texami
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agreed, Dako. you seem to hold a picture of her after years of this relationship that doesn't seem like it will change. you've got to face facts and move on if you are this unhappy.
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sorry about what you are going through. but, you sound very very angry, and you are looking for a convienient excuse to justify wanting to be with another woman. if you are the one who is so fulfilled, successful, etc... don't ruin your life or your reputation by cheating. no matter how bad you percieve her treatment, you will forever go down as the one who cheated. others have stated this fact, too. get out of your marriage if that is what must be, but don't cheat. i saw my inlaws go through this... she had her problems, and i wouldn't have blamed him for wanting a divorce, but he cheated. now he is the one on the outside of the family and he is the one growing old without knowing his grandchildren because what he did was cowardly and we lost all respect. just don't let your anger and frustration make it ok for you to do something that will mar your character forever.
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keep it up, broken7!! i've just read your thread, and i'm thinking you're a strong chic! don't dwell on the other girl... as you said, she'll be in your shoes soon enough. best of luck.
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yeah, i know it's a side-effect and not an effect... if that makes sense. i guess it was just more surprising than anything!! i hadn't felt those particular sensations since the 90's. i'm sure it will wear off as things equilibrate in my brain. man, its still so weird that i'm even doing this... it's my first time on any kind of drugs for this. i'm just hoping that none of these horror stories comes true. i'm sick of feeling blah and not into life, so i really hope this helps. thanks applepie.
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I'm bringing up this old thread because I just started Lexapro yesterday. To the OP... I felt a similar, although smaller, euphoric buzz you mentioned a little while after i took the first one. I've read some other accounts where people even compare it to ecstasy, and i can agree with that. there was some elements of clenching teeth and a small speed buzz for me. it all went away after a while and i was able to sleep fine last night. today is the second day, and i am feeling somewhat the same... just a slight buzz that feels kind of like a super-duper low dose of speed or x. so, i also just wanted to get anyone's opinion/story about lexapro specifically. i got it for depression, but i also have some anxiety issues. i read a thread called "antidepressants and cheating/lying" and that wasn't easy to read... pretty scary stuff. any experiences are appriciated.
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I'm about to Resign from my job: Advice?
texami replied to LostInMyThoughts's topic in Career, Money and Education
what about being in a position to use them as a reference or something? as a person doing my own start-up, i have had to use so many of my old resources/contacts to get things done... i was glad that i left my old jobs on good terms so they were more likely to help out. think of it as feeling good for a week vs. possibly loosing a valuable resource... even if you can't see your paths crossing again right now, you never know! and GOOD LUCK with the new job! -
agreed, Scout. you pretty much have to remove things that he should never touch. He just can't exercise that level of control yet... he doesn't do things with malice or forethought, which is why the concept of "punishment" isn't really applicable. the repetition of teaching him what he can and can't do through this age and as he gets a bit older are the foundations for discipline. just my two cents, but i think you are right about not wanting to spank. the anger issue regarding your husband is right... you should never spank to make YOUR anger lessen. at that age all you really say with spankings are "I'm bigger and I can hurt you". he doesn't have the knowledge to put it together that spanking is meant to be a punishment. again, just my two cents.
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i didn't really touch on the discipline part, did i??!! well, chickadee mentioned some good things... 2 is just a hard age because they don't have a good grasp on being punished yet, but they do have lots of power to push your buttons! he is looking for attention... but unfortunately his life has changed with the baby. my girl was older, and i think she handled it ok, but she was never one of those "push the envelope" kids. my boy, on the other hand, would be just like your oldest!! unfortunately they are a handful. i think if you felt better inside... worked out the anger or possible depression issues... you would be able to deal with him so that it wouldn't send you over the edge each time. i know that for me lots of things depend on my mood... i am better with them and they act better when i am in a good place. best of luck!
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hi donna, sorry you're feeling this way. I can relate, at least with the anger part! my kids are two years apart and still young... 4&6. i think that maybe what you're feeling could be related to depression because i am starting to think that about myself. i also get really pissed off at the kids and way over-react sometimes with how angry i feel. this didn't happen to me post-partum, but i do have other signs of depression now that i'm just starting to realize. do you have a little help dealing with your boys? any chance of some free time? sometimes the constant "togetherness" fuels my feelings... i just can't stand anything they do when i've been with them constantly for days at a time. also, though, i would immediately talk to your doctor about your feelings. i'm glad you are examining them and want to relieve your anger. anger can be associated with depression... and that aspect of it is what is making me look into myself. best of luck, and keep posting if what i say doesn't match with your situation... there are lots of great people here!!
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raykay, they're not that easy to find here, but i get them on purpose when i find them. i tend to think that in moderation... even once a day... isn't a big deal if you're healthy. soda of any kind isn't meant to be our only food! all the studies are generally with huge amounts of whatever they are studying, be it artifical sweetner or sugar, so that scientists can get an idea of the possible effects. i'm gettin thirsty.
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Diet coke does come in a Splenda variety... its a yellow emblem on the can... I get it at the grocery store.
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so, there's no way that during counselling you could question one of her "fibs" in front of the therapist? maybe a polite challenge to her story would bring some of her anger into the room and s/he could witness it and question her about what she's saying? counselling is a process, and if the same patterns repeat the counsellor will get only that view of you and your wife. what about individual counselling with just you? when i went thru counselling with my hub, we each did solo with our therapist so that we could say things that maybe we still couldn't tell each other. then, when we were all together the counsellor could bring it up.
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Appropriate To Mention During an Interview?
texami replied to Hope75's topic in Career, Money and Education
Yeah, it isn't rude to say "give me a day to think it over". A major decision like that... they can give you a little bit of time to be sure. And you can probably say it without mentioning the other offers. GOOD LUCK!!! -
RS, I just wanted to say that I noticed this thread was over 2 years old... a reply to your questions might not come.
