Anonymous07 Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 Hello, I need some advice, I turned 24 yesterday and my boyfriend is 22 (23 in January) I’m worried that I am too old for him and that it’s odd that I’m older as normally the guy is the older that the girl in the relationship, we haven’t been together long so I’m worried that his parents might think a 24 year old is too old for their 22 year old son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 It's only 2 years, OP. You're stressing over nothing. My last long-term ex was 2 years younger that me. We were 23 and 21 when we met, and we were together for 8 years. The slight age difference was barely noticeable, and not a factor in our eventual split. My brother's girlfriend is 16 years older than him. That is a sizable gap, but they've been happy together for 3 years. Once people got over the initial surprise at their age difference, nobody thought anything differently about either of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Billie28 Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 Why are you worried about what his parents think? Have you met them? If not are there any plans to meet them? It sounds more like you are the one worried? Why? Do you think he is too immature for you? When did you meet him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SherrySher Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 No...you're a good age. I am 2 years older than my husband and it makes no difference. Don't worry about it at all. I also have a son and if a girl dated him that was 2 years older, it wouldn't be a big deal at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 I would hardly call 2 years an age gap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hollyj Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 What age gap! Ten + years is an age gap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 2 years is not an age gap. I am almost 3 years older than my husband. We met when he had just turned 20 and I was 22 1/2. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrina Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 The only time 2 years might be too big of an age gap is in the teen years. Beyond that, 2 years is nothing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 What does he think? Does he think his parents would object? I’m worried that his parents might think a 24 year old is too old for their 22 year old son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 Not a good sign if you're digging up reasons to question things. If you don't want to date a "younger" guy, then don't date a younger guy. I've known women who wouldn't date someone younger on principle. Didn't matter if she was 5 years older or 5 weeks. Kind of a strange flex, but it's not my life. Still, that doesn't give you license to project your misgivings on him or his parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melancholy123 Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 I'm 13 months older than my husband. So what? It doesn't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smackie9 Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 lol my husband was 20 and I was 26....30 years later, still together. It's not about what's on the driver's license but more so what's up stairs, maturity wise. Did we get picked on about the age difference? sure I was robbing the cradle as they were all saying lol Did it matter? no, it was never an issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose Mosse Posted June 29, 2020 Share Posted June 29, 2020 Is this a conservative community? I can see your concerns if so. I dated someone younger once and the family back then was in an uproar. Half of them couldn't stomach it and half chose not to care. You may be influenced by comments of those closest to you and societal norms. I'm gauging it's more offhand comments than anything that are getting to you. Maybe slow down with the questioning and get back to why you're in a relationship with this person. Early twenties is a time for massive and exponential growth. You may be finding the two years sometimes feels like ten years instead especially if you've already graduated and he hasn't from university or you're working and he isn't. There are a lot of firsts that you're both not experiencing at the same time but put things in perspective. It may be your ages right now and not so much the gap itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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