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  1. thegoodgirl04
    Most definaltely time to throw in the towel, I felt this way just a few months ago, not a good way to feel. Just to let you know you may feel sad and might even regret it when you break up but in the end you'll be much happier!
  2. thegoodgirl04
    Well he dropped them off like he said he would, I'm shocked actually that he did what he said he would do. Now I am sitting here with my dog crying. Ahh he wasn't good for me why do I keep thinking these thoughts!!
  3. thegoodgirl04
    Your right, why am I blaming myself, he made the choice not me, but it hurts just the same. I wish I could stop thinking this way!
  4. thegoodgirl04
    I think your right star, he even said when we were breaking up "I'm sorry I couldn't be who you wanted me to be" which is kind of scary because I wonder if I will ever find someone! I also wonder if I put too much pressure on him and he just couldn't handle it, his out was going to his ex.
  5. thegoodgirl04
    I feel better and better every day but I still break down and cry. It still hurts but I know it's only preparing me for something better. How could I still have feelings though for someone who did the things that he did. I guess it's just my ego cause in the end I didn't really have feelings for him, I just resented him for not being there for me and going behind my back with his ex, etc. I have always been able to get over my ex's in a timley manner, this one seems to keep haunting me for some reason, I am still confused as he's one of those guys who looks great on paper and great in the beginning but as time progresses he's just a mess. I am luckly cause the dates that I have been on have been with really nice guys who are just happy to be keeping company with me (I haven't even kissed anyone yet so I am moving slooooooow). It's funny how ironic life is, just a month ago I was wondering if there were no nice guys left and I have dated two, but I still am thinking of my ex! How frustrating!
  6. thegoodgirl04
    Oh crap guys, now I feel bad, I'm so confused! Why do I still have feelings for this jerk! Luckily he will only be dropping the tires off, when I'm not around. I don't think I could handle seeing him.
  7. thegoodgirl04
    Well I emailed him and asked him to drop them off at my apartment door when I'm at work tomorrow (he doesn't work thurs.) That way I don't have to see him. I still have the fish tank there! My friend with a truck will be picking it up next week.
  8. thegoodgirl04
    Oh man I don't know what to do!! Ahhhh! I almost don't even want to contact him to get them, but I really want them!
  9. thegoodgirl04
    Thanks 2smart!
  10. thegoodgirl04
    I know, I know! I do have the money, but I am trying to buy a house so every penny counts, but it's not worth the pain and he doesn't deserve to see me so I should just buy new ones!
  11. thegoodgirl04
    I have a mountain bike that I ride a lot in fact I am going to be doing some races. I need to switch out my tires, the tires are at my ex's house (which is only like 4 blocks away) should I go and get them or just continue NC and buy new ones?
  12. thegoodgirl04
    I know I should just forget him, he's such a liar I don't know if I believe that he actually slept with his ex. It's hard for me to not take what he did personally, the only thing I have is knowing I would never do that to someone. I actually expected it from him. So after telling me he slept with her I asked if they were getting back together then, he said no and that he put his profile on link removed (his name is rideguy if you want to check out what a liar looks like) and that he just used her, didn't care about her feelings, cared about mine and would never do something like that to me. He also said there were no strings attached with her, again nice...
  13. thegoodgirl04
    Thanks for the reply major, I agree that not forgetting is a good idea, it's just painful. I keep telling myself that the reason why he did what he did has nothing to do with me, it's his own insecurities and issues that lead him to do those things. Also it's hard for me to think that he didn't hurt me on purpose because 2 weeks after we broke up he told me he slept with an ex (after we broke up) when I asked him why he said he did it just to spite me! Nice...(this guy is 32 by the way)
  14. thegoodgirl04
    Well, he betrayed you for one, and of course it will make you feel bad. This is someone you love and trusted, it's normal to feel like this about it. But I think you made the right decision for yourself, because how can you have a relationship with someone who you don't trust. Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship and in my book if you don't have the trust you don't have anything. It will take sometime for you to work it all out in your head, but you'll be better for it in the end that you decided to end it. Take care of yourself, and I wish the best for you!
  15. thegoodgirl04
    Is that the answer to get over an ex, so you just dont care anymore, forgive and forget, cause I can't seem to forgive so how can I forget? I usually wake up every morning thinking about him, usually that he is with his ex (which probably isnt true). I try to tell my self "it's over move on" but thoughts keep creeping back into my head. I've gone on other dates and kept myself busy with school, work, excersize, volunteering, househunting etc and I keep thinking about someone who doesnt deserve my thoughts! I wish I could forgive him for the things that happened in our relationship (like the lying, backhanded comments, him not ever being there for me, or just him not being a man) but I can't seem to get to that point. This was a guy who looks great on paper but in real life is screwed up and doesnt have great self esteem, he was bullied in high school to the point someone broke his collarbone, which I think would effect someone's personality greatly. I didn't find this out until the end of the relationship. What do you guys think?
  16. thegoodgirl04
    I used to get them all the time with my ex, the way I cured it? We broke up! LOL but seriously. I went to the natural foods store and got a concentrated cranberry pill, out of all the stuff I tried it worked the best. Hope you feel better!
  17. thegoodgirl04
    Already good things have happened that would have not happened if I was still with my ex, I guess I'm just lonley, I don't know if I really miss him persay, cause when I was with him I was miserable. He's one of those guys who looks good on paper, good job, has a house, seemingly has it all together, then you get sucked in and he starts to play elementary games. I doubt that I was the first person he dated that his game playing affected. He said he never had a relationship like the one he had with me.
  18. thegoodgirl04
    Thanks guys, I know I'll be OK, I just have to stop this tape that keeps repeating over and over in my head.
  19. thegoodgirl04
    so I am driving down the highway and who do I see, my ex coming back from a mountian bike ride with two bikes on the roof of his truck, I am guessing it's one of his guy friends or the ex he was doing whatever with. I was doing so better before I saw him, now I just feel like a loser, who is missing out on something even though I know I wouldn't have been happy with him. It's just so frustrating because I keep seperating how he really is from the fake front that he put up. It just erks me because I feel like his ex won and they are together (I know this is a silly statement because he's already back on link removed) and he is having this wonderful life and he's happy, all without me. I just want him to call and say I want you back so I can get the upper hand. I know this isnt right, but I would feel so much better, maybe?
  20. thegoodgirl04
    Ahh it's just so frustrating, like it came back to bite me! I fell better than I did even last week but I am still so sad and he probably doesn't even think about me, it's just such a heartbreak to know that someone who cared for you just doesnt any more. Yes there are plenty of reasons that I left and stay gone, but it still leaves a hole in my chest!
  21. thegoodgirl04
    That's wonderful! There is hope! How long did it take you to start to not care?
  22. thegoodgirl04
    Ugh! It's so frustrating! All I keep thinking about too is the bad stuff he said about me like he never felt comfortable around me and crap like that. But what do I care what he says? I just have to keep my chin up and know, hopfully, that there is someone out there for me.
  23. thegoodgirl04
    I still have feelings for my ex and I wish I was with him still, I keep focusing on the good things about him, even though I wanted out of the relationship, now I think I made a mistake. But I guess if i really felt that way I would be trying anything to get back. All my friends can't be wrong, none of them really liked him and thought I was miserable when I was with him, what if we just got off on the wrong foot. The sad thing is I know if we got back together the same thing would happen again.
  24. thegoodgirl04
    I am doing all the right things working out keeping my self busy with work, school and such. I can't help but ask myself the "what ifs" for some reason. What if he wasn't such a jerk, what if he didn't keep talking to his ex and lying to me about it. It looks funny now that I type it out. I am still fighting the urge to talk to him. I guess I was just used to being around him, but today I just can't get him out of my mind for some reason. I think I can handle the dating cause the people I have gone out with are not looking for anything more at this time which is good, but sometimes it just makes me miss him more. I'm just afraid that when and if he comes crawling back I won't have the strength to say no (don't know why I am worrying about this because he is out there dating too). I wish my mind didn't think so much!!
  25. thegoodgirl04
    AHhh this is so frustrating after all the crap that he put me through why am I still missing him? I had a dream last night that we went to Big Sur cali and he asked me to marry him and it felt so right (not like how it felt when I was with him, like something was eating me the whole time) then I wake up and it's raining and I am alone I almost have to laugh at how pitiful it sounds. Last night I went on another date with this rock climber guy, he's OK but there isn't a huge spark I don't know if that's cause I'm not over my ex or if there just isnt a spark. But we haven't kissed yet (5th date) because we are taking it slow and being friends first, which is actually fine with me because I don't want to kiss anyone yet, but maybe I should just to get over how I feel, maybe it would help. I keep trying to put myself out there and keep myself busy and go on dates with different guys, but my mind still comes back to my ex. I keep trying to remember all the bad stuff he did instead of the good stuff and it's not working! The bad stuff just seems to faid away, which is so disapointing cause it's almost like I am accepting the bad stuff!! Help!
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