splendidlylost

Howdy again from Texas- I've recently gotten interested in a fashion design major from my college. To match her major, she's really creative with how she dresses and it's always vibrant and excitiing. As for myself, I have a great wardrobe- it all fits very well, it's all coordinated, but it lacks the same "oomph" as her wardrobe. Most of my clothes are from places like Gap, Express Mens, so while it's great looking, it's not as "out there" as her wardrobe. Will this be an issue for her?

Sharp thinking, Amra. Doing things like that at work is really hard to do...it's really hard if the person you're attracted is at work. But leading into an opportunity with a "I was thinking about going out this weekend, but..." is a nice way to do it. The one downside is that he may not read it that way.In my bouts of obliviousness, I know I've said something like, "Well, call some of your other friends or just take the time out for yourself" not knowing what her objective was.

Sometimes you have to be the one to say the first word. I'm still a little hesitant myself to make the first move, and it's difficult to do it. But the way I think about it- it's hard to talk to her that first time. It feels a lot worse to let that opportunity slip by.

We had that talk...the one where she says, "I feel really insecure about her..." and so forth. On a conscious level, she knows there's no threat at all, but like you said, she has to come to grips with that on her own. Incidentally, the girl V's worried about now had to deal with a similar problem with the girl I dated prior to her. In a way, you could say this is my fault, since I don't have the knock-down, drag-out break-up brawls that most people have. All of my relationships ended on pretty good notes, so that I'm friends with pretty much all of the people I've dated. I've been in this situation before, but V is having more difficulty in being secure in herself than the friend I'm talking about, so it's taking a little bit of a toll on me.

Find out the real deal on this guy, Surething and ask your g/f about him. I'm in a situation slightly similar to that of your g/f. I'm dating someone now who I'm happily in love with. However, she has more than understandable objections to my hanging out with a friend of mine who I also dated for about 3 years...but I haven't been with her for over a year now. My theory is that this guy is harmless, like my ex. We hang out and have a good time...and yeah, we go grab dinner, just us. But nothing comes of it. Since this guy has been trouble before, and nothing happened, it may just be that none of the other guys had the maturity and security to handle her having this guy friend. I can understand her situation, trying to convince my own g/f that there's nothing to worry about.

but any is appreciated. 1230am, my g/f signs off from her IM at her home about 1/2hour away from my apartment. We exchange the usual goodnight and I love you, and she signs off. Meanwhile, a friend of mine is going to make a late-night grocery run, so since V's heading to bed, I decide that it's going to be okay to head off. And as is a bad habit of mine, I leave my IM running. 1251am or so, my g/f signs on again wanting to say goodnight. I'm not home, so she doesn't get a response from me. She takes this is as my ignoring her, so she sends me an email that contained a mild level of hostility a general accusation of my ignoring her, and a reference to sketchy plans that're made for me to see a friend of mine who also happens to be an ex-girlfriend. 1.) I know I should put up an away message or sign off, but she said goodnight, so I figured that was it. 2.) We've had 2 discussions in the last 7 days about this friend of mine, all of which boil down to: "she's just my friend, and she's been just my friend for over a year." and, "I know it's an odd situation, but I don't believe in cutting a more than functional friendship because I'm not dating that particular person."

Don't worry about size. The vagina has an incredible ability to adjust itself to whatever penis size goes into it. I'm just about average, so you can trust me when I say that what'll really help you is foreplay. BUT- I don't know if I advocate sex at that age...so I'll stop there.

Switching to another way to stimulate works wonders. As much as I love my g/f now, I won't stay up for every position she likes to be in. Ask your partner to try her hands, mouth, or another position intermittenly to get you "up and running" again.

Make him more and more comfortable with it and he'll be fine over time. As for pressure, let him know that it's all from the outside world, not from you. All the "bigger penis" junk is nothing more than hype, and what's worse is that it's solely been designed to make money.

Everyone's on the right track. I also find that thrusting in a different direction that doesn't stimulate you as much helps as well.

I dance okay. The reason why the dancing=sex might be a myth is that oftentimes dance movements are done at the hip, so if a guy can dance, then it's assumed to be an indicator of how well he moves his hips during sex. If you're like me and you know that there's more to sex than just the forward push, then having two left feet on the dance floor (I've got incredible agility otherwise) isn't a problem.

Well, it sounds like you really love this guy, so I'd consider calling him. In relationships, there's no reason to wait around for him to call you. If he's as mature as she should be, even if he doesn't want to see you today, he should at least have the decency to answer the phone when you call him.

I'm honestly fine one way or another. Here's why I like her to make the first move: 1- It takes out SO much of the guesswork. On my side, at least. 2- If I'm already at that point with a girl, I'm going to reciprocate. 3- It shows that she's a proactive person, and that I won't be the one doing all the 'work' in the relationship. For me to make the first move is something that requires some heavy motivation on my part. I'm always unsure of it until I see/hear something that completely confirms the suspicions I already have. I've been about half/half with who makes the first move.

Again- Scout's right- a little grammar goes a long way. As for dealing with your situation, I say try to look past this for now. Find another thing to focus on (work/another girl/your free time) and things will die down. The time off will let things cool off and maybe something will happen. If not, then don't worry too much about it. She may still be your friend and you may find another, better person. After I broke up with my g/f of 3 years, I had to take some time away from her before we could really be close friends again. Now we're close as ever (with some ambiguous things happening every so often), but we're great friends.

I've been driving in a large city for years now and I'm still a little cautious about driving. Scout's advice is SPOT-ON. Getting someone that makes you feel really comfortable and relaxed will really help you out. And after you get the hang of it, remember that a little fear is normal. I'm still cautious of what's going on around me on the freeway, and that's just common sense. No one will complain about a safe driver.