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Go for it. Just tell her. He doesn't want her anymore. If its not you it'll be someone else

Personally if she definitely doesn't want kids - leave. You can't not have children cos of one party. You'll just regret it.

I feel the same. I don't want to lose him completely just him to get his life in gear. Over the last few days he has shown improvement but we can only wait and see what happens in future.

I'm a very violent person but no, when it happened with my ex I was more shocked and wondered what the hell was happening.

My boyfriend loves this postion because he says he can get sooo much deeper and be totally in control. Maybe thats it, u can't blame the guy if it is!!

No for a year I have been nursing £5000 debt and we are only 20 for god's sake. We can't go out, do stuff etc. I'm sick of it, sick of everything. We just fought again cos he said he'd talk to me online and slept throught it. I haven't spoken to him except for 1 min (literally) on a pay phone! I hate him soo much. I'm so down and he know it but it won't spare me half an hour before work, I HATE HIM ](*,)

Mainly him. The fact he hasn't got a decent career that he's in debt and mainly the fact that the few times I do see him he falls asleep (he works nights)

Seroiusly I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rocky patch the last 4 weeks to the point where this weekend it was kinda make or break for us. He came up to see me (I'm in uni) and it seemed to be great but now he is being very very cold and distant. I think he'll break up with me. I don't know what to do. The trouble is its all my fault, I suggested breaking up after this weekend, I said I couldn't cope with the fighting, I said I was feeling less for him etc It was alll true but when i actually saw him and reliased what i might lose i reliased i was stupid. I have never felt this way about a person and i don't know what to do to win him back. I'm just so scared.

I don't mind doing it and I prefer actually sex rough but not oral cos well.. its sometimes painful. I might try the hand thing, he does like that but prefers oral. I swear its an addiction! lol

During actual sex it kinda likes the pain thing. Men! I meant just oral! Some tips to calm it down

Cos he is getting rougher and rougher with me and it hurts

OK this is my dilemma. How do I spice up giving oral to my bloke? At the moment he seems to be into tight, fast and deep, which can be quite painful at times for a start plus and the real problem is its the same system every time. He seems to really really enjoy me doing it and I don't wanna stop it he is a very generous lover. Any ideas to stop in being the same? P.s Hates his testicles being touched at all so any ideas with that are a no-no. Oh and he hates them gentle kisses on his thighs etc - it bores him! Thanks in advance!

Average is about 5. But its all down to what you prefer.

From a biology point of view there is actually nothing wrong with it, They could even reproduce and produce viable offspring. Of course, continued inbreeding causes genetic problems. A one off normally isn't normally a problem. However from ethical point of view it is considered very wrong and they will have a hard time getting people to accept it. I suggest they stop find other parnters and tell no1 about this.

Featherlight - you are feel soooooo much more when compared to normal crappy condom experience!! Or tingle!!!

Thank you I know my behavior is unacceptable. I just think I'm breaking down and I needed someone to tell it to

I said I would do therpy. So if we're all agree I shall. I agreed I needed it

Violence - doesn't = no love Cheating - doesn't = no love either And No I didn't say I love him. But yes I do we just have a problem to solve. I was just after advice thats all. You can't really judge me on 3 posts. And I said therpy that was in my first post!!!!! And I'm not playing the victim but I don't want a load of abusive comments from complete strangers.

All comes down to human inistinct. He didn't leave because leaving isn't going to help the problem is it. If you truly love someone you will help them.

2 times and I agree he is not but I can't help losing a little bit of love and respect. He doesn't even feel remorse

He hit me back. Slapped me in fact. Said it was the only way to stop me hitting me. You see when we fight sometimes I get so depressed I throw a panic attack, I scream, cut myself, break things (its not only him who makes me like this) Except when I 'wake up' I'm sooo ashamed and as (i feel) he made me like it, I hit him, sometimes it gets really bad. I am ashamed of what I do but I'm more ashamed of the panic attacks. Hitting him gives him something else to focus on. I don't know what to do. It stopped for soo long and now it started up again. We have only been together just over a year I don't know what to do I had it under control for months and them it started again. I thought it was over

Not hard but he did it and I think he thinks I deserved it. In fact I no. I however have lost respect in him. I want us to go to some form of conselling, I haven't asked him cos I'm so sure he'll say do. I don't know what else to do, we both have problems and I don't know how to get things sorted. Any ideas? Please no abuse this time!! Just want advice

I have to say I agree. Lie your way out of this one. Maybe tell her when your both single again, but really if she is showing no interest in a relationship with you your just going to have to accept it and move on. You may lose a good friend if you don't - Is it worth risking?

Hi I'm 19 and been at university since September. I am so alone. I have no family another then my mum and no real friends. Trouble is I went to uni stupidly thinking I would meet ppl and I have made NO real friends. I have a couple of people I hang out with a couple of times a week but nothing major. I have no real friends back home either, they have all stabbed me in the back and guess what I said.. NOTHING. I let them do it. The few (and I mean very few times) I have answered back they stopped talking to me for a few days and I have felt even more alone. I hate the way my life has gone, I keep seeing and hearing about the old school 'friends', ex's and people in general who are generally nasty evil people and yet they seem to have all the friends in the world. They seem happy, why can't I ever be. All I have is my bf who is great but not enough. I want a life outside him as well. As sick as it sounds if he ever left me I don't no what I'd do, I'd have no one. Except all I do is drive him away - I'm so bitter about having noone in my life I take it out on him. I don't understand why the people who bullied me in school seem to have masses of mates and are happy yet I'm still waiting for my first one. It is affecting my uni work (gone from A and B's to C, D's and E's) I don't no what to do. I'm always making an effort, asking whether they wanna go out etc but nothing in return. All I am is sad all the time. I have had enough, why can nothing go right for me for a change? Thanks for listening

Personally I believe judging people just because you have an experience from a similar person is wrong - Its prejudice. Just the same as other forms of prejudice. I also believe some people can change and people on this website are NOT justifying thier actions just getting thier feelings out to seek help. Please get over your problem/bitterness about this. Even if you happen to experience it, do not say we're all the same - we're not period.