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  1. Lealing
    I think that the rebound period is different for everyone. It all depends is you have gotten over your ex. If you are still in love with your ex and hoping to get back to together with him/her and then enter another relationship you would be in a rebound relationship. Also you should distinguish just dating from entering into a proper relationship. I guess if you haven't completely healed from your previous relationship it would help dating difference people to heal yourself but it wouldn't be wise to enter into another full blown relationship. It has been 9 months since my ex broke off our relationship but I still don't feel ready to go on a date or to enter into a relationship with anyone else. But then again there are people who have healed from their previous relationship in much shorter time. I suppose it all depends if you have healed or not.
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    Hi nilli, I'm not sure what to advise really. If he doesn't know what he really wants out of the relationship, I don't think that you should have any physical relatioship with him as it will only make your feelings for him deepen and then you could be hanging on to false hope. With a previous ex, continued having a physical relationship with him after we broke up and then got really hurt when he decided that we weren't going to continue the relationship. I got really hurt by this and cried for ages. Maybe you should just keep the "relationship" simple and just go out on dates with him without having any physical realtionship with him. If he kisses you then maybe you should tell him it's not a good idea as he doesn't know what he wants from the relationship and that you want more than just friendship. Perhaps just go with the flow and see how the relationship turns out. I know that I wouldn't give up hope if there is a chance that I could get back together again with my ex. Good luck! Lealing
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    Hi Nilli, Glad to hear that you had a good time the other evening with your ex. However, should you be kissing him and having any sort of physical intimacy with him when you are not officially a couple. Looks like he is using you. I would refuse to have any physical relationship with him unless he is able to commit to you. Lealing
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    It's difficult to say really. Either she decides that after a couple of months she is better off without you or she might miss you loads during your two months apart and decide she might want to get back together with you.
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    Just spoke to a friend who I haven't heard from in a long time. She broke up with her bf 6 years ago and got back together with him last year and is now planning to get married with him next year. So some people manage to make it work but 6 years is a very long time to be apart. My friend said that she had NC with her bf for 4 years and they carried on with their lives. She dated other guys in the meantime.
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    I think that LC is Low contact although I have seen someone refer to it as lingering contact. Sorry, I don't know what FC is. Yes, it's a good idea that you wait for a coupleof months and give your ex some space that she asked for. Good luck.
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    I think that it is too soon (after two weeks) for you to be asking your ex whether you can get back together again. I think that you should be giving her some space. She knows that you want to get back together again so it's no use repeating this to her. It will just make you sound clingy and needy. She'll let you know whether she wants to get back with you when she's ready.
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    She already knows how you feel about the situation. So repeating it isn't going to help. She's told you to leave her alone for the next two months so I would respect her wishes and give her some space and time to reflect about what she wants out of the relationship. If after two months NC she decides that she wants you back she'll let you know. If she decides that she doesn't want you back then you have to let go and move on with your life.
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    I think that you should respect her wishes and give her some space. The more you crowd her the more she's going to back off. It's difficult to say whether you will get back together after two months. The decision is for her to make. In any case after two months you might not want to get back together with her. I would continue living your life and not put too much hope of a reconciliation in two months time.
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    Yeah, I wouldn't contact him until he contacts you first. Don't give him any pressure. Keep it light and casual as though you don't really care if you are going out with him tomorrow. My ex is off work for two weeks now. I keep logging onto to MSN to see if he is online but he's not. Now I am obsesssing about whether he has met someone new and has perhaps gone on holiday with her. I must stop obsessing. It's not good for me. I ended up texting him yesterday but didn't get a reply.
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    Sorry to hear that you are not feeling good. We all have our down days but we also have better days. Sounds like it would be better if you move on and not linger since this is already the third time you have split up. I know it's hard to move on but I think that it will get better as time goes by.
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    Female dumpee: Emptiness Longing Lonely Sad Hopeless
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    Same here. I feel miserable when I have NC with my ex. I also end up wondering all the time what he's been up to. With my LC I don't ask too many questions. I don't ask if he has a new gf or is dating. What I don't know won't hurt me. There's nothing wrong with you staying online if that's what you want to do. However, there's also nothing wrong with you staying offline. Just because you used to be online, it doesn't mean that you have to do that now aswell. I've been terrible all day today, checking up to see if my ex is online. It's driving me mad. I must stop obsessing.
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    I would just send a brief text saying that you are fine and ask how she is. Keep it simple.
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    I don't see anything wrong with sending him a quick message on MSN just asking how he is. I know other people have suggested NC with an ex. I myself am not doing NC with the ex but am doing LC with him in that I only reply to an email when he emails me first. And if I see that he is online on MSN (which is not very often) I just send a little message asking how he is. But it's really up to you and how you feel. I know that I would feel miserable if I had NC with the ex.
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