Inconceivable

Personally, I think you should tell the girl you like. It's such a turnoff for guys not to ask girls. I broke it off with a guy after 2 dates because he would always send someone else to talk to me instead of talking to me himself. Don't tell her friend, tell her!

I think everyone is nervous before asking someone out. If you really like this guy go for it! Like you said, the worst he can do is say 'no'. I've never asked a guy out before, but I have made the first move on a guy because he was too shy. I say go for it!

Some suggestions to put in the letter >you were sad when yall stopped contact >you were enthralled to hear she had come back >you want to see how she's doing/hear her voice again/see her face one more time

I think it's a good thing that it's cute. I personally think it's sweet. It's awesome when a guy shows that he has no problem with his family. I don't quite know how to explain it, but it's a good thing she told her friends that. The best word I can come up with is impressed...She's impressed that you're willing to help your mom.

First of all: It's great you're willing to clean yourself up...I know tons of guys that just tell themselves that the girls are just idiots because they don't love them. Anyway: One big thing to do it definatly learn where to draw the line on the comedy. A sense of humor is awesome, but you have to learn when it's funny and when it's just stupid/gross/annoying or whatever. And don't get pissed off because you can't get a girl. My brother didn't have his first girlfriend until he was 23. If there is a certain girl you like, be nice and sweet to her. Spend time with her. Don't 'charm' them into liking you. Make them like you because you have a great personality. Don't be self-centered, make sure you talk about her too. Don't talk way too much, listen to. But actually listen. Don't just 'uh-huh. uh-huh'. And most of all, is make sure that you like her. Don't just get a girlfriend to have a girlfriend, because that IS something a jerk would do. Wait until it's right. Good luck!

One of my best friends is gay, so I have an idea of what youre going through. I wanted to say that I think it's wonderful you're so confident already! It took my friend 7 years after realizing he was gay to ask a guy out/come out of the closet to his parents. In the meantime he talked to monstly me and a counselor. He said that it really helped to talk to someone else before tackling his parents. If it makes you feel any better school counselors have confidentiality agreements, so legally they aren't allowed to tell your parents anything (unless it endangers another student or is illegal). Feel free to PM me if you want to talk!

Can't really tell if you won or not, but that doesn't really matter. I would have to say, that I like best when a guy doesn't take crap and doesn't throw the first punch, but he isn't afraid to kick some bootay.

I personally like guys who like to talk a lot. I'm not much of a talker, I tend to be a much better listener. But if he can talk AND listen then that's awesome. But I couldn't deal with a guy that doesn't like to talk, mainly because I'm kind of that way.

New info Ok...I found out today that my boyfriends brother got into a car wreck last night. He's in the hospital and my boyfriend isn't sure how he's doing.... Should I hold off on talking to him until I'm sure he's ok? I would be here like as a shoulder to rest on even if we weren't dating if that means anything to you....

Let me know what you think...I was planning on saying something like this. "This is going to one of the hardest things I have to do, because I care about you so much. I really like you, but I just can't do this. I'm just not ready to have a boyfriend yet. I'm sorry it's taken me until just now to realize this. I'm sorry that I've hurt you, I'm just not ready. But just because I'm not ready doesn't mean that I don't care about you, because I really do. I still want to be friends because you are SUCH an awesome guy. I'm just not ready. Not now." I've already decided that I'm going to do it face to face. I'm not going to be cowardly and do it over the phone or over the internet. I just want to know what yall think. I've thought about it and I think this is what I really want. I think I'm going to tell him on Monday or Tuesday, I just don't know when to do it. Should I tell him early in the day? If I do he'll see me all day and he'll probably be thinking about it all day and not paying attention in class (not that he really does anyway =P). Should I tell him after school? Monday he goes to play baseball after school, and he might lose his focus? I don't know what to do!! Also: Should I tell my friend I'm thinking about doing this? I'm just thinking about her reaction and she'll be wondering why I'm telling her. But she might tell him (Me, My friend, my boyfriend, and my friend's boyfriend are all good friends) and then he'll be in doubt until I tell him, and that'll put him in even more agony and that's the last thing I want!! I already feel like a bad person for doing this... I don't know what to do!!

Ok. I'm very new to dating. I've been going out with this guy for about 7 weeks. He's my first boyfriend. Today I was thinking and I just don't think I'm ready to be in a relationship. Today wasn't the first day I've tought about this, I think about it about 3/4 times a week. It just hit me really hard today. I actually went out of my way to try and avoid him. I love being needed and I like the hugging and him walking me to classes and stuff, but I just don't think I'm ready. I don't like talking on the phone (with anyone, not just him. I don't talk with my girl friends on the phone either), I don't like spending my weekends going out with friends (well...every once in a while I do). I'm a very independent person and I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship. This is what I thought of today. I figured I would give it a few days to see how I feel, sleep on it for a while and make sure this is what I really and truly want. The problem is, I'm also his first girlfriend (I'm pretty sure) and I don't want to scare him away from dating or lose him as a friend. I really do care about him. He's a hilarious guy, he's very sweet, and he's really cute, I just can't do a relationship. I want to let him down easy. I was going to use "It's not you, it's me." but then I realized that's what most people say and they don't mean it. I figured he might not believe me, even though it is true. So I guess my question is: How to let a first boyfriend go VERY gently without hurting him too much or losing him as a friend? Any help is greatly appreciated

I'm new to this too, don't worry! but what I've noticed is that most of the couples at my school act just like they are friends. They're just friends with a title when they hang out with everyone else, they're just a lot more touchy. Like, they'll hang on each other, hold hands, the guy carries her books and stuff. Hope this helps!

I'm not quite sure what you're asking..But I want to say this. I would probably not go into a relationship with this Jose dude. He had three girls at once, and if you do start 'officially' going out with him, then you'll never know if he's doing it to you again. You'll always wonder if he is playing you.

It took me a while to be able to look my boyfriend in the face when we were talking. I used to just stare down at the ground or my hands when we talked. It's all just to do with shyness. Once you get to know each other well enough and you're comfortable with one another she won't have any problems looking you in the eye. Good luck!

Thi recently happened with me and a few of my close friends. One girl, Noemi, and I had said hello and stuff in 6th grade, we didn't have any contact in 7th and all of a sudden second semester of 8th grade comes and we're inseparable. The same thing happened with my friends Karyn, Meaghan and Robin (It had to do with an essay assignment, a chat room and a stupid person for getting us caught). We were all best friends for about four months. But those four months felt like a lifetime, honestly. But our school system was so overcrowded that the county had to build a new elementary, middle, and high school. When it came time for high school to start, 3 of my four new best friends would be going to the new school. Robin decided she wanted to live with her Dad and go to a different high school with her other friends and I was left alone. It was incredibly hard to deal with. I didn't think I could get through it, life without my four best friends. We had never gone three days without seeing each other since we became friends. It took time, lots of time, but I realized that life goes on. I stay in touch with my friends, and we talk about everything that goes on in our lives. It's hard work to keep up with them but I thank god for the internet and for phones.

I won't date a guy if he doesn't have the following: -Funny -Intelligent -Confident -Trustworthy -Sensitive I don't care about: -Height - Short? Medium? Tall? -Nice butt -Well off down below (not that that is obvious at first glance!) -Shy -Has a passionate interest in something (hobby) [lots of little interests are ok...I don't care if they are incredibly focused on one thing]

Just ask her for a private moment. It's a lot more exciting because everyone wants to know what's going on, and they're eager to hear abut it. Except that all her friends don't have to know about it.

It's called Friends With Benefits Basically he thinks your really pretty and he likes you, but he doesn't want to get emotionally involved, but he doesn't mind getting physically involved. He doesn't want a relationship, but he wants the benefits. That's what it sounds like to me

the coffee thing sounds like a good idea to me. You say you both work in the mall, so maybe ask when she gets off or when she has a break and spend it together. Just make yourself noticed Good Luck!

What my old boyfriend used to do with me is when I would drop something (I'm incredibly clumsy...) he would make me try and get it. Like he'd offer it to me and when I reached out for it he'd move it away and say like "Oh sorry. my bad!" and do it again and again. He would be smiling and laughing and very flirtatious.

The*Iceman -- When you get into high school the grades have names. 9th graders are caled Freshmen, 10th graders are called Sophmores, 11th graders are called Juniors, and 12th graders are called Seniors. Now to the problem-- One big thing to realize is that with teenagers, a two year difference is a very big difference maturity wise. It's not the same as it is with adults. Michael may not be ready to be as mature as you are. You have to keep in mind that he is an eighth grader and he's always around kids his age who act just like him. He might not know how he's supposed to act around you. I'm not quite sure what my advice to you is....but this is what I thought of when I read your post. I hope it gives you some help, and good luck!

It varies with girl to girl though. One of my guy friend's liked me but I didn't feel the same way. It didn't change our friendship though because I know he respects me and my choices. I've told a guy friend I liked him and it didn't chage our friendship. 5 months later we're still the same great friends we always were! Remember: Not asking her is a 100% chance of getting shot down. If you ask her your odds are at least 50%-50%.

My friend, lets call her Meredith, gets on my nerves sometimes. We've been friends for three years and she's almost exactly the same kind of person that I always make friends with (losers, very smart, incredibly weird, etc...). But lately she has really been getting on my nerves. Whenever she's with me all she ever wants to talk about it herself. Like earlier today she was talking about something she and her friend did. But when I started talking about how my brother lied to me the entire time she kept interrupting me, trying to change the subject back to her and her friend. This isn't the first time this has happened though. She ALWAYS does this. Whenever I start to talk about myself she cuts in talking about herself. I'm getting fed up with it. *I* want to be heard too! but I'm afraid of telling her because I really don't want to lose her friendship because we do have a lot of great memories and she's almost exactly like me. But I'm tired of always talking about her and her family and her friends and her aches and pains. Anyone have an opinion on this?

Wow. Incredibly similar to me. met my guy at homecoming, danced and took a picture, and yeah...whoaness... Anyway, it's hard to tell with the information given. I can tell that you really like her, which is good. But I don't know enough about her. Like with the guy I like, he's always looking for me and I keep an eye out for him but I can't wait for him because I can never tell how he get's from one class to another and if I wait for him I'll be late to my next class. I look for him in the hallway but I can never seem to find him. So this might be the case with her, she might be trying but she just can't do it. Anyway my advice is just to BE CONFIDENT I and I'm sure many other girls hate it when guys aren't confident. If you're going to far too fast she'll let you know, so don't worry too much about it. BE FUNNY it's very hard to resist a funny guy. BE SWEET, like if she's carrying a book in her hand, carry it for her. Lots of little sweet and romantic things are a lot more noticeable than one big thing, at least in my eyes. =) Anyway, good luck with her!

personally I love sarcastic humor. i think it's so hilarious...