Confused1981

I keep hoping that she will change and commit to me, and im giving her this 1 last chance to stay with me, i know the father wil b there forever but i am hoping he is going to meet someone else once he realises she has moved on for good. I cant leave her i feel for he so much, i have tried honestly i have tried , i just feel i have to give her this one last chance, but this time i am going to keep a social life with my friends and i will put my full trust into her! I need to think of some conditions on getting back with her, any advice guys??

But i am totally happy when i am with this girl, its just been a confusing experience for us both, we didnt mean to fall for each other she is 11 years older than i am!

thats 2 a week thats achievable, all u have 2 do now is go out a lot and approach every girl u see!

Perahps he still cares for u and wants to be your friend i speak to my ex like that all the time, maybe i confused her but i still liked to speak to her.

when he gets more keen, he will be the one calling all the time, let things develop slowly, dont go overboard with the calls though!!

Yes make sure u are using appropiate contreception, but he was asking what u liked , what turned u on, its good because at least he is thinking of you as well as himself, take ur time and u will both learn what really gets u off!!

It must b so difficult for a mother to move on, and im trying to understand this with my problem, with my lover, i think its important what makes u happy, a happy home is better for ur child than an unhappy environment!!! Just my thoughts!!

Hi guys, i know u will all b angry with me for giving it another go but i have to just give it one last chance. For those of u who do not know the story i have been seeing my lover for 2 years who is 35 with 3 children , i am 24, and to top things off, her ex(the father) is still hanging around like a bad smell. Also the main problem with the relationship is that we have split 10 times in the 2 years of us being a couple, on 2 of those occasions she got back with the father , i guess to make it what u wud call a "normal" home. Im writing this post to get advice on how to make the best of this last opportunity of us being together!! I dont want her to flip out again and finish with me so i need some guarntees from her, and i want the father as much out of our lives as possible!! I know u have all told me to move on and have gone against ur advice , but i just have to give this 1 last shot before i do totally move on, please can i have some opinions and advice from u guys. Thanks, Me!!

ur right i think i do have problems, i can see what every1 says, my family my friends, and even u guys on enotalone tell me to move on. But Y cant i??? I meet lots of women, but for some reason none of them match up 2 my lover, i know she has problems she has decided to see a counsellor, she has had 6 miscarriges and she also lost her baby at 1 month old, and i dont think she has fully grieved for this, at the same time as loving me, she feels guilty to her youngest child who came after all this happened she wants to make it so right cuz of everything that has gone wrong, She is probably full of BS, she told me that she was trying her hardest to make it work with her ex cuz of her children, and she probably did want sex we all have needs, i did, but now she wants me back and i really dont know whether to give her a final chance and tell her that if she splits with me again that i will walk away for good, and will change my number! Any advice?? or do u really think i should walk away?

I did once 2 and it worked for 6 months then she did it again i walked away, but how about if u split up with ur partner they went with some1 else then asked for u back, wud any1 get back with some1 after that?

Hi Guys, Im still wondering wen thi emotional roller coaster is going to end i have tried to walk away from my confused lover but my heart keeps taking me back. For those of u who dont know the story i was with my lover of 35 (3 Children) for 2 years i am 25, we split up about 10 times over that period, on the 2 last occasions she got back with her ex (the father) but then came back 2 me saying she made a mistake she was in love with me and she missed me, well this last time we spit up, it is the longest we have split (2 months) she asked for me back last week then changed her mind asked me back again then changed her mind again, so on wednesday i tried to ring her many times and she ignored me, i decided enough was enough, anyway she called me all day yesterday at least 40 times which i ignored until 9pm alst night, i went round and we had a chat, yet agin she was asking for me back, i asked y she ignored me that wednesday, her answer was "cause i thought u didnt love me anymore, u were acting different" i guess i was tho because i was scared of my bubble busting again! But last night i found out the worst thing i cud of, she admited that she had sex with the father over the last 2 months, she didnt say how many times, but she said she didnt want to do it and it wasnt like it was with me and he kept arguing with her cuz she wudnt have sex with him, whilst this may b true , she still did have sex with him, i know we had split up but it has hurt me so much and in 1 way i really want to get back with her cuz she makes me so happy, but on the other hand im scared of her splitting with me again and hurting me again. Her sleeping with her ex is really winding me up, and also slept with some1 , but it was totally meaningless and it was a 1 night stand, can i really get back with her after she has done this??

I can relate to this, with my first serious girlfriend she kept it a secret, we started dating wen she was 18 and she didnt start playing with herself until she was 19 but i didnt find out till she was nearly 20, and i got seriously jealous wen she used to do it, but eventually i grew up with it and i liked her doing it, in fact in the end i used to tell her to do it, and now 5 years on i have a new girlfriend and i totally exceped ti from the start cuz i knew she liked to pleasure herself as well as me, i think it makes the sex better!!!

i think it is mainly a sign of confidence and good communication, but i also think there could be an element of intereset too!!

but i cant see what she is using me 4??? Wen i say 2 her u are using me, she gets really offended!! She doesnt use me for my money cuz im quite tight with it, maybe its the sex!! I miss the sex wen im not with her maybe thats a major reason i keep going back to her, the sex!! She has always said it not just the sex tho, and i know what she means, i mean this all started out as a casual relationship , but feelings creeped in, i fell in love and so did she. Do u think this is wrong?? Is there any future in this?? and if not y cant we enjoy a few more years together??

but y does she keep getting back with me??? i always think it is cuz she loves me and she realises she has made a mistake!!! I can hear what ur saying but how do i finally let go and move on???