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Everything posted by Amandatorimeating
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I understand what you mean, I really don't think my standards are high, and even if they were then surely that's a good thing. I really don't see why I was obliged to meet with somebody if I didn't want to? Are you telling me that if you've ever exchanged a few messages with someone, you absolutely must meet them in person under any circumstances? I didn't like the sound of him, I'm not looking down, I just didn't find him attractive, that's all.
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Thank you. I think we want what we want, I don't for the best looking, richest or whatever, just someone I feel something about. He may well have been different in person, but the TV is such a minute aspect of it, it's not about how much TV he does or doesn't watch. It was just stuff like we didn't seem to have any shared interests. He seemed to have zero curiosity about the world and hadn't even visited the next county along, said he'd never do something like live abroad. I found his attitude to life unattractive, he may have been really funny in person or whatever but I just didn't want that. He may well have found something off putting about me but I guess that's dating.
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I don't understand some of the catty comments. Maybe he got the 'ick' too, he's entitled to do so. No point of me going to meet him out of pity. If I didn't like the sound of him by text, what's the point of me going? Surely people here have spoken to men online but decided they didn't want to go ahead with meeting, you're just strangers at that point, nobody owes anyone anything. Lot of focus on the TV/films thing, it was just one example,but yeah maybe I wanted someone I had more in common with, no point settling. Anyway doesn't look like we'll be meeting now fortunately.
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I'm not trying to be harsh on him I just don't feel like we have much in common. I'm sure he's a great guy but what's the point in going if the texting has already gone dry.. he's probably talking to a few girls anyway. Maybe I should go and I'll be pleasantly surprised, or maybe he'll not be into me, who knows.
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It's from OLD. I'm probably sounding very picky but he just seems to have no imagination or passions. We were talking about films and he couldn't even tell me a film he'd seen recently or a film he'd like to see. He told me genres he liked but that was all, he couldn't even name a series he was watching, just mentioned watching the footy. He doesn't seem to be reading a book ATM. His messages were funny, interesting and charismatic but I just find this really off putting. When you're in person and you're nervous, your mind can go blank when asked about films etc I get that, but this is all by text and I haven't met him yet. Also what's this thing of men on OLD still living with parents in mid 30s? I get it's hard to save for a deposit, but they wouldn't even live in a houseshare or something and at least have independence at 34 for goodness sake. Anyway, I guess I'm getting the ick. He looks attractive from pics and seems a fun guy, but I just don't think I should go. Would you cancel?
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Daft questions, like she's seen me working, coming to and from work on many occasions, she knows I'm in a back office role and she knows perfectly well it's casual dress, I think she just does it for effect because she asked me in front of our guests 'So do you wear a uniform to work?" Like seriously what..
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I'm in my mid 30s and have just been away for a couple of days with my Mum (we paid for ourselves) I haven't lived at home for 7 years apart from a brief few weeks after a break up, and I admit I forgot what it's like. I feel bad saying it as she cares and is a very good Mum, she's just too much sometimes. She still sees me as a child I suppose. I've lived abroad for many years, and travel a lot alone but all the time on the trip she's saying 'make sure you've got your passport/tickets/are you sure you know where we're going/Are you sure this is right' etc. We stayed in an air BnB with seperate rooms next to each other. Just before bed I wanted to relax with a book or music but I couldn't because she kept shouting things into my room to ask me mundane questions or make random comments. Then complaining how my room is better than hers even though I offered her this room several times and she wanted the other one. Finding excuses to constantly come in like, my mirror is 'better' . Constantly panicking if she doesn't find something immediately "Where's my hairbrush?!' 'where's my charger?!' 'have you got it?' Then bursting into my room to have a look for it before finding it a minute later in her handbag. She says 'Shall we leave for 9am?' I say yes ok, and then at 8:30 I'm getting asked if I'm ready yet, if I'll be ready soon and so on. I've managed so far in life to be on time for things 99% of the time on my own. If she tells me to be ready for 9 I will be, it's annoying that she then changes it to be earlier as it suits her. We had one bathroom and she was saying ' What time are you going for a shower because I really need one' constantly. Just go for a bloody shower when you want and stop trying to force me to have one now. Constantly commenting on how we need to 'find me a man'. I'm only here for a couple of bloody days so there's obviously no point, and I'm not desperate to have one, I keep telling her this. The last thing is constantly interrupting people when they speak. It's so rude when she keeps cutting people off, even if not meaning to. My Mum can be quite sensitive and I try to be assertive but kind, by telling her I'm fine, I can manage xyz on my own or just telling her I need space. Not sure how else to manage it or if I'm being overly harsh? It just gets too much.
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Yes I wouldn't even if it were like "We are doing viewings this Saturday between 9-5" but 'over this week' is so vague and literally could be any time. They also didn't need to stand right outside the bathroom, they could've looked at another room. Tbh I don't like it here that much anyway but I've only been living here a month.
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They are supposed to give 24h notice before viewings of the HMO we live in, however our landlord/agent sent out a generic msg on Monday saying "There will be viewings of the spare rooms going on this week." I didn't know that would also include the weekend. I live in a HMO with a shared bathroom. Decided to take a bath, obviously locked the door. My bedroom is literally across from the bathroom and the house is incredibly quiet, all female so usually I walk back to my bedroom in my towels/dressing gown and get changed there. I was just getting out the bath today and putting the towel around me when I heard the landlord's voice and another voice I didn't recognise. Before I knew it the landlord was explaining where the bathroom was, and tried to open the door even though I had clearly locked it. I explained I was just changing, and they waited outside. I then had to awkwardly open the door to the landlord and a stranger wrapped in my bath towel and quickly get back to my room. I think notice should have been provided, and weekends aren't appropriate. Tenants should be allowed quiet enjoyment of their property and privacy.
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Don't feel bad. I get emotionally attached after sex too, and I've had many previous partners who 'suddenly' lost interest after sleeping with me. It does hurt when you can see the instant change in their vibe. Try and ask for another date, find out what's up sort of thing. If not, he isn't the one, but there will be lots of men out there who don't treat you like this.