experiment: 5 - 10 words to describe your feelings

[heyduh]

i'd like you to post 5 to 10 words (non explicitives .. hehe) that describe your feelings towards the ex from your last relationship ... and be sure to mention your sex and whether you are a dumpee or dumper (I doubt we have many dumpers here, but just in case we do ... please mention it)

 

i'm a quickly reforming male dumpee .. hehe and these are my feelings towards her in no particular order:

 

betrayal

longing

anger

confusion

hope

jealousy

denial

vengeance (ouch!)

bittersweet

resignation

[Closure]

Indifferent

Pity

Happy

Couldn't

Give

A

Expletive

 

Male, Dumpee

[majord23]

Male, dumpee:

 

Lingering, but not strong:

Betrayal

Anger

 

Overall:

Fondness

Satisfaction

Acceptance.

[HealingHandsWarmHeart]

Female Dumper (ex fiance)

 

Alcoholic

liar

manipulator

warm

funny

alone

scared

weak

lost

unknowing

[Lealing]

Female dumpee:

 

Emptiness

Longing

Lonely

Sad

Hopeless

[Sad_now]

Female/er..dunno...dumpee who initiated the dumping (made him admit there was no point going on like this as he was just having his cake and eating it)

 

Humiliated

Hurt

Panicky

Degraded

Stunned

Lonely

Free

[shes2smart]

female, dumper

 

pity

amusement (at his actions)

disgust (at his actions)

disbelief (what the heck was I doing with him?!)

but mostly....indifference

[blackberry]

male, dumpee

 

forgiving

forgetting

progressing

healing

determined

to

do

it

for

me

[Boughtandpaidfor]

male dumper.

 

It

would

have

been

braver

to

dump

before

I

left

[rose2summer]

Female, Unsure of whether dumper/dumpee, probably a bit of both

 

1. Elated (happy to be free)

2. Grateful (every relationship is a learning experience and I am not sure had I not entered this one, would I have been exposed to what I really don't want in a man)

3. Thankful (for all the help he provided medically for my family)

4. Apathetic (lost romantic feelings towards him)

5. Renewed (new outlook on getting what I want out of life)

 

All in all, a relationship may be successful or it may not, but at least I gave it my best shot and I gave him more than enough chances, and I learned a great deal from him about life, and about how I must be very selective who I marry, and what qualities a man can have that don't deviate from what I want. For the most part, it was a good learning experience.

[Cassie]

Female, dumper.

 

I feel heartbroken, hurt, angry and betrayed. But I like Rose2Summer's response. It reminds me why we are each here on this earth; ultimately, to learn. I want to try to take the good out of this experience and move on with a brighter, more mature outlook.

[coollady1957]

i'd like you to post 5 to 10 words (non explicitives .. hehe) that describe your feelings towards the ex from your last relationship ...

 

 

I am female and, I am the dumper because he was lying and cheating on me.

 

 

The words describe my feelings toward him are:

 

Digust, Sickening, Moron, Good Riddance

[renaissancewoman101]

Female, dumpee (although I lost my feelings for my ex and pulled away from him causing him to dump me).

 

1. thankful (for him showing me what it is like to have someone care about me and be in a relationship with me).

 

2. wistfulness (part of me misses him)

 

3. wonder (I wonder how he's doing. I heard that the girl he dumped me for eventually dumped him).

 

4. fondness (if I saw him now, I would have no bad feelings about him. We were just NOT compatible)

[MyTeddyBear]

Sad

Heartbroken

Confused

Abandoned

Angry

Love

 

Female dumpee/dumper

[locolady]

female, dumped him when found he had cheated....but effectively dumped as it was the last thing on earth i ever wanted to do!

 

Negative:

Gutted

Betrayed

disappointed

Sad

Hopelessly lost

Cynical

 

Positive:

Grateful for the good times

I cant think of any others - oh dear!

 

a lingering sense of loving him that is both painful and occasionally fond.

[Dako]

Dumpee

 

Shock

Understanding

Forgiveness

Acceptance

Grief

Concern

Gratitude

[Scout]

female, dumpee (and had it coming)

 

Positives:

Grateful (for the experience of the best relationship I've had to date)

Empathy

Love

 

Negatives:

loss

void

regret

[lunatic]

I will do my last long term relationship.

 

Male Dumpee

 

Disgust (at her and how she could bring another man into her home so quickly (2 weeks later he moved into my apartment) when she has little children)

 

angst(I am still sore at what she did to me)

 

Jealousy (she left me with $30,000 in debt and 10 months later she inherits over $750,000)

 

Anger(She never paid me off or even offered to help me. She threated me with legal action that I could not afford if I persued the money she owed me)

 

happiness(I am no longer with her)

[SeaBisquit]

Female dumper-dumpee (mutual breakup)

 

fustrated (don't understand what happened)

confused (we never actually said we are brokeup)

betrayed (can't believe he did what he did)

[laboheme]

Female dumpee

 

- Regret (I took our relationship for granted)

- Awe (how did he put up with me for so long???)

- Disgust (with my own behavior, not his!)

- Warmth and comfort

- Teamwork (together, we could do anything...except actually stay together )

- Self-esteem (he did not make me feel worthless when he called things off!)

- Hope (I'm making changes...maybe one day he'll see them.)

[desertnomad]

disappointed

heartbroken

lyed to

cheated on

unloved

anger

waste of time

anger (toward myself for my own mistakes)

sadness

 

male dumpee

[lunatic]

disappointed

heartbroken

lyed to

cheated on

unloved

anger

waste of time

anger

sadness

 

male dumpee

 

WOW you listed anger twice! I hope that was on purpose!

[desertnomad]

well anger towards her and anger towards myself for my mistakes and being so blind to her distance from me emotionally, setting myself up for a big breakup

[lunatic]

Ok now that makes more sense. Thats why when I posted mine I explained why I felt that way and the reasons why.

[The Crying Pony]

Female, got chucked away like a neon mesh top!

 

Longing

embarrassment

Jealousy

Anxiety

Depression

Disgust

Betrayal

 

How many? Can we give a hundred?

 

But also:

 

Freedom

Hope

Healing

Time to get my sexy on!