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Thread: Men, can you be just friends with an attractive female?

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    Men, can you be just friends with an attractive female?

    Why or why not?

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    Sure. But sometimes the question is 'should' he maintain a friendship with a female, especially if one of them is in a romantic relationship with someone else.

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    So men can only have platonic friendships with ugly women if they're in a relationship?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    So men can only have platonic friendships with ugly women if they're in a relationship?
    Exactly. I'm a gal and I have had male platonic friends most of my life and I am not ugly (well these days at 53, running myself ragged perhaps not as cute anymore but....) - and yes it was platonic and very, very rewarding. Still is. I know of quite a number of men who cheated on their partners with women who were far from conventionally attractive.

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    Some can, some can't.

    The problem is, many women are attractive and men love them.

    If the man is in a relationship and in love with their SO, sometimes it's easier - the SO looks more attractive to him because he's in love with her. Many good people, who have integrity, tend to be naturally monogamous, including men, when in love. Don't ever underestimate the power of love.





    The following does not apply to most men, only a small percentage:

    I'm a life coach and an empath, and I do have some beautiful lady friends (one looks like Meg Ryan).......but I know they don't want to kiss me, so I don't want to kiss them - ever.

    However, if I meet a woman who has the hots for me........ I might not be able to be friends with her.... because it's too tempting..with the chemistry that she projects with her feelings, I might slip up and give in to her charms. So, when single, can I be friends with women? - sometimes, it depends on the circumstances.

    If I'm in a relationship, I don't care how hot she is. I'm not that easy, lol

    There are about 3 to 5 percent of men who are like this.

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    Replied in your other thread on this topic: [Register to see the link]
    Originally Posted by peachypeach
    Why or why not?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    So men can only have platonic friendships with ugly women if they're in a relationship?
    LOL....

    OP, of course they can.

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    Yes, but only after you have known her for long enough to know that you are not romantically attracted to her.

    Otherwise, it can end badly.

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    Originally Posted by RayRay63
    Yes, but only after you have known her for long enough to know that you are not romantically attracted to her.

    Otherwise, it can end badly.
    Its her boss.

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    Can with restraint, and boundaries set. But them not thinking about smashing you? no.

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