Pianooooooss

So.......I just found out he's taken. The rejection makes sense now. 🙃

Thank you!

Perhaps I'll be more straightforward with other guys in the future, but for now, I'm willing to lay it to rest. Precisely for the reason someone said: I don't want to feed into any delusions and chase an uninterested guy. 😅

I can see that. But I think reaching out again trying to come up with another time would be a big weirdo move, lol.

I think if he was truly interested he would have followed up with another time, but I'm not stressed about it. Moving onward!

Yes, I definitely don't have regrets on doing it! I think I'm also proud of the inner work I've really tried to focus on lately. Old me would spiral and overthink and blame myself. Now I'm glad to let go but still practice confidence (even if took me several days and an internet forum to do it 😂).

Well, I just checked again. I thought he ghosted me, but he eventually responded (after like 8 hours). Said he's too busy to come to the event. I can take the hint. Oh, well! 🤷‍♀️

LOL! He ghosted me! I wonder if I came off too strong. Or something. Oh, well. Going to try real hard not to overthink about this...

Welp. I sent it. 🤪

I'm getting so much conflicting advice. Some people are like, "Ask him out very directly!" and others are like, "OMG, he's not interested, you're going to get played." 😕

So: "Hey, are you coming out to our art event tomorrow? I'm going to be tabling for [org name here], but afterward I'm going to chill and check out this restaurant I heard is good. You interested in joining?"

Thanks for the encouragement. Because I posted this on another forum and people are calling me obsessed and desperate. The only reason I feel the need to do this is what I said in the OP and that I'm on the clock during the event tomorrow (I'm tabling for an org) so I literally can't leave until the end. If he shows up at 11, leaves at 12, but I gotta stay there till 6, it's a bust. So, yeah. This is what I'm going to say. "Hey, are you coming out to our art event tomorrow? I'm going to be busy most of the day, but afterward I'm going to chill and check out this restaurant I heard is good. You interested in joining?" And totally leave the ball in his court then.

The only thing I can think of is a big art collective event we're having our event space tomorrow! But I'll be busy the whole day and it's not a 1:1 date thing. 😕 Wait -- maybe I can invite him to hang out after it ends at 6pm? Like, "Hey, are you coming out to our art event tomorrow? I'm going to be busy most of the day, but...." And then I don't know how to finish that sentence. 😂

Maybe a, "Thanks! Also, if you ever know another cool movie event or likewise, I'd love to go again!" Or is that too passive? I tried to find a cool local event to go to invite him to, but none looked interesting. Isn't it weird to go straight from talking about org recommendations to asking out someone for lunch? Yall gotta give me the words to say 😂😭

Okay...so, I did it. I just asked him what was the name of the organization and he came back right away with some names. He sounded friendly, but nothing that sounds like interest. I don't think he's out of my league or anything, but I'm really trying to reframe this in my mind as us both being on equal ground and me simply making the first move vs me feeling like a stalker hanger-on. 😕 How TF do I move the conversation forward now?