and I haven't felt anything towards anyone till this woman. 🙂 Maybe that's why I get caught in all of this. She and I were both lonely, she was having some mental problems, we talked and talked for months and she got better and then she started telling me how I helped her overcome those problems. How I make her happy, how I make her smile, how I make her days brighter and happy, how I am her everything and how I am her most important person. How grateful she is that I am in her life. How much she loves me, how much she wants to see me, hug me, kiss me. How we will be together forever and ever.. And at first I didn't had romantic feelings towards her, I just enjoyed talking with her and that I helped her. She also helped me to feel better tho. But after she started telling me all of this of course I fell in love with her.. I don't know if she meant trully all of this and what happened, but she became like and another person suddenly, distant and all of this so close before our meeting. And now I understand that there is another man..

Yes, I haven't blocked her and delated the messages/videos,pictures and everything.. 😞 I have her gifts too 😞 I know you are right and thank you for your reply! It means a lot for me! I have to find some strenght and try to move on, but she is on my mind. And sadly I don't think about how bad she treated me. I think about all the nice memories, when we talked, when we used to laugh together. I think about her promises of love, that we will be together in the future and for many, many years. She basically said till the end.. 😞 What hurts most is that I just can't believe how you can make promises, say words like this and in the same time be with another man.. Because when I told her that I have romantic feelings first, she was ok with it. She said she loves me too, she likes me as a man, but just doesn't want relationships right now. Our plans to see each other stayed, everything was ok in the next 2 weeks and the suddenly she said she doesn't feel the same (after months of showing me her love/attention/affection) and she needs time and space for herself and away from me. And now it seems it was she needed time for her new man.. For sure you are away more objective on this than me. I can't think straight now and I haven't even had a beer yet today. Just walking, feeling sick, bad, like I am some kind of a zombie.. But again, thank you for your words and advices, it means a lot from me and I will try to follow them!

You speak with so much wisdom and I know you are right in everything you said! I know what I should do to get better and move on, the point is that I can't do it now for sure.. Maybe in my case is different sadly. I haven't felt anything towards anyone in the last 6 years. Before I had a fiance, we lived together for 3 years, but she left me a few months before our wedding for another man.. So, I know this woman is basically a stranger to me, but she is from my country, I had plans to move back to my country and live there, so we could have make it. Everything seemed amazing, so true, but in the end I guess it wasn't mean to be .. 😞 The thing is that while she was talking with me and making promises about love/future and etc, she probably has been talking to other guys and now she is with someone esle, that's why she distanced herself from me and didn't wanted to see me. 😞 What I don't get it, how she could tell how much she loves me, how she can't wait to see me, how we will keep our friendship, love and romance in this year and many years to come and etc the day before she got distant..

We video chatted/talked over 100 times, yeah. She is real, of course. 36 year old, lives alone. We exchanged gifts for Christmas and everything. She never asked for money or other stuff. I couldn't fly to see her sooner, because of my work. I asked if she is a narcissist, because I read so many stuff the last days where someone make promises about love, telling you words like she told me and then suddenly, without explanation ghosts you, cancell plans for example and etc and I read that was something people who are narcissist do it.

I have posted two previous topics about my situation. I want to know if this is a narcisissit behaviour from her part and what I should do, how can I move on or get over her? So, I met a woman online, we started talking as friends and with the time there were so many flirts, nice, love words, gestures, suprises from both of us. So basically all developed into some romance. I don't know if I was love - bombed by her. She told me that I am her soulmate, her whole world, her most important person. That she loves me soo much. That she can't wait to see me, hug me, kiss me.. We talked everyday for 8 months, we exchanged gifts for Christmas. Then we talked about meeting in real life (as I live in different country now) and we agreed to see each other, we both were so happy and excited. I brought plain tickets, everything arranged and one week before that she suddenly stopped answering my messages and calls for a few days and then told me that she doesn't want to see me now, because I have different feeligns towards her as she has towards me. She told me she needs time and distance.. But before she told me so much how she loves me, she showed to me, she gave me so much attention, care, love - everything and then suddenly I am in love with her and she is not with me. For me she basically didn't gave me any explanation, because the other day before she got distant, she told me how much she loves me, how she can't wait to see me, how amazing time we will have together and then - BAM.. I never expected that, I was so shocked, hurt and just couldn't believe what happened. I started to think and assume so many possibilities. That she could be afraid of meeting in real life, or she could met someone else.. We didn't get to see each other, she didn't talked with me or texted me much for 3 weeks, then we talked over the phone yestarday. She didn't told me what happened, she told me she doesn't want to talk about this and etc. And we talked about how she was, what was happening in her life and etc. And today I just sent her a good morning message and Happy Valentine's day and she answered showing me pic of bouquet of roses and told me she has other stuff/gifts from someone. It hurts me so much, because the reality is that she found someone else I guess. But how can you talk to someone, make plans for meeting in real life, make promises about love and everything and in the same time meet another man, I can't believe that someone could do that. 😞 So she basically made me feel so loved, wanted, special. And it was amazing, but now it's the complete opposite. I feel like I am nothing, it hurts so much, I feel shattered, devasted and I don't know how to overcome all of this.. 😞 I know, we haven't even met in person, but I really feel that I love her, I would have done everything for her happiness and well being, I believed in all of her words, promises, her affection and love towards me.. But I guess she never really loved me..

Yes, I understand everything now.. The sad part is that I should have known better before. I think if I wasn't that emotional and etc, I could have stood a chance and meet her in real life. I mean because I need to control my emotions more, to not show that much affection, care and love to someone as you said without even seeing her in person.. It's just who I am and how I am.. And I believed that I found my soulmate.. I will try to act different in the future if there are other women for me.. But I know I am still hoping that this woman will come looking for me.. 😞

Yeah, I guess it could be like that.. I don't know. She is not a little girl tho, she is a 36 year woman now.. I think this could be why se is ghosting me now, because she feels bad how she treated me. I mean we agreed on everything I brought tickets and we talked about everything and suddenly this happened..

Well, I think she is not dating anyone, as she told me she doesn't want relationships. But it could be, of course. You are right in everything you said, I know it. I would give the same advice, but.. 😞 I guess we got so close with her, because we both were lonely at first, when we connected. But believe me, I lived with my ex girlfriend for 3 years and half and I didn't felt the same strong connection like that with this woman. And it wasn't only from my side, it all was coming from both sides, she showed me so much affection, caring and feelings (I know even tho only online, through the phones and cameras..) But a month ago came her present for me for Christmas, gift card. Saying how much she loves, how much she wants to make me smile and happy as I am making her.. How the most important thing from that year for her is that she met me. How we will have our friendship, love and romance in the years to come - this was her words.. And of course, I believed, because I felt all of this, but in my case I was sure and I was real.. I guess for her it wasn't like that, it was just words, I don't know.. I can't imagine to stop talking to someone who I let in my heart and how close we were, but I guess she can do it, as it seems.. I don't know.. I still have some hopes that she will miss me and start talking with me like before and that one day we will see each other, but.. If nothing changes, for sure it will hurt me a lot, but I know with the time I will get used to it. For now everyday I feel like sick, I don't feel like I have any strenght, desire to do anything and etc.. I am so sorry for everything, I know I sound really pathetic..

I don't know.. I guess I had some hopes that she will want to see me.. 😞 We started talking as a friends. She used to tell me about her crushes, I used to tell her about my ex's and etc. But in the last 4 months we started talking/flirting. There was only talks about us, about the future, about love, about kisses and hugs. No talking about anyone else anymore.. And that is when I fell for her.. She told me so many times how much she loves me, how I make her the happiest in the world.. So I guess if she did something with someone now it's normal that she doesn't want to tell me about it, of course I will be hurt by it. But I don't get that distancing part. I mean I care for her as a person and as a friend. If we can't be together as a couple, it's ok. I still want to be close to her, like we used to. But she doesn't show that she cares me for that much.. I don't know what she is doing now, how she is. I text her still, I mean one message a day, or in two days and she answers shortly after day or two.. It seems she just cutt me off.. And I am sitting here, thinking about her every minute, wondering if she is missing me, is she is thinking about me and etc..

Yeah, it feels like that. 😞 And I can't accept it, because I believed her so much.. But I know this is the sad truth. She knew that I came for her, that we agreed on everything.. She then knew where I was, she just doesn't cared and didn't had the desire to see me.. And I don't know what I can do now.. I mean I don't want to lose that person, as a person, as a friend, but.. I should feel betrayed, because she did this to me and hurt by her.. I mean I am hurt, but if only she start acting and talking like before and I will melt and would start making plans to see her again..

Yes, it is the same woman... I never wanted to bother her, to make her uncomfortable or something like that.. I wanted to make her smile, to make her happy. I wanted to see her happy and well. It's always been about that and I know how happy she was talking with me in the last months, but what happened now I don't know..