littlesoulme

I can feel your experience......it is soo sad that she is not valuing or giving enough attention to you. If she has a kid may be her priority will be on that kid and her well-being. Anyway, my opinion about this. If you are looking for a future in this relationship, idk how much it is worth. Relationships should be mutual and respectful. How long only one person can push ?? Take your time and think about all aspects. Take a wise decision Don't worry things will be alright, you will find the answer 🙂

Can you please mention what kind of therapy you are suggesting?

Unable to choose the life partner I am a 28-year-old female. My story begins in my bachelor days. I met a guy in the final year of my college, and we were in a holy relationship. Each day I dreamed of a family life with him, and he was the ideal person in my dreams. We dated and were in a relationship for almost one year. Meanwhile, I had seen a few unmatched behaviours in his character, which I hadn't seen when we were friends. He was arrogant and toxic. Slowly I realised that he has a narcist nature inherited from his family. He has a terribly broken family history, and his dad is also the same as this and treats his mom in a toxic way. But in the meantime, I suffered from victim syndrome and could not move on from Him. We can call him Steve. Some, how I managed to come out. It took almost six years to decide to accept someone and married to him. He was a friend and witnessed all the ups and downs that happened in my life. One of my fried. We can call him Jermi. I have known Jermi as a friend for five years, and he has been interested in me from the beginning; he is a normal guy typically living in his comfort zone. Not many high dreams or ambitions in life. Typical normie. I married him, and I thought it would work great. But my bad luck, I could not love him because I never felt he was not giving any effort into me after the marriage. The truth is he was not my type. We fought and argued, but I was unable to find the cause. I don't even feel any physical intimacy with him. Lots of things happened in between. I tried to fix it, but I couldn't. All these years, I completed my master's and joined for my PhD. After all the efforts and silence, we filed for divorce. At my Masters's level, I found my soul mate friend. Like my family, I can discuss everything that happened in my daily life, and he is non-judgmental. He values, respects, cares for, and loves me. The ideal person, josh, is a husband type, a family man. He was ready to accept me with all the good and bad in me. But the problem is, I realized that I still have not overcome Steve. All the sexual fantasies, love, lust, everything I'm feeling only with that guy. At one point, when I was lonely, I unblocked his contact and started talking. I couldn't resist him. But josh is a good person, and I don't want to cheat him. But still, one part of me is craving for Steve. At the same time, Jermi is coming back and asking for one more chance and making more efforts to save the marriage. Whom do I have to choose? Jermi, josh, Steve