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  1. Azual
    Well - Hopefully all has gone well. I backed off the subject, am trusting her with my love, my heart, my dedication, and my trust to do with as she pleases... Hopefully that isn't in vain. There was a cost though, and she agreed she needed to tell this kid (We'll call him Sam because that's his name) needed to back off and she would tell him so. Thanks for the advice everyone. God I love my GF... Emily means to world to me, and I thank you all for opening my eyes a bit more However, the nagging feeling that there is something going on eats away at me... and I feel like I'm being used as a safe haven from this kid...
  2. Azual
    To the OP - I agree, solitary time is a wonderful thing. I hate society and the way most men look at women, it disgusts me. So a lot of the time I hide from the world. However! A relationship at my age (15) in High School is important. They teach us to be strong about dealing with these things, and I know a few people who have possibly met their soul mates - As I hope I have found mine (To those of you who followed my story a while back, everything is awesome! Thnx to the wonderful people who frequent Enotalone!). A relationship is a delicate thing, and has to be handled as such. I believe a relationship helps teach maturity, respect, and responsibility. If you can juggle all the work, combined with other stresses and lead a good relationship with your GF/BF... you're doing quite well. A relationship keeps you from utter despair.
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    What is keeping you thinking like this? Does she not like you? Is she taken? Did you previously go out? I mean there's a lot of questions, but the main one is, how do YOU feel about her. If you feel it can work, and she's free and she likes you like that... take a shot once you feel ready. What comes will come.
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    Keep us updated Hulk - We're here for you.
  5. Azual
    Agreed - Unless you can find a compassionate, caring, willing to listen kind of guy - And they're rare... sadly enough...
  6. Azual
    I'm thinkin of doin that tomorrow - I tried talking to him this morning... here's how the convo went (I'm telling the honest truth and not tweaking anything) Hey Sam... we need to talk. Uh, no we don't. Yeah... we do, so if you'd like to turn around and talk to me, I won't have to bust your ****ing nose. (He turns to face me) What the hell do you want? Start respecting Emily. Leave her alone, respect her space, she doesn't like you, and she's taken by me. If you don't comply I'm gonna bust your ****ing nose. Got it? Yeah whatever. Learned later in the day he stayed away from her for the most part in math. I know he's scared of me, but I don't want to become a bully here, but she means more to me than he does. I'll let our principal tomorrow - Let you all know what happened. And if he still doesn't... my "sister" (she "adopted" me as her "brother" because she cares about me and we're close friends) offered to scare him for me. And she is very scary. So hopefully all goes well. Thanks!
  7. Azual
    Well, after looking back on this, I understand where his anger came from. His whole family is a gaming family and his parents pushed him aside, made him do the cleaning and cooking so they could play. And his dog (of 10 years) had been put down the day before. I forgive him, but I can't trust him. I will however let her parents know and my own if anything happens. However, I need to sligtly rely on him for the time being (If you read my "I'm gonna get in a fight with this kid... thread). However I don't think he'll tell me the full truth. So we'll see how this unfolds. Thanks for the advice.
  8. Azual
    It's possible he could have erectile disfunction or other short comings and doesn't wish to be embarrassed. Another reason is maybe he isn't ready for it. Either way, ask him about it. To tell you honestly, I hate being pidgeon-holed like that. Just 'cause we're men we always want sex... My advice is just talk to him and see what's up.
  9. Azual
    Yeah.... Thanks Shadow... Like I said... Hopefully in a few days it wont matter because I'll be in that class and he is going to have to face me if he doesn't knock it off. I'm normally pretty passive but like I said earlier, if you mess with the girlfriend I'll get defensive-aggressive. If there is such a thing. So ya. Anyway - thank you all for your advice! I'll let the girlfriend know what's up and try talkin to him.
  10. Azual
    Thanks! I'll let my girlfriend know and see what happens. Wont matter in a few days anyway, I'm switching into that class because I get along with the teacher in there better than the one I have now and he wants me in his class 'cause I'm willin to learn and speak up if I don't understand something. So either he'll back off from your awesome advice, or he'll face me. Thanks
  11. Azual
    Yeah... I'll see if I can't try talking to him first. But it's happening to my girlfriend when I'm not around so I can't do anything about it at that moment. And she isn't one to just shrug things off like I've become used to (Make fun of me, I'll laugh and shrug it off. Make fun of family... I'll join ya! Put my girlfriend in any jokes or disrespect her or invade her personal space or items, I get highly defensive)
  12. Azual
    Tried a few times since she told me about it. I know it's only the fourth damn day of school but holy crap! He just flips me off and walks away.
  13. Azual
    Well that's true, but me and her are over the issues we had so hopefully no more of that. Point being he's still being disrespectful... And I don't want to get in a fight but he's askin for it and everytime I try to talk to him he ignores me.
  14. Azual
    Aite, talked things over with my last friend, he said he was sorry, and that he was just pissed off because his dog had just been put down (Yes I know that is true, the day before, his dog had been put down) and he just vented his rage and sorrow onto me. I still don't trust him 100% but I don't think I ever will. Still, I'd like to have him covering my * * * or protecting my GF if I can't, or another closer friend couldn't. But now see, there's this dude in her Math class that just does NOT respect her space. You know, we do the whole note thing and it's got some serious stuff (Things that happened in her past that she doesn't want people knowing or other things that we like to keep secret from the world) and he constantly grabs at her stuff and just makes the typical bull.... remarks as she passes; "Oh quit undressing me with your eyes" and stuff like this. I know I don't have anything to fear from her being with this guy, he's a complete * * * and disrespects women constantly. It's just a matter of him needing to back off before I bust his nose. Even she has told him to back off and leave her alone and he's not doing it. And I've asked her to take things to a higher power than me but she wont, and I really don't wanna bust his nose because I don't want to get in trouble but he isn't respecting my girlfriend's space and things at all. What's worse is this dude used to be a friend of mine and he used to never bug my girlfriend and I guess since he got wind that we're goin out (Me and him no longer get along) he's just been all over her and it's bugging the hell out of me. I mean it's only in Math class because we don't hang with him at lunch or any other time of day, but still. And before I punch him in the head, and before he does anything stupid (because I know him and he would prolly), I want to talk to him and let him know that he's really makin me mad and he needs to back up (And I've had my previous friend stick up for my girl 'cause I wasn't able to cause I wasn't there) and he still does this. So how am I gonna bring this up with him if he just ignores me? I swear it's like he's asking to be punched and from the people I've talked to in school (Mainly women but a few guys as well), they all agree and they all hate him for their own personal issues.
  15. Azual
    Anyway - Too keep those of you who helped me out updated... She wore a Tshirt today and just told me that now that she has gone thru and seem how happy I was about it (Even though I told her she could wear the low cut ones, I didn't care and want her to be happy), she says she'll wear them more often. And I take this from what she said; I felt different today, like I felt more comfortable with myself cause I wasn't exposed and didn't feel like everything was showing I kid you not. So again, thanks to all of you for being there for me.
  16. Azual
    Well that's what I'm sayin - And hell, took me like an hour to realize how silly it was and how stupid I was to get angry over it. It's just... I can't help but be happy when she wears a Tshirt - She looks so much more beautiful and sexy in a Tshirt (Like I said, and I don't know why and I can't explain it).
  17. Azual
    Nah... it's not a matter of I control her on anything, I just complained heavily that she wear more covering clothing. As for the rape thing with her step brother, that was the whole trust issue we got over before the clothing issue came up... I got the rest of the story because I asked her to be more honest with me (Yes I asked!) and I'm not angry at her for that or what the backstory to what happened is. I just ask she be more careful and I don't understand why you would want to draw that kind of attention after something like that happened? Ya know? And I know I can't control her, and I don't really do that. I swear to God that normally I'm fairly laid back, and it was just something that my mind connected and I guess was bugging me at that moment. As for my crime, yes, I did some very stupid things, but that was a huge step for taking my steps away from any domineering traits (I used to complain about a lot of things when I was younger. Friends and everything...) I've come a long way from that, and I've still got a bit further to go, I know.
  18. Azual
    Actually, I don't enjoy looking at other women. I admit, there are very pretty girls out there, but I don't see them the same way as I see her, and so I don't enjoy looking at them. And like I said last night, I was in a bad mood and happened to be folding clothing and my mind just made that connection. And I'm never folding my own clothing again. And to tell you the truth, I was attracted to her personality and facial looks, not so much her body, like most guys in High School are... And like I said, after I thought about it I realized the argument was petty and childish. And I don't want her to constantly cover up... And I personally htink she looks better in one of her Tshirts and not one of her low cut shirts. Not sure why so I can't tell you, but she just looks better.
  19. Azual
    Anyway, I'm off to bed. Thanks to everyone who helped me out tonight. Like I said, I love you all And I know she is gonna wonder what the flowers are for - I'll just tell her the truth. They were supposed to be a surpise and it was coincidental that we had a fight. They were supposed to show nothing more than, "I love you". It's not an "I'm sorry" kind of flower gift. Hopefully this goes well! Again (And I know I say it a lot but she means the world to me and you people are really awesome). THANKS!
  20. Azual
    Well all I'm saying with the flowers and the card is that I've had this thought up for a long time. And it just happened to be tonight I'd get into an argument and tomorrow my dad can drive me... sheesh. The Fates aren't kind to me. And honestly, I'm never folding my own clothing again, I swear it. Bad time to be folding clothing when that's something my mind obviously had on it and with the being yelled at by parents, her getting constantly distracted. Bad time to do clothing things. And if it escalates, I promise I'll see one, but I've managed to hold on this long, and I'd like to see what I can do. I'd never hit her (I've never hit a girl in my life, cept maybe my sisters but that was in play) and I'd rather shoot myself than hurt a woman like that. Thank you all for your advice. Like I said, now that I've had a chance to think about it, I know I hurt her with it, and it was a childish petty thing to do. But I can't back out on the roses. I don't know when I'm gettin another chance. I know it's going to seem VERY VERY suspicious to her but if she questions it, I'll let her know what they're really for. Meant to just be a surprise for her. -sigh- Again, thank you all. You've prolly just saved my relationship with someone I truly care about and would give the world to. I love all of you lol.
  21. Azual
    Nah, I know I can do this (I've changed things before) and I'd rather give it a shot solo. I think it was just because when I was on the phone with her I got heated because my parents wouldn't quit yelling at me and she kept getting distracted by work and family and wouldn't listen to anyhting I was saying half the time (which wasn't all about clothing, it was about what was goin on and how she was feeling about her day and all)... then it moved to shirts when I was putting clothes away. Guess it was just a kind of a heat of the moment kind of thing and the clothing was there and yeah... But after listening to some close friends online and reading all this here, I realize it was pretty petty. If the solo thing doesn't work I'll listen to you more and see a coucillor. And no that thought never crossed my mind in the middle of the argument and she never brought it up. But now that I think about it... Hmm Just now that I look at it, I know I seemed childish there. Wish I could take it back but I can't. So I'll make it up to her I want her to know I'm sorry. And I can't blame anyone but myself for this (I have grown up around domestic violence for most of my life and said I wouldn't be like that) yet here I am... So make it up to her by 12 red roses, a card, a kiss, and a sorry? And please note, I had the Roses thing in my mind for quite a while, it's just a coincidence (swear to God) that my dad isn't working tomorrow and can give me a ride to I can pick them up (I didn't want them dying overnight because dead roses does you no good).
  22. Azual
    Or is that even possible?... What I don't get about me... (Yes my turn to critisize myself) is that I knew what she was wearing long before this, but she'd throw in Tshirts every so often. Now she doesn't. Maybe that's why I'm upset But if I knew before and didn't get mad... why is my mind just suddenly now wnating me to push this issue? I don't understand me and I wish I could change.
  23. Azual
    Oh I know I'm difficult as all get out, and I want to change that and I know I need to trust her on this. But what I want to know right now is how to seem conerned about it, without pushing to pushy...
  24. Azual
    -Sigh- Alright... It's just I don't want to push her away but I can't help but find it hard to trust the choice of clothing when she's taken. Maybe it's just my personal thoughts, but I feel that for the most part, sexual things should be reserved for your partner. It's kinda how I feel about strippers (Not exactly and I'm not saying she is!) But why show off what someone can't have. I see no point in it.
  25. Azual
    I know... but I want to seem concerned, caring, and loving without seeming too overpowering...
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