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Sorry the previous post was to Tiny dance.

It's odd how angry some people are getting that I didn't fancy meeting up? We exchanged a few messages and that was it, he's a stranger. Nobody owes anyone anything.

I understand what you mean, I really don't think my standards are high, and even if they were then surely that's a good thing. I really don't see why I was obliged to meet with somebody if I didn't want to? Are you telling me that if you've ever exchanged a few messages with someone, you absolutely must meet them in person under any circumstances? I didn't like the sound of him, I'm not looking down, I just didn't find him attractive, that's all.

Thank you. I think we want what we want, I don't for the best looking, richest or whatever, just someone I feel something about. He may well have been different in person, but the TV is such a minute aspect of it, it's not about how much TV he does or doesn't watch. It was just stuff like we didn't seem to have any shared interests. He seemed to have zero curiosity about the world and hadn't even visited the next county along, said he'd never do something like live abroad. I found his attitude to life unattractive, he may have been really funny in person or whatever but I just didn't want that. He may well have found something off putting about me but I guess that's dating.

I don't understand some of the catty comments. Maybe he got the 'ick' too, he's entitled to do so. No point of me going to meet him out of pity. If I didn't like the sound of him by text, what's the point of me going? Surely people here have spoken to men online but decided they didn't want to go ahead with meeting, you're just strangers at that point, nobody owes anyone anything. Lot of focus on the TV/films thing, it was just one example,but yeah maybe I wanted someone I had more in common with, no point settling. Anyway doesn't look like we'll be meeting now fortunately.

I was going to go and give it a chance. However he cancelled last minute anyway so.

It's going to be a very quick meet up over coffee so not much invested if there's no interest luckily.. will see what happens?

I decided to go and give it a chance.

It's not just films /books/TV, it's anything. He hasn't named any hobbies or interests. People can say I'm mean, but why should I go if we don't seem to have much in common? He's better to meet someone he's more in common with.

I'm not trying to be harsh on him I just don't feel like we have much in common. I'm sure he's a great guy but what's the point in going if the texting has already gone dry.. he's probably talking to a few girls anyway. Maybe I should go and I'll be pleasantly surprised, or maybe he'll not be into me, who knows.

The coworker has asked me to meet up again next week, which I wasn't expecting, but I'm not getting my hopes up. However no it's not even that, I just find it off putting that the guy can't even name 1 thing he watches or reads.. I did feel quite excited about him but not so much now.

Also I live in the next county along which is full of beautiful countryside, beaches, conversation areas and so on. It's literally 5 minutes away. This guy has apparently never visited the county in his life despite being almost 35...like not even curious.

It's from OLD. I'm probably sounding very picky but he just seems to have no imagination or passions. We were talking about films and he couldn't even tell me a film he'd seen recently or a film he'd like to see. He told me genres he liked but that was all, he couldn't even name a series he was watching, just mentioned watching the footy. He doesn't seem to be reading a book ATM. His messages were funny, interesting and charismatic but I just find this really off putting. When you're in person and you're nervous, your mind can go blank when asked about films etc I get that, but this is all by text and I haven't met him yet. Also what's this thing of men on OLD still living with parents in mid 30s? I get it's hard to save for a deposit, but they wouldn't even live in a houseshare or something and at least have independence at 34 for goodness sake. Anyway, I guess I'm getting the ick. He looks attractive from pics and seems a fun guy, but I just don't think I should go. Would you cancel?

Sorry I only just saw these replies. Thank you for replying, I think I just wasn't used to spending a lot of time with her so closely. She is a great parent and I guess we just have different personalities. Usually I don't spend a few days at a time with her so I'm sure it'll be easier from now on.

It's also the lack of trust, as if I'm some daft kid who isn't capable of organising myself, when I've never proven otherwise.