MyTeddyBear
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My ex called me last night...3 weeks NC gone to crap
MyTeddyBear replied to MyTeddyBear's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Actually he is 38 years old. One thing I've learned: Never judge a man by his age. It's interesting when it comes down to brass tacks, an individuals TRUE colors shine through. -
My situation may be a little different from a lot of people on here. breakup story 168681&highlight=myteddybear[/url] I am currently 18 weeks pregnant with our child. He was wishy washy in the beginning when I first told him. Then, after a few weeks past he seemed accepting of the decision to keep the baby. Then, 4 weeks ago he basically told me, he didn’t want this. He couldn’t do it. He didn’t want the relationship... blah blah blah..... I wrote an email 3 weeks ago, saying that I was done. I needed to be on my own. And he needed to be OUT of my life. I wasn’t mean in the email, just straightforward and honest. At that point I had enough stress from this man. Ok, he started calling last week, but I never picked up the phone. He left messages sounding totally distraught. I felt bad, but I knew what I was doing was right for ME. He called last night, I didn’t pick up. Then he called again. I picked up. He seemed shocked and his voice was shaky. All he said was that, he needed to hear my voice and then asked, “ are you still talking with me”. What? Duhhhh! Did he read my email? Then he asked if my belly was getting bigger and how I was feeling. He cut the conversation short and said he will call this week. I said “ok”. Honestly, I didn’t have time to think about anything. now I am really upset at myself. Because all day long I’ve been thinking about what it would be like being back with him. These past weeks I was getting used to the idea of doing this alone and accepting that I will do this alone. Now, i feel like I'm waiting for that call again. I’m back at square one and it feels really bad.
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not always- mine came back then left again.
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Considering breaking off the engagement
MyTeddyBear replied to Tom_Bombadil's topic in Breaking Up Advice
omg! wow... one word "shallow". i'd never marry someone like this. i think u know the answer..... -
Yes, thankfully. Everyone says I'm better off.... I don't feel better off.
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He said, he thought it might be best if he were no part of his child's life. but i don't think he was convinced of this. He seemed upset when I said no contact. Then I told him, you said you didn't want any part of this. I'm not sure ... but right now I can't speak to him or see him.
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My boyfriend and I ended our two year relationship this weekend. Yes, we broke up before, but this was different. We were different. A little of the back story: I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and he wasn’t happy with it at first, then he seemed to accept it. Then a week and half ago he decided, he couldn’t do this. He said, he just can’t. His doubts were so strong about himself and our relationship... He didn’t want me like “that”. His love wasn’t strong enough to do this. That was painful to hear. There are more details, but at this point it just doesn’t matter. It was a heartbreaking break up. He cried like I have never seen. I felt and still feel like a thousand knives in my heart. Here I am, pregnant with his child... alone... brokenhearted. My friend gone. I wasn't what he really wanted and he wasn't what I really needed. If only we would have communicated better and used or minds instead of our hearts. I did tell him in no uncertain terms, there is NO contact. He didn’t like this. But he understood. I’m trying to get some perspective on this situation, but I can’t seem to. Where do I start? I am really lost.
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Congratulations! And I'm so sorry you have to go through this crap. Sounds like you have great support from your family. Just love that baby... that is all that REALLY matters.
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Me... I'm due August 11th. In the beginning I wasn't too happy about it. Now, I am really looking forward to seeing my sweet baby. CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL
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This man isn't a kid, he is almost 38 years old. I think he's afraid that this child will take away this precious freedom and lifestyle. It's funny because for the past two years our relationship have been his focus. He was so “in love”. Riiiiight. Sorry, but I’m a little bitter about “love”. My focus is about this baby now. I can't wait to see him or her. Thanks everyone for your support
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A little of the back story I decided to keep the pregnancy. He was very upset at first and we didn’t talk for two weeks. He finally called me up and said he was sorry and he that overacted. He said, he was just scared. We got back together. He went to my first doctor appointment. He was seemed very interested. I smoked and he wanted to make sure I had stopped. I did. He spoke with the Dr and asked about certain tests. He was great. Loving and very kind to me. We talked about money and were starting to make plans. We were going to move into together and he seem overwhelmed with the enormity of the project but pretty positive. He even talked about marriage many times. I was finally feeling a little relief and I was relaxing with the pregnancy. I was happy. I felt very loved... Well, last Wednesday he finally told his parents. After he told them, he got very weird on me. He called me and said, he wasn’t ready for this, it’s just not right. I can’t do this... and so on and so on.... Basically the same things he said before. He said, I should have had an abortion. I was so pissed! Not this again! After that phone call, I avoided him when he’d call. Then, Sunday he called and I answered. The first freaking question out of his mouth was “is it still possible to have an abortion?” I am 14 weeks along. I said NO it isn’t. The phone called went totally down hill. He said, because I decided to keep this baby... then I’m on my own so to speak. He said, "why should I do something I don't want". I told him I am done with his crap. after going back and forth for over an hour, I hung up the phone. Why did he do this? Is he psychotic? I will not take him back. He had so many chances. I am so moving on.... Thank God I have the support of family and friends. Thanks for listening ....
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Thanks for your advice. Yes, if I knew then what I know now about this guy I would have never dated him. We've been together for about two years. I met him here in america he was originally from Europe.. In the beginning of our relationship he had to go back( to europe) and we thought we’d never see each other again. Within a few month he got a job here in the states. He took the job for so we could be close and start having a life together. There was no doubt in my mind this guy was totally serious about us. But as time went on he didn’t like his job so much and didn’t like the lonely nights. He started smoking more and more, because he was lonely and bored. Anyway, we could only see each other on the weekend or days off of work. So it was really tough. He gave up and broke up with me in September. I was devastated, but I accepted it, because I thought maybe he was right. Maybe he wasn’t the man I needed in my life. Well, 3 weeks later he called to tell me he couldn’t live without me. We got back together. 2 months later I got pregnant (while on BC). He freaked out. I know this man loved me. He’s actions proved it (moving here). He didn't have to do this. He had a good life where he was. But he wanted to be together. It's all he would talk about... Right now, he is in Europe for Christmas, and I told he I just can’t speak to him now. Every time we’d talk about the situation, he’d just upset me. I need some time to really think. He did say, if I did have the baby, he'd stay here. He said, "I'll do the right thing". I don't want to be a duty. It should out of love. And I don't see that. I don't know what will happen. I know he's thinking about this. It's burning in his head. I hope for him that he gets he's head clear.
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I agree. He needs some serious therapy to see the light. I only wish he'd take the necessary steps to change his life.
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Yes, indeed. There is only so much I can take. I still don't know what I will do with the pregancy. That is really the only thing I'm thinking about. Toughest situation ever.
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I broke up with him.