JuJu

Okay, I have known this guy, Joey, for two years. I've liked him since the minute I met him. He has liked me too. I was involved with someone else at the time, but after I got out of that relationship me and Joey had become really good friends during that time. So, he never asked me out because he didn't think I liked him and didn't want to get rejected. I started going out with someone else again. This pattern repeated three more times. During that time, me and Joey have become practically best friends and we are very open about him liking me and I explained to him that we are just too good of friends to start "going out" because I wouldn't want to ruin that friendship if we ever broke up. That is only really part of the reason though. I tend to break guy's hearts. I don't want Joey to be a statistic on the chart of Jessica's heartbreaks. It's like I care about him so much that I don't want to get together with him for fear of breaking his heart. Now recently, he started liking this other girl "Katie" and I'm am insanely jealous. I broke up with my boyfriend just two days before Joey asked Katie out. I'm not used to him having a girlfriend and me being single. It's like it intesifies my feelings for him now that he is with someone else. It's driving me crazy and I don't know what to do. This is something that is really good for him and I'm happy that he is happy because he has a girlfriend. I wouldn't want to break them up or anything. He still doesn't even know that I have feelings like that for him because I have beein lying about it for so long so that way I don't break his heart. It's like I break his heart by not being with him, but I would hurt him far worse if I went out with him and broke up with him later. I'm not even sure what I'm asking or why I am writing this...It's just that I need someone to talk to about it, but I can't tell anyone or else Joey will find out...I'm just afraid that I'll be too late now because by the time he will break up with Katie, he will be over me and I'd have lost my chance...

He doesn't like hugs from anyone. He told me yesterday that when he gets hugged it reminds him of something that makes him both sad and angry at the same time. I just don't know what it is yet!!!

I would say no, do not take him back. Be free for a while and enjoy the single life. Plus, like you said...you don't feel exactly the same way as you did before. It sounds like you got over him easy. If he really does love you and care, he'll wait. Just don't give in because you "feel bad."

This doesn't look good at all. I hate to say...but I've put a guy on a break before. Basically, it was because I didn't want to put him through the misery of "breaking up" all together. Plus, I wanted to keep him on the line just incase I didn't find anyone better. I...feel bad about that. Things didn't work out with us...I found someone else. I'm not really sure what your gf has planned, but I don't like the whole exact date thing either. Who does that??? Like you said, will it switch yes or no automatically when the clock strikes midnight on October 1??? She's planning ahead for something, I can tell. Maybe something to do with how well she does on her LSATs. I hope everything turns out well! Good Luck!

Well, that was the perfect definition of relationship if I've ever heard one myself! The only problem is...relationships are never perfect. Relationships are like an amusment park. There are ups and downs just like roller coasters. And since they aren't always so perfect, that's what helps make them stronger. {Borashi, you live in Minneapolis? I'm just outside of it, in Waconia.}

Don't be afraid! There's not really a way to explain HOW to do it. Just make sure your heads are tilted in different directions (so you don't bump together) and make sure you kiss back! Making out involves tongue, it might not seem like something that would be good...but once you do it, you'll like it. I remember my first time making out with someone, I was sooo scared...but then when we started, I just didn't want to stop. I think tongues feel really interesting! So when he goes for the kiss, just relax. Act like you've done it hundreds of times before, go in it with CONFIDENCE. You'll do great! Good Luck!

"I didn't lose my virginity to you." - That was a big one! "You and everyone you talk to are dead." - That was scary. He was restraining order guy.

Some girls don't want to get to the losing control feeling which you get during an orgasm because maybe they have lost control in a situation before (something much bigger) and they don't want to lose control again. Even though the other situation might have been much bigger, it's still losing control and they don't feel like they have any power.

what made you think of your ex??? I'm sure it is time for you to move on and be with another guy. That's the way it goes.

I pretty much went through the same thing at under_the_pressure did. My first kiss was with a girl, while I was going out with her best friend (my first boyfriend). It's just a part of the age as OCS Virus said. You start to question your sexuality. I know I like guys, but sometimes I see a really hot girl and...start thinking. I also like watching porn with two (or more) women. You'll figure it out, it will just take some time. Don't be embarrassed about it either!!

Agreed. Today is my one year anniversary for losing it. I wasn't 13, but I was still too young and now I so wish I hadn't done. It was completely with the wrong guy (which I did not realize at the time) and now I regret it sooo much! Please wait!

OH MY GOSH! That is sooo my ex too! And his dad died when he was only 364 days old. And his step-dad figure wasn't at all a dad to him, in fact they actually got into fist fights frequently. It is hard watching them go down that lane, because you know that they are better than that and have the potential to be better people, but they just make bad choices. I tried to help him for a year...then I just had to let go and accept the fact that I could not.

That's true, you won't just be another one of those guys as you say. Well, maybe you should just become better friends with her. It would be better to have her as a just a friend than to lose her all together. Hopefully things will take a turn and she'll go for you! Good Luck!!!

I'm sorry, I don't know how you can get him back. The same thing happened to me last year. I never got him back. Once you lose someone to drugs, its hard to find the person they used to be and its hard to convince them to stay away from that stuff and get them back. Good Luck to you.

I would agree, go get checked out. If the pain is persisting and getting worse than it probably is an infection. I got a UTI before from that sort of thing, it sucked. I FINALLY went to the doctor and had to take medication twice a day for seven days.