belladun Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 One particular cousin and I have always been close. We’ve always been very touchy, hugs etc. For example if we’re laying on the couch, we put our legs up on each other or even play “footsie” he’s in his early 30s and I’m 20s. We still do it. TLDR - it doesn’t feel weird, I’m happy with this close but curious about other peoples experiences/thoughts. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 A hug upon meeting and going . That’s it. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 I would say that’s a little weird. If I was dating you and saw that I would be uncomfortable. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 Footsie? Laying together? Yes, weird. Typically cousins are polite, if they're a bit closer a quick hug, but that's it. Link to comment
Annia Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 I usually hug my cousins and that's it. At this age laying together and playing footsie seems too much to me but if y'all feel comfortable doing it then it's ok. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 It depends on your culture and family dynamics. Why are you concerned if you're both happy with it? Have others mentioned it's weird? Is this when a others are present? I’m happy with this close Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 I hug my cousins; in the country where I currently reside, cousins kiss each other on each cheeek upon greeting. Laying together and playing footsie would make me very uncomfortable. Why do you ask, OP? Link to comment
j.man Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 Hugs, cheek or forehead kisses, being fine sitting against each other, I don't know. I'm the oldest of more than three dozen cousins and have had a hand in taking care of pretty much all of them, so if I really thought about it, there are probably ways I'll tease or mess with them that some might(?) consider flirty if they didn't know there's more of a sibling dynamic that may not be typical, but I can't say I ever lie down with my legs over theirs or play footsie with them. Then again, if I were dating someone still playing footsie in their 20s or 30s, I'd probably find it strange regardless of who it was with. Regardless of how strange it might be to most of us, it sounds innocuous enough. Even if it weren't, it's none of my business. But I, too, would be curious to know why you're asking. Are you hoping most people don't do this? I don't get the impression you've lived under a rock your whole life and aren't aware this is atypical. Link to comment
tattoobunnie Posted December 26, 2018 Share Posted December 26, 2018 I don't see anything wrong with footsies. Siblings do it. And I was super close with my two cousins that lives next town over. We saw eachother like 3x a week. I dance with my bro. Very close with my family. Just depends on how you were growing up. Nothing weird being reported here. Link to comment
greendots Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 I'm with j.man on this one. Albeit forehead kisses are, in my case, reserved for really young ones or the elderly such as my grandparents. Footsies among adults are in my view, unless they are dating, strange. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 I find footsies with cousins at this age strange, regardless of upbringing or culture. I wouldn't blink at hugs, kiss on the cheek for greeting or leaving, touchy family dynamics. Footsie though and sprawled across each other, to me, has a slightly sexual element to it and I would find it crossing lines. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 Laying down together?? What the heck! That one still boggles the mind. Link to comment
greendots Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 Laying down together?? What the heck! That one still boggles the mind. SherrySher Mine, too. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 Do you have any kind of romantic feelings for this cousin? Are either of you married, in a serious relationship or dating anyone? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted December 27, 2018 Share Posted December 27, 2018 For me it's very weird and would make me feel very uncomfortable. A hug between cousins, for me, is normal. Lying down together, legs over each other and playing footsie ... not so much. OP, are you coming back to respond to the replies you have received? Link to comment
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