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thanks for the input i really appreciate it and yes her sister has a huge influence on her they are 8 years apart and her sister is more of a mother figure than a sister fugure, she sort of raised her in a way a couple of friends admire how far i had come in such a short time and i have wondered what it was that got me almost over it in as short a time as i did and the best i can figure is this - there was a reality check point - about 2 weeks after it all happened before i found out she was with this other guy i had sent her a text message trying ti get her to talk to me she sent me a message by mistake that was meant for her new guy - the message was so insulting about me and so uncaring saying that i was stupid and she wished i would leave her alone - maybe it was the reality check that i needed thanks again for your input jack

Wasn't going to post this but I have dispensed enough half assed advice on this sight I think that people have a right to know at least the basics of my story, or the most recent chapter anyway. About 4 years ago I spent a great weekend with a great girl who was at the time a friend. Really more the sister of a good friend, a good female friend. I never pursued it really, was worried about being rejected and having crappy time luck wise with relationships. By the time I worked out I should pursue her she had someone else. Time brought us back around to each other and what started as a renewed friendship turned to love very quickly. We had ups and downs and long distance hassles for a time. She has a terrible history with men, treated badly in ways that few people could imagine and I thought that love could conquer her fears, dull the pain of the past and smooth the future for us both. Her sister, my friend hated us having something independent of her. She is a very jealous and dominating type of person and tried to poison me against my girl from day one. She spent a year trying to turn me against her sister including trying to have sex with me on more than one occasion. She had tried that prior to my being with her sister. I loved this girl so much. Marriage, kids could see it all. The sister, my supposed friend eventually realized her mistake in trying to turn me against my girl. After so long trying to turn me with no affect, she turned her against me. It only took a couple of days too. To this day I still don't know what happened. That was 10 months ago. I have gotten about 90% over it but I am really not sure how. I was so devastated when this happened and the emotional pain made me physically sick for months. I think now that she was my last chance at being with someone in the very long term and I am likely to spend the rest of my life alone. Its not that I couldn't spend my life alone, I just don't want too. Then, and here is the kicker, she set her own sister up with her ex boyfriend of the week before! They ran off happily into the sunset for about 3 or 4 months, my girlfriend and her sisters cast off. We spoke once after that. She told me to never ever contact her again in anyway ever. No reason, no why, her voice was so cold and so uncaring. Then about six months later, after telling me she never ever wants to see me or hear from me again she turns up saying sorry, I have changed, I have made mistakes, and wants to be friends again. She went on about depression and how unhappy she had been and while I feel for her she hurt me so much I cant get past it where she is concerned. I had reached a measure of peace with not knowing what happened after one hell of a lot of torment from the unknown. And I know she doesn't really want to be friends, she wants absolution. Should I grant that absolution? If she wanted to be friends I think be able to do that but what she wants is that technical friendship where all is forgiven but we never see each other or speak. Tried a couple of gestures and we even made plans to see each other as friends but she cancelled twice. The one time I did her when she just showed up as she left she kissed me on the mouth and still calls me babe or baby in text messages. But no she doesn't want to get back together, and I wouldn't anyway. She is a good person, she has just had a terribly hard life and I think I have absorbed more than enough of her pain for her? Now I wish she would just leave me alone. Cant bring myself to say that to her though. What do you think? Will welcome any comments!

hello sash amgoing to post th efull version of my heartbreak today. still working on writing it the temptation in your situation is to believe that he never loved i have been there but thats not true he did love you and although he betrayed you it was once real remember - it was his issue within him not your fault glad your happy now sweeti jack

hello helen helen and i are old friends for benefit of everyone else dont contact him helen i know that it hasnt been long and that it is so temting to call or something but if you do you will regret it and the small amount of healing that you dont even realise you have done in the last month will be washed away besides he is going to call you or text you soon enough about this friendship he wants and at that time you need to tell him how badly he hurt you and how much pain you are in and you have said it yourself that being friends will only prolong that pain and slow getting past this i am sorry sweeti but i think that no contact really is the only real option jack

if your happy - be happy good for you would love you to keep me updated on how things go really best of luck to you

yes tea your absolutely right maybe i am just not as determined or maybe she wasnt or whatever but i am still entitled to my opinion and she could have posted hers disagreeing with me all she liked but she didnt have to aim that opinion at me by name now did she?

eventually you will realise that life experience comes in time and you will look back to the way that you are now thinking that you know everything and realise how wrong you were i am not trying to pooh pooh your happiness you critisised my opinion first you say that love conquers all ! it hasnt conquered the distance has it ? and if hes not twenties or teens ? how old ? if your happy thats great and i dont want to undermine that but again you critisised my opinion first

for PAdreamer with all due respect i might have thought that way at 19 too love money is in the way is it ? pity this great and powerful love of yours cant overcome dollars! you will pardon me if i think that 3 dozen years of life experince out ranks what you did in high school but i have been round the block a time or two and know this world in ways that you cant imagine PA i have had long distance relationships an dso have other people i know the combined years of those relationships are longer than th eamount o ftime you have been alive i imagine that your boyfriend is what 19 to early twenties ? dont worry though i am sure hes not tempted by other women especially being that you have absolutely no shot of catching him cheating even if he did ho wlong have you been in this for PA ? i know people who have done long distance relationships for 5 years ! do you have that in you ?

hello kay i know that things seem terrible now i am sorry you lost your dad but life has so much to bring to you yet dont give up now your father would not want you to give up he woul dwant you to live on and be happy and have the best life that you can the best way to honour hi smemory is to live your life like every monent of everyday counts and getthe most from your time dont give up sweeti - not ever jack

how are ya ? long distance relationships dont work !! for a laundry list of reasons most importantly: if you really really wanted to be together you would be they are appealing cause they are intense everything is amplified when your together and when your apart but they either end or you move to the same place in a reasonable time frame good luck jack

the young lady from japan does have a point i am not that tattoed - both upper arms but when i was in bath houses in germany people wouldnt talk to me ! there was another guy who had alot of tats and they wouldnt talk to him either - turns out he was russian mafia and they thought i was too

hello sexygrl invino veritas - thats latin latin is a long dead language - so this is a very old saying invino veritas means - with wine comes truth ! When we drink the walls we extend to cover our true selves dissolve in a haze of foggy headed euphoria and or depression. And people become who they really are. It might not be that bad though, all men carry a torch for some girl we knew when we were young. Only natural. Doesnt mean that he doesnt love you just means that there are roads untravelled and I am sure you feel that way about someone at some point. If you stay together long enough his thoughts of this girl will eventually go away. Good luck and update us Jack

if you want one just get one is your skin too pretty ? i have big ones on both arms and my only regret is that i didnt think enough about how big i wanted them would have stopped at one if i had got the first one bigger like everything else - dont be scared of it just be sure about it jack

hi i feel for you i do - i really do and to be honest athens is such a crappy city theres it lends itself to arguments two words, commiment issues wouldnt matter who you are or how much he loves he isnt capable of committing some people just cant thats why it took so long for him to say he loves you the fact that he does love you is most likely why he is breaking up with you some people just push anyone away whe they get too close i think he might be on eof them goo dluck jack

hello the temptation to fight ! very very strong urge isnt it unfortunately when you have to fight to keep someone that doesnt want to stay, it is almost always a mistake. I am not trying to deter you, please follow your conscience and I believe you should do all you can, atleast that way you will know that you did all you can. So hell with it, FIGHT. If thats what you want to do then do then do it. Dont surrender and and then atleast if you lose you went down fighting. hope for the best but prepare for the worst. good luck jack