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  1. Still struggling with this, eh? What do you think is holding you back?
  2. Sad poem. Sorry you're still feeling this way about friends...I remember back in April some of us encouraged you to try some new ways of perceiving this: What do you think? Are you still a bit nervous about taking some risks in order to find some kindred spirits, and learn to connect with them? It's definitely not an impossible feat.
  3. Apology accepted. And it's not so much that Christmas is a sensitive topic for me, but you once told me on another thread I was arguing morals which was moot. So, it's the being told what I'm saying is moot is the sensitive topic.
  4. Hey, Eva? Maybe to you it's moot, but not to me. Maybe to you it's nothing to get upset over, but not to me. Your opinion is just that - not an almighty edict. You could really afford to be a little less dismissive of opinions other than your own.
  5. I agree with what you're saying, DN...however, do you have any advice on how she should state it to him so that he seriously addresses the issue/gives it thought? I just ask because my sense is that this is a subject she's brought up time and time again with him, and she may need to do it in a specific way this time that doesn't put him on the defense. So that he'll give her a carefully considered answer.
  6. My due date has changed, I was a week further along than they originally thought. So now it's September 23rd!
  7. Awww...I appreciate that. I just want you and Riley to be happy and safe. And I do know what you mean about dogs knowing who's got the soft heart. I have a dog that is pretty stubborn. But you know, as long as he listens to me on the important stuff...like "get away from the road!"...I can let some of the little things slide. Does your boyfriend display any affection whatsoever now to Riley? Any warmth or tenderness? Or is he just a scary authority figure to him?
  8. Hi, Summergirl...thanks so much for updating us! I was concerned all of our posts might have scared you off. I am really proud that you stood up for Riley, and I hope your boyfriend feels remorse for his previous behavior. And hasn't exhibited it again. What kind of training are you using with Riley?
  9. Yeah, I'd get a second opinion. These are the first doctors who let your condition get so out of hand, right?
  10. BTR, did they explain how breastfeeding again will help you heal? Obviously, I'm not a doctor, but...breastfeeding is what caused all this to begin with, and you still have some issues with your breasts. Isn't there a good chance that taking up breastfeeding could aggravate things again?
  11. I heartily second that. It is a day and age when we really have to advocate for ourselves whenever we seek medical attention. You're going through a terribly rough tme right now, BTR, but this too shall pass. It's redundant to even say this, but you know you have our unwavering support and positive thoughts, 24/7. Hang in there, girl...it's almost over!
  12. Yes, they probably are going to give you some anasthesia, that's usually why they request you don't eat or drink anything. It's going to be ok, hon. Let us know when you get back, if you feel up to it, how everything went. ((HUGS))
  13. BTR, can you call around to some different doctors' offices? Explain your experience so far, and find out if one of them can treat you with alacrity, dignity, and caring. And with something for the pain.
  14. Insist that they give you something! Explain that you are in intense pain, for goodness sake.
  15. BTR, you and your little one are in our thoughts. I am so glad that relief is finally on the way for you. ((HUGS))
  16. BTR, I would go to the ER now. It sounds like you have a serious infection. Why risk it and wait? Just go.
  17. I'm at just about 12 weeks, and I'm definitely showing. I gained ten pounds in my first trimester, which is just about up. And I can only fit in one pair of jeans now. It's depressing!!!
  18. If you want to have a rational debate, I'm more than willing. But don't put words in my mouth I didn't say/write. What I did write was that some studies have indicated the majority of women in porn had been sexually molested. Actually, you are being quite judgemental about my opinions because you don't happen to agree with them.
  19. I suspect some of you males who are defending porn the most vigorously either have difficulty getting sex from live women (and I can honestly see why based on some of your posts), or you have a real addiction at this point you're subconsciously defending. Sound harsh? Well, go back and look over some of your own posts, where you imply if women gave it up more, men wouldn't have to resort to porn. Of course, you also argue that the "male mind" is different than the female mind. I call BS on both those arguments. Not every male looks at porn, in fact, a lot don't. And anyone who has been on eNotalone for any length of time can attest that there are numerous threads up from women who are upset that their boyfriends/husbands are into porn, and don't understand why when they have a willing, live woman who is right there! As for the females on here who also express the view that no one is being exploited or damaged by the porn industry, I suggest you read a book called link removed It talks about how females today are undermining the feminist movement to banish limiting stereotypes on women, and it also provides a very compelling read on the effects of today's hyperly sexualized, pornographic "ideal" on impressionable young girls. And I am still waiting to hear from the males how you would feel if your partner chose to masturbate to images of strange men two or three times a week. But I will admit this in advance: I will seriously have a hard time believing you if you say it wouldn't make you feel the least bit confused or disconcerted or insecure!
  20. This question does seem to leave open a discussion about what does/doesn't constitute cheating. And I believe that there are instances of non-physical cheating. For example, if I had a partner who spent considerable time confiding in another woman every day, and went out with her at least once a week, I would certainly feel "cheated" - cheated out of emotional intimacy that could be used for the betterment of our own relationship. I would definitely feel cheated out of the energy and effort he was putting into this "friendship" with another woman.
  21. Actually, while you referenced jealousy among other things, you didn't really give one specific topic for us to discuss. You asked what all the fuss was about, and my interpretation was that you were asking what people did or did not find wrong with porn. The main thing I find wrong with it is the industry behind it. However, I also believe it can become an addiction, and I've seen a lot of instances on eNotalone where it was tearing apart relationships. I guess I'm just repeating myself at this point, though, so I'll stop, as I've said my piece.
  22. Applause, applause, applause! Paisley, this is one of the most compelling reads I've ever seen on here, and in my opinion, exposes everything that is wrong about the porn industry. THANK YOU.
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