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  1. This is good news! As others have said please keep going. πŸ™‚
  2. Tinydance, I'm so glad that this worked out for you and that you both are moving forward together! I am, however, concerned about you. Like plenty of other posters are. It saddens me to hear that you were about to lose a wonderful opportunity with a guy. All because one drunken evening, you made the decision to have sex with your friends due to being wasted from drinking coffee flavoured rum. Alcohol isn't helping you. I'm not passing judgement. I just want what's best for you.
  3. How did she say this to you? There's a difference between saying that and adding a cheeky wink after that sentence or saying that and going into a lengthy rant about why. Or saying that simply because you asked her. Ultimately, "nothing ventured, nothing gained." My recommendation, put yourself out there and ask her out for coffee. Make her laugh, have a great time. (Obviously if she's crying her eyes out about this break up that's another story.) Honestly, the worst thing you could do is wait... because you might be waiting forever. There's never going to be the right time or the perfect time. Plus, coffee is just that, coffee. See how it goes. Then, you take it from there. πŸ™‚ Just to add, I'd follow catfeeder's advice. You want to be seen as 'dateable', not a therapist who listens to her break-up woes.
  4. So sorry, Seraphim. Thinking of you and your family. ❀️
  5. When someone doesn't care about you, they generally act indifferent. She isn't being indifferent towards you, so she surely likes you. How much? Once you ask her out on a date, you'll find out. πŸ™‚
  6. I think you really want to make it work with the new girl - otherwise you wouldn't be here. What's really holding you back? How often does she coach? Outside of her not working full-time, do you both have similar lifestyles? Getting a master's degree is impressive. She doesn't seem to be a slacker. She might just need some orientation / guidance on what job brings her fulfillment. I'd definitely recommend speaking to her about how you feel and hearing her out.
  7. You're welcome! The good news about making friends online now is that once lockdown is over, you'll be able to meet them in real life for walks or whatever you feel like. πŸ™‚
  8. No. The beauty industry sells us aspirations, desires and taps into our need to 'fit into' society. "You could be more attractive to others if you buy that". "You will feel more relaxed if you buy this." I'm thinking, Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Beauty products are not essential like food or water, but they soothe some of our psychological needs such as belonging and esteem. If you were to isolate a group of women and merely observed them, what would you discover? The beauty industry is simply using that know-how to sell us products.
  9. Sorry to hear about your dad and everything you are going through. Either you are broken up or you aren't. I feel you both aren't working as a team. She's going on journey of self-recovery where she decides when to talk to you and, meanwhile, you wait and for how long? That's unfair on you. As others have suggested, please focus on yourself, your dad and healing. Agree with SooSad, one day at a time indeed.
  10. Good to hear from you, musicman! Honestly, she's blessed to have you as a boyfriend. 😊
  11. We are alike. πŸ˜ƒ Love chocolates, flowers not so much. nyc23, honestly, bring whatever you feel is appropriate. As you might have noticed we all have a different take on the "What should I bring" question. You know her better than us. At the end of the day, whichever token/gift you bring her, it's a sweet gesture. That's what counts.
  12. It's always a nice and well received gesture to bring something, even when the host tells you not to. As other's have suggested, bringing wine or alcohol is tricky, because you need to find some that she likes and would go well with the food - if she's the type to care about that stuff. How about some flowers or a quality box of chocolate instead?
  13. Definitely agree with you! However, if it's only been a few days I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. In any case, it's more about not moping around waiting for the other person to contact you. πŸ™‚ Luis, for the time being I'd recommend that you wait and focus on other things. Let's not jump to conclusions about what might or might not happen. Withdrawing seems to be the way your girlfriend deals with conflict. Evidently her way of handling conflict doesn't sit well with you, so you might want to calmly speak to her about it (face-to-face) next time you see her.
  14. Let's not jump to conclusions about her wanting to end things. Right now, all we know is she needs space. That's it. Maybe she's having to deal with some other stuff. When she replies back, you want to give an upbeat and positive vibe. Positive energy is attractive and contagious. πŸ™‚
  15. She probably read your apology (on her notifications). Let her deal with her own issues and when she's ready to communicate with you, she will. Honestly, replying straight away is generally a good thing. Except when they have asked for space and when you're too available.
  16. My guess is that if she replies to your text right now, there's a chance you're going to reply back. Then, she'll have to carry a conversation, which she doesn't want to do at the moment. So, it's easier for her not to reply back just yet. Again, just a guess. When someone wants to talk to you, they usually do. Doesn't matter how busy they are. Also, lots of people don't "officially" (when ticks turn blue or some other colour) read a text until they are going to reply back. So I wouldn't stress about it. She'll talk to you when she's ready. In the meantime, as difficult as this is, I'd try to focus on other things.
  17. He broke up with you via text?! You certainly don't deserve to be treated that way. It's good to hear that you are feeling much better!
  18. I'm sorry for the loss of your puppy, ninjabib.
  19. Baristas wearing bikinis at espresso stands? What the heck?!
  20. Do not engage. Rise above it and be diplomatic. A simple thank you note will do. But do not engage. Some battles are not worth getting into. How about discussing the effect your MIL's behaviour is having on you with your husband, so you both can establish healthy boundaries in that respect?
  21. Awesome progress on your weight loss journey! Keep it up. πŸ™‚ I understand that dieting is something you do together and that motivated you. Unfortunately, you aren't in-sync at the moment. So, I'd suggest you keep dieting because you want to and the benefits it gives you. Do it for you and be proud of the progress you've accomplished so far. As for her - maybe she feels pressured? Maybe something else? Whatever her reasons for not progressing in her weight loss journey right now, they are most likely not related to you. Keep supporting her from the sidelines, whilst she figures this out.
  22. All the best, ems! I hope it goes well for you on Monday. πŸ™‚
  23. He may have been embarrassed or acting cool or he may be a private person. Some classmates (friends of a boy) asked me once whether I was interested in this boy. I answered no. Why? It was none of their business whether I liked him or not. What I didn't get at the time is that this boy might've been interested in me so his friends, sort of, did the work for him. Anyhow, I'm sharing this with you because the best way to know the truth is to go directly to the source. πŸ™‚
  24. Great to hear that you've got a plan! πŸ™‚ I know that living at home is unbearable right now, but soon you'll be chasing your dream - the military. Focus on that. I'm sure there must be some training you've got to do, preparations, etc. Some posters here are military spouses and whatnot, so it's a good opportunity for you to get some tips / info.
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