Curiosgeorge93

Thanks for the message. So we were together like 8 months so I know not a very long time but we both thought the connection was insane - which is where I just don’t get the blindside. She was totally loving us and our relationship, excited for the future, Christmas gifts like scrapbooks, saying she was extremely attracted to me and loved the sex - this was like 10th-December to Christmas. We broke on the 13th January and she said just after Christmas is when she started to feel different but said I did nothing wrong and it’s not me it’s her cliche, she just lost feelings and “somethings missing”. She told me she didn’t want to try again around 5th February - but a good 3 or 4 times she has reached out to message me and flirt and the coworkers agreed there is no other way to take the message but being flirty. See my answer is in two fold - if she is clear and done then I don’t want to reconcile I know when I’m not wanted and they’ve been clear. its when they are UNCLEAR ie flirting and still showing signs when I’m like OK but why the mixed signals? What makes it difficult is she is very avoidant and is very hot and cold so trying to ask direct questions or get a phone call out of her rather than text is providing difficult. on the meeting someone else, I didn’t think she would she said she wasn’t dating and wants to keep herself busy and focusing on her - however she is in contact with her ex of 4 years as he is the father of her child but she has categorically said at the start and during relationship there is no feelings there and things are done, she only sees him as the dad. so this theory of potential him being around adds further confusion for myself in it all and I can’t trust her reasoning for the break off. She has in summary based our relationship off of a whole 2-3 weeks from Christmas and I can’t really see what had even significantly changed in that / still having sex, still date nights, nice meals, texting all day, no signs nothing.

Hi all, me and my ex girlfriend recently split in the middle of January - she blindsided me over text following her birthday weekend where I made loads of plans and took her out (nice I know) context: She is 29 and I am 30 and I would of been okay with the breakup in time I think she said she lost feelings and attraction etc didn’t think there was a future. I try to follow no contact but she reaches out with flirting messages here and there or sends tiktok videos to me and sends eye emojis but then sometimes is also very cold and distant. she said she misses us when we first spoke on the phone week after break up and has said she is not sure she would every want to try again. the flirting is mixed signals - why is she doing this?