sandyv

I coudn't agree more!

Hi, I know that feeling (wishing the ex didn't exist any longer), I live three blocks from my ex, we have mutual friends... and it was a horrendous breakup as well. But I do my best to just look through him, that happened this past weekend. We both have a favorite pub and he seems to think he has more right to be there than I, it seems. When he came into the pub, I was there, so he just stood there and stared me down for about 3 minutes giving me the death glare for about 2 full minutes. Well screw him, I'll go where I choose, he can kiss my f.......g cookies!

My ex had ADD. He was also very hyper and it also seemed to me he'd get mad at the drop of a hat. He also would also (very often) say things out of the blue that would startle and upset me. Is this a common symptom? - or could that be something else. I ran into him accidently in the bar last night, he just stood in the doorway staring at me for a few minutes and left....... I'd be willing to pay big cash for what was going through his mind..............

Hi there Jordan5571, your post was very insightful, also you made some points I hadn't considered. I initially did come here in search of problems similar to mine, (being dumped heartlessly) and found many here in the same boat... mine which was sinking desparately. I'm hurting but finding much solace here, people are kind, and you are such a sweet guy I foresee you finding a beautiful (inside and out) girl some day...... probably not long from now either.... anyways take care

Hi, I have earlier posts about my ex bf who seemed to vanish....(he had relapsed to his ex....) he has sole custody of his kids, which he has lost custody of,(apparently temporarily), because of his ex's allegations just so you can understand (maybe better than me and my confusion).. only to come back.... stupid me to allow that to happen and then with no explanation whatsoever to once again to go back with his bipolar ex of 3 years ago. This occurred 2 weeks ago. When I was with my ex bf, we used to hang out at a small cafe/bar type of place..... everyone knows everyone else basically, like a small town really this area. But what has happened in the span of a week, I've had three of his/my aquaintances, (all guys) show up at my place, asking how I am...... and get this, ALL THREE have done the come on..... my head is spinning * * * is up with that? Anyone have any ideas on what this can possibly be about??

Yes my ex bf cheated on me with his bipolar ex that he swore he was finished with 3 years before. I forgave him the first time, but this time......... going NC. I had a gut feeling all wasn't right because she was always spying on us, causing problems in the bar. eg. threatening me, and he seemed intimidated by her. (They have 3 little kids together) and he had sole custody but they have been temporarily taken away because of allegations she has made. He said he didn't love her anymore the way you should love a woman, so I feel he could have some serious doubts about his actions. I'll sit back and watch him dig his own grave, and hopefully they both fall in. I'm heartbroken and can't understand how he could hurt me the way he has.......

Hi, I'm also going through that painful hell, hard not to start sobbing in the worst placescry: such as work,hope we all pull through this stuff sooner rather than later. My bus route in the morning goes right by the ex's place, and I can't seem to help looking up at his window, 3 days NC now. Only problem is we both get our discount cigarettes at the same bar. I really can't stand the thought of seeing him right now, but its going to be hard to avoid as well. We have mutual friends and people (probably meaning well) tell me how thev'e seen Jack (ex bf) and with who etc. etc...... its making me nuts. I'm wondering if he going to be bugging me about things of his that are at my place. At this point I have to pack them up, too depressing to have these sad reminders around..... hang in there you guys, and I'll be trying to do the same.

Thanks Ilse, your kind remarks really do help, I guess I think of hurting someone like he's done to me, and I just honestly could not do that to anyone. Its very strange, he was so caring, I work, he doesn't (he's on assistance) so he would cook for us every night. So I find it hard to understand how he could be so cold and nasty. Wish the sadness would go away, it seems I get a apple in my throat at the worst times (like at work), and the most horrible part is going to be avoiding him, he lives three blocks away.

I'm sorry be just as the site implies you aren't alone.... that for sure.. I'm finished with bf without even breaking it off on his side. I'm just new with this and I'm soo depressed, I can relate to your pain. I'm in debt, no thanks to the ex bf, he was on assistance, and I took care of things when he had trouble with money...... talk to me, I'm here

Hi there, I have a bit of a long saga here, so thanks if you bear with me. I was with my bf for 5 months in total. When I met him I knew he had a bipolar ex and sole custody of three children. Apparently they have been apart 3 years, And worst of all we all live in the same neighbourhood, so its very hard to avoid anyone at all. Its not a small town but sure feels like one I'll tell you. Anyway in the begginning things seemed o.k., I met his kids, and unfortunately his ex too. She is very, and I mean extremely hostile, according to her this is because of her children, (she doesn't want me around them) but since then I've found out otherwise.What has occurred since, as I've said, she's very vindictive and she called the Children's Aid Society, who now have taken the children, and have placed them with Jacks brothers. NOW my ex bf. He and I have had long talks, and the relationship seemed to to be doing very well, (great love life) .....other than running into her when him and I were together on occasion. Needless to say he was very upset about the kids and things were very tense for a few weeks, and then he seemed to be a little more accepting regarding his kids, and how eventually (within a few months hopefully) he would get the kids back. How things started was he asked me to his place for dinner one night about a month ago. Everything was fine until he asked if I was spending the night. I told him I had a few things to get done at home, because I had a baseball game the next day. He was angry and said "Just Go, You Play Games", I said "Nope, no games", well that didn't work, so I left. Didn't hear anything from him for 2 days. Well I didn't call him either, but 2 nights later was with friends at the cafe. We were outside smoking and I see him accross the road at another cafe with the bipolar ex. I know he saw me too. They then walked away to his place which is just a block away. I was devasated. I gotta kinda loaded and just decided to go home and sleep it off. Next day back at the cafe with friends, he is accross the road with his art work set up (he's a painter). I'm out having a smoke, he saunters over and asks to talk, which we did. He said he'd been very upset about the children and she been bugging him. I go to his place with him. We were getting intimate, he then tells me he slept with her that night I saw him, but it won't happen again....... Well big mistake, I forgave him. Things were good for another 2 weeks, then he sorta disappears (after calling everyday) and well guess what? You've got it probably, stupid me I didn't see it coming. ](*,) I last saw him Satuday night, he came into the cafe, and asks me to dance, then after about an hour he simply gets up and walks away........ I've heard since he's back with the physco nutcase. How can someone be so damned heartless, no conscience at all. I'm trying to come to terms but am so hurt.

And sorry to ask but what does "cropper" mean. Thnx sorry, never heard that term before....

Well yeah girl, but I know for a fact he was intoxicated, and who the hell would not get frustrated over this kinda crap???? He has been playing games I think.

I actually have a huge cut on my nose, big goose egg on my forehead, and and ruined left knee.... how bad can it get????????

We have been together 4 months and al this has been strange for me....

Hey girl, don't know yet, what he knows, probably he's hungover like a dog today, but I waiting for that toxic phone call ya know??????

c Hi.... well what a night... and what an idiot I am... but maybe I needed this to get my head straightened out. Last night I got totally pissed off about my bf being such a ..... all week he'd been calling, nagging my just had to deal with it..... He doesn't have a phone, (and I always found this a little strange) so I decided I would go to his place and confront him...... When I got there, I could hear him arguing with a female inside his place.... his ex I believe, and wow.... they were talking about me....... I left, went to a bar accross the road for about 1 hour. Came back, quite buzzed, and upset as well..... he was gone....... well his door is unlocked so I went in, helped myself to a beer and jeezus fell asleep on his couch. I woke up and thought "oh my god, gotta get outta here, what if he comes back with his ex-ho" but guess what????? My shoes were gone??????? I grabbed a pair or his slippers, size 11, yikes my feet are 5 1/2" only...... ran out the door..... fell down about half way home, big gash on my nose and forehead...... I'm hurting bigtime today, (emotionally and physically) and my shoes are somewhere at his house, god how stupid I am..... I loved him.... but this is driving me absolutely nuts.... starting to feel like I'm the loser, physco nut....... any kind words would be appreciated. Guess I definitely must DRIFT him now...... Sandy

Yes I still going through this stuff...... he is sooo strange, called last night and said "How are You Now?" and that struck me as strange, since I've just been me....... I also caught him walking by my place, although he never walks that far east EVER ........... and I mentioned that, and he asked "Where were you, looked like no one was home?" I said I was there, its like he keepings tabs on me, although holding me at arms length as well??????? He said he wanted to have some drinks today (Friday) but never asked me directly if I wanted to get together????? Then he said "well I'll talk to you later" and I said "You talk like your a distant relative" and he said "Nope your just down the road"................ think he must have been smoking some bud..... very strange indeed........ I said bye and hung up. He must think I'm being cold, and I guess I am a little, but he is confusing me sooo much I don't even know how to react any more

Hi nice to be a new member here. Well here we go. I met my bf 5 months ago. I was a little apprehensive at that time because I knew he had sole custody of three little kids, but I liked him so much I decided to give things a chance. I absolutely fell in love with the kids..... yeah and him as well. Well after about 2 weeks of hanging out together, we were at my place. His ex (bi-polar)shows up at my door and throws a fit. (The kids showed her where I lived, they are little, didn't know any better) The kids were with his brother... so it was obvious to me she still has something for him. Well she left and we talked and he convinced me she would calm down within a week or two and accept things.... she should have... they have been apart 3 years now????? He was dead.. and I mean dead wrong. She has threatend me (we all live in close proximity) and even worse she has called the Children's Aid with allegations about Jack (my bf) and he has temporary lost custody to his brother and sister-in-law. Well since then things have been pretty insane. He was having horrible mood swings, but seems to be dealing with things much better in the last few weeks eg. affectionate, lots of loving etc. Just this past weekend we had a getogether with friends, and he told them all "I love this girl"...... which he says very rarely to me????? Well Sunday we had a quiet night and he went home. He comes over Monday and seems sorta hyper to go home..... He has called me every night and is talking about laying low because of the Children's Aid, but what does that have to do with me.... I'm confused. He said he's thinking of moving because his Bi-polar ex lives to close by. But so do I. He said last night he with call today to see "what I'm up to". I feel sooo lost, no affection since Monday night. If he wanted to drift me why doesn't he just say so? Talk about Dr Jekyl, Mr. Hyde. I don't know what to think............... and I feel like I've been put on hold... Any comments will be appreciated.