Laluna14 Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I met someone from Tinder back in mid-December for a coffee meeting. We had a great conversation. He seemed to have quite a bit of substance and a good sense of humour. I thought that we connected well but that day I was leaving for two weeks for Christmas holidays. I kind of figured that I wouldn't hear from him again but he kept up the communication on Tinder while I was away. The pattern seems to be that he will answer every couple of days. He will never respond right away but, at least he is consistent and does follow up and respond and also his posts are lengthy. So when I came back at the beginning of January I asked him if he wanted to meet up and he said yes, definitely. Well that was now a month and a half ago. He says he is really busy as he is a teacher and also tutors on weekends. I've asked him about meeting up twice now and he keeps saying, he wants to and promises that it will be soon but then days go by. I also think it's strange that we just keep talking on Tinder and have never exchanged phone numbers. I was really interested in getting to know him but I'm tired of playing the Tinder texting game, waiting to get a response from him and then it's just like this never ending conversation that never leads to him asking me to meet up in person. I enjoy talking to him and I don't want to turn him away but I also feel like maybe he is bread crumbing me? I understand being busy, because I am extremely busy with work and school but I would think he could carve out some time to meet me in a month and a half. I see this continuing like this, so I said I would not ask him to meet up again but I figure at this rate we never will if I leave the ball in his court. I am wondering if I should just stop the contact with him. Or should I just continue the way we are and enjoy having a Tinder pen pal while continuing to look for someone that actually wants to spend time with me? Or should I be straight up and tell him how I'm feeling. I have a feeling if I do that it will drive him away but he certainly doesn't seem in any hurry to meet me anyway... Any advice is much appreciated. I am feeling anxious about this and just want it to resolve, I'm tired of this hanging over my head, I guess because I really am quite interested in him and having it go nowhere is frustrating. Link to comment
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