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  1. thegoodgirl04
    So nc for almost 3 weeks and he calls me to tell me he's slept with his ex 2 weeks after we broke up that caused all the problems through out our relationship, and he says he did it just to spite me. I asked if he liked her and he said maybe, but he doesn't care about her feelings but cares about mine and would never use me the way he's used her. And that she's just a "hole". I asked if he was getting back together with her and he said no way, that's why he put his profile back on link removed. Talk about a knife in the heart, I can't believe someone I cared about turned out to be such a jerk! All I can think about now is that he is hanging out with her, and being with her, and I'm alone! Then I have a dream last night that she sent me a letter detailing all the times that he cheated on me with her (don't know if this happened, it was a dream) Anyone have some advice? Much appreciated. I feel like I've been stomped all over again!
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    He cheated on me!
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    I did, it just sucks to think that someone you cared for doesn't give a hoot about your feelings, or even give himself a chance to find someone better than a "go to" girl.
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    Why should I be sympathetic, all through out our relationship he would talk to his ex and lie to me about it, he obviously wanted a rise out of me.
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    So NC is broken by him last night, he calls me to see what I want to do with the rest of my stuff at his house. We are talking and he admits that he's slept with the ex that he had continually lied about during our relationship (and eventaully ruined it). He said that he did it just to spite me because I told him not to, and that she was just a "hole" (nice) and that he didn't care about her feelings, but cared about mine! He also said that he put a profile on link removed because he knows he doesn't want to get back together with her. I say they are made for each other, pathertic and patheticer. He also said that he didn't want to hurt me any further than he already did and part of the reason why he is doing these things is because he still has feelings for me and wants to get over me. I don't feel that awful about it, I kind of expected this it's just so funny how he turned out to be, like someone I don't even know! I thought he was different, but turns out he's just a kook. I laughed when he told me and I actually feel better like I can move on , cause he's just too sad for words in my eyes. Any feedback appreciated!
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    6 months! Oh no!
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    Thanks, yes I am sleeping eating and exercising my butt off, and venting on paper and to friends. I guess I am better than I was a week ago. I just want it to stop hurting and to stop thinking about it! I just feel like such a fool for staying as long as I did, I guess hind sight is 20/20.
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    When do you stop feeling like you have a hole in the middle of your chest? I feel like my ex is back with his ex, I don't know for sure, not that it really matters since he's a liar and will probably always be. It's just not fair, I don't feel like I've gotten any better and it's been almost a month. I knew we weren't meant to be together I had a funny feeling the whole time we were dating, now I just feel so jaded like I won't be able to date again cause I am bitter and I will just push someone away that might be a nice guy I feel awful. I don't know why I feel like this, I was really starting to resent him and not like the person he was so why do I feel like this still??
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    I totally agree with Lady Bugg, you know that it's not right to be hanging out with her, that's why you posted the question here!! You can do it! The only way to move on is to break contact. I know it's hard and it stinks but it's the only way to move on. I know, I've been doing it myself for the last 3 weeks. But just think, if I kept in contact with my ex, I may miss a really great person. It didn't work out for a reason and you have to accept it. I know it's painful but it's just part of life.
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    Thanks, I knew he wasn't right for me the whole time. I guess I'm just having a down day. I just can't help to think sometimes that we made a mistake. But then a second later I think something different. It's just hard sometimes when I think about the fun we had and I wonder if I'll ever meet anyone that measures up to his good side?
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    So I went out to have fun for the first night since the break up, I have fun, I meet some people exchange phone numbers with some guy, so why do I feel like crap now? I wake up and miss him horribly. I can't help but think of the fun we had, but I can also remember what a jerk he was to me. All my friends are either married or engaged so I feel like a failure that I can't make anything work. And I also wonder if it's me sometimes, my relationships never work out and there's always two sides to the story. I just feel so alone and sad right now, I'm sure I'll feel better later but it was like running into a brick wall this morning, like it was the first morning. Does it ever get better? (it's been about 3 weeks no contact)
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    Heck no, I told him not to. Part of me thinks hes just repecting me, part of me thinks he doesn't care and is seeing someone else by now.
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    Thanks guys I just get so frustrated, and at the same time a little releaved that it is over and now I can find someone who really makes me happy I just worry that I'm just not pushing someone away that I could have made it with.
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    Why is it my drive home from work makes me get upset and think about everything? It does get easier and easier but I want to stop having these crying spells. When I have them I almost start laughing to myself because its so silly! I get upset because what if he was the one, wait what am I saying he didn't make me happy and was a liar! I just wonder if there is someone out there who can just not be so afraid to show their feelings. I will keep my chin up and not let him get the best of me, he is just a coward who couldn't handle me.
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    Thanks guys for being so supportive! We will all get there, I haven't contacted him, so another day down!
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    Keep your chin up! I know it's hard, I'm going through it too, we all have to stick together right!? DO NOT CONTACT HER, it will only make you feel worse and prolong it. YOU CAN DO IT!! Go out for a walk, heck even run, do something, just don't contact!!
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    Just when I think I'm doing ok, those feelings come back and the tears. It seems like when I am driving home from work it all floods back. I am thinking better at work and really trying to keep busy but I can't help but think of how I was treated by someone I had feelings for. I know it doesn't do me any good to think about what he is doing and who he is with but I can't help it sometimes. Sometimes I just want him to contact me, but if he did I wouldn't reply anyway, how could I be with someone who didn't make me happy and was dishonest? The one question I have is, if he lied to me he will surly do it to someone else, right? A leopard doesn't change there spots?
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    When me and my boyfriend broke up, he did cry. And he probably cries now, just in private. He also cried when we had arguments.
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    Oh yes I know, I hope he doesnt contact me though, I hope it's someone else. I don't think you are mean, your a straight shooter like me. Your just telling the truth. He does have problems letting it show, but the funny thing is (not that I thought it was funny just strange) he cried about breaking up, then he said he'll deal with it in his own time. Its just so frustrating, he was the perfect guy for me, other than the fact he lied, possibly cheated and wasn't there for me! Lol! Just writing that looks ridiculous! Other wise he was a great guy! lol
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    Thanks sxclady, it's just hard, I don't want to know that is he is not doing well, that's just mean, but a little bit inside of me would like to know that he is having trouble just like me.
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    Thanks Kell, it's funny cause the last thing he said to me was "you were trying to make me someone I'm not, I'm sorry I wasn't the person you wanted me to be" very interesting for someone who doesn't communicate very well. I believe that about dreams too, I just wish I wouldn't remember them when I wake up! I believe he won't change, but maybe he will, he lies a lot, to try and save face.
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    We broke up March 23 and I have been doing NC since March 31.
  23. thegoodgirl04
    that I was in total agreence with breaking up (I started to resent this man and become really annoyed with him and his actions) and now I can't even think straight anymore, I am scattered brained, forgetful, lazy. Did he mean more to me than I thought or is it because we were together all the time and I have to just get used to being without him. I feel like a loser because he seems to be getting along fine (I don't know this for sure, but the last time I saw him he was running around his house doing things like a chicken with this head cut off) but there are indications that he wasnt doing so well, like he wasnt thinking so clearly. It just stinks to go through so much with someone, good and bad, and for it to come to this. I am still going strong with no contact, and I'm not doing it to make him come back, cause if he did come back I wouldn't want him anyway, it's just the memories that are sad. He said maybe in a few months we can talk with out weirdness, well I don't want to talk in a few months. Now I've had two dreams about him in two nights, great! Last nights was I went to his house and he was telling me how great he was doing and then tried to have sex with me and I said no, I even have willpower in my dreams! Why can't I get over it, I just want to be done and get back to me and be happy, not always walking around with this weight on my shoulders hoping not to run into him (we live in the same town). I wish I could look at everything with a birds eye view, then I would be OK. Cause from what my friends said, they knew he wasn't making me happy. I knew I wasnt happy too, I just chose to ignore it. Do people ever change, if they lie in your relationship, do they do it again in their next? Thanks for letting me vent, I'm getting there...
  24. thegoodgirl04
    I guess this is one of those "bad days" it's raining here I'm trying to keep busy cleaning up, mopping floors, laundry etc and its not working! I can't help to think about him and wonder what he's doing, it hurts! I feel so stupid and I feel like I'm wasting time even thinking about him, I keep catching myself wanting to contact him, and I've been doing so well!
  25. thegoodgirl04
    Hi sorry you are feeling down, I too am having a lot of ups and downs, but that's just the process. It sucks I know, but just think how much better you will be for it in the end. No one ever said life is easy or fair. I know what gets me through (my ex lied to me and wasn't there on many an occasion when I needed him) that you would never do that to someone, and someday you'll meet someone who would never leave you in the learch like that, it will happen!
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