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    Deciding what ex’s say

    If an ex told you that her values and preferences had changed all of a sudden in a long distance relationship and she did not love you anymore, would you assume that they met someone else and that the new guy was what her preferences changed to?

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    I would assume she is pretty well over me, and probably has been over me for a while, and it's time for me to start my grieving process and then move on. I would assume that further inquiry into whether or not she was cheating on me will hurt me more than they will help me. I would assume that I am a really good boyfriend normally, but that the long distance situation just really wasn't working for both of us. I would assume that we had a beautiful relationship at one time, but the time in which we can learn from each other has come to an end, and someday I can take what I learned in this relationship into a new one with someone else.

    Hang in there, none of this is supposed to be easy.

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    I was respectfully able to let her go two weeks after the break up and told her it was all for the best and i haven’t contacted her since! I never said anything disrespectful! However I was made aware that there was another man in the picture and that crushed me! Here I am almost two months later still not completely over her! I have more good days than bad now but sometimes my mind wonders and I wonder if I could have been better. I’m also adjusting to losing all the mutual friends I met through her. She cut me off completely like I didn’t even exist.

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    At one point I asked her BFF If ther was anything I could do and all she said was “work on yourself” “don’t worry about her”

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    I'm assuming she wasn't your ex yet when she told you this?

    How long were you dating and how often did you meet?

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    If she is an ex, she really doesn't need to tell you anything. It is super hard to deal with, but it is life.

    On the other hand, YOU are now free to explore! If her values changed, would she even be the same person you loved? Probably not. As far as you wondering if you could have been better, the answer is no. You were you. That is all you can be. And YOU are just right for the right person.

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    She is an X, which means you don't have to worry or decode anything they say. Accept that its over and you must move forward.

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    Yep she said this!! We dated 4.5 years! 2 in the same town and the other 2.5 was distance. I visited as often as I could. I did notice that once I started my business and started focusing more on that we started to grow apart some.

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    Originally Posted by Bro32
    Yep she said this!! We dated 4.5 years! 2 in the same town and the other 2.5 was distance. I visited as often as I could. I did notice that once I started my business and started focusing more on that we started to grow apart some.
    She said what?

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    She blamed me for everything and just cut me off after we met up! When i last saw her which was two weeks after the break up I could already see how removed she was from me. She told me when she met this guy which was like 3 weeks before we broke up is when she realized how disconnected she was from the relationship. She said she was sorry for stringing me along! She had mentioned having feelings for someone but said he wasn’t in the picture anymore and I let it go on! I was played

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