MsBlonde

Honestly, I feel the same. This guy has a lot to prove. I’m just plodding along carefully this time round.

Yeah so he initially said today (Sunday) but I had plans so we agreed this Tuesday instead. He mentioned dinner pretty much straight away; which if I’m being naive made me feel he wanted to actually see me and not sleep with me. as that’s not an option during the week with work. Since the invite he has been in regular contact, even if I take a few hours to message back he is straight back with a response. Total polar opposite to what I had last week.

Yep spot on. Now he is back to messaging non stop. No idea what the 5 days of radio silence meant still to this day.

Next update!! I did message him back. I didn’t mention anything about the days of silence I worked myself up over. Skimmed over that and asked what he had in mind, which was dinner out so I sent some dates over. He offered some week nights that work for us both and due to our work schedules it will strictly be ‘just’ dinner. Which at this moment in time suits me fine. I’m open to seeing him again and if he puts the effort in than so will I. I’m certainly not going to push anything or put pressure on him but I won’t allow myself to just be an ‘option’ to him either. Only time will tell with this one!!

Update…. after not hearing from him at all week, he messaged today saying- ‘Would really love to get another date in the diary soon, what weekends are you free?’ 😩😩😩😩

Not this one sadly! Great song though! Thanks ☺️

We spoke for about 3 weeks on the phone most days before meeting and I was clear with him then that I was looking for something long term, to which he agreed. I wasn’t pushing this on him but he asked and i was open and truthful. Even on our first and second date it was reiterated, and again, after meeting me in person and spending time together he wanted that too. I thought we were on the same path. If he does message again indicating it is just sex I think I’ve heard enough (and feel) this isn’t the man for me and il be an adult and reply to him, politely declining.

I do really appreciate everyone’s input on this even if some comments are a little hard to hear I know I put myself in this position. After reading some I just want to confirm even on the morning he left he was very affectionate towards me and (next day) he did message saying he can’t wait to see me again. He made many suggestions even after ‘sex’ that he wanted a weekend away together to explore and do some fun activities. The messages just dried up after that, my open questions were just left with closed answers and now I’m left confused. Yes, he didn’t owe me anything, we weren’t in a relationship but surely it was building towards ‘something’? I made it clear my intentions were to build something and not just have a one night stand. A simple message to say ‘I’m sorry, it’s not for me’ would have sufficed. I would move on and just accept that. Instead I’m left feeling confused and now anxious to even date again. That’s sucks. il keep you updated if anything changes but for now thanks for your help, It means a lot.

Yep, lesson learnt. At least I know now for next time and won’t be repeating these mistakes again.

Thanks everyone, I think I’ve a got a much clearer idea on what’s going on now. I’m a sensitive soul and felt I made it very apparent early on with him that I was looking for something serious and not just a one night stand. So it’s my own fault really for moving things along too quickly and expecting something great to come from it. ‘Used’ was a strong word,I shouldn’t have wrote that. I don’t regret the sex part I’m just saddened with the fact he gave up on me and I haven’t seen or heard from him since to find out why….Probably for the best.

3 days ago. Which makes me question things as before we spoke every day

I started talking to this guy in December 23, conversations were every day and non stop. We went on a first date Christmas Eve and it was very romantic and clicked right away. Second date, dinner and drinks, third date I ask him round mine. We ended up sleeping together, it was really special and felt as though we had a connection. He then left for work and I didn’t hear from him all day. I felt afraid to reach out as in my gut I was thinking rejection. He did then message the next morning saying he had a great time and is looking forward to seeing me again soon. I responded but since then the conversation has really dried up. Part of me wants to message and check in on him yet I somehow feel I’m setting myself up for heartbreak. Do I keep my distance and wait for him to ask me out again? It’s been so long since I’ve dated anyone I’m so scared of being hurt but I really like him.