John_Simons

hey thank you guys for helping... it's so good to get a neutral third party perspective on things... well, i actually feel like i'm getting somewhere with girl A but i'm not sure. i'm not sure because she hasn't appeared interested b4 and i've trained myself to not keep the hopes up... it's what happens when you admire someone for a year in the distance i guess. but now she notices me in class, and i catch her eye when she/I walk past each other sort of thing... we have friendlier conversations and i get the feeling she's less threatened. i think it's good considering she knows i like her, right? So does she like me? i REALLY don't want to get the hopes up cos she means a lot to me and she would really hurt me if she said no, i'd much rather leave her as the nice memory of a crush and move on to a target that means less to me, so there's less to lose... am i thinking this right? Sorry for elaborating, but thank you guys for sharing your opinions

Hey guys... I'm wondering if you guys can lend me a hand... it's nothing much, it's just that i've come to a recent crossroads in terms of girls... i've liked this girl for over a year now and we've been friends for a while... i think she knows i like her but i'm not coming on too strong so she's friendly with me... she doesn't have a boyfriend and i've been consistantly nice to her enough so i think we're getting somewhere, though the progress is kinda slow... now girl B comes along and i get the feeling that she likes me, we get on better cos i don't like her in that way and everything just seems easier cos she likes me... should i consider this option above the first one, given that i don't think girls are my top priority (i'm a student trying to get decent grades) and i just want someone to hang out and have fun together... though i've liked this first girl genuinely for a year now and i feel like i know her better and we're maybe getting somewhere what should i do?

Hey guys, i'm having a hard time contemplating whether i should ask my classmate out. she seems genuinely interested in me, and we are friends... i had this secret crush on her for a while, but i didn't think she thought anything of me until last month, when i impressed... anyways, we were pretty close for the week and i seized the oppotunity to ask her out to coffee and stuff... she gave me her number and it was all going fine. but then things started cooling off and she's treating me like just a friend again... i was going to ask her out but i'm not sure now whether she just thought i was cool to be friends with or she likes me... on one hand i'm thinking i would be rude if i ask her out, because if she doesn't feel the same then it's not cool... i don't want to screw up the friendship; on the other hand i'm thinking maybe i'm just being too shy and not willing to take the risk, and she's shy too... like, maybe she's waiting for me to pop the question before she opens up... i don't know, maybe there's nothing there at all and i'm just thinking into it too much, but i can't be sure... i ask her to do stuff and she's willing but she doesn't invite me to do anything... we get on really well but she always seems to keep a distance... for example, we went to coffee but only because she thought lunch was too expensive... she didn't want to study together because she can't concentrate with other ppl... they seem legitimate excuses but i have a feeling she's trying not to hurt me, and that we're just friends... i'm ok with that but i just felt like there was more! i don't know what happened but i am thinking twice about asking her out now... what should i do?

Hey guys i don't know if i should pop the question to this girl i like... i am certain that she likes me but because i've had a crush on her for almost a year i'm scared to make a move... i don't want to scare her off because she means a lot to me. i think she's starting to like me because we been hanging out a bit lately (in the last week a two), i don't know if i should confront her or just let it happen... because i'm scared that it might not. but i can tell she likes me now... am i taking this too fast? should i sit in the slow-mo for a while yet?

Hey thanx guys yeah i figured i should just ask her out to coffee and see how she reacts... so i txted her on thursday night and asked if she wanted to. well this is what went down, she said yes (real ensthusiastically) and it was pretty cool. i thinks she kinda likes to keep it a secret sorta thing tho cos we're real low key in class, and she didn't tell her friends what we're up to when they spotted us leaving after. but we were sitting in the coffee shop and when she took off her plain jacket i spotted her wearing a dress... and she had earings on so i think she made an effort we talked for ages and she even forgot to have lunch (she was going to go home for lunch)! and she reckoned that we should do it more cos she had fun what do you guys think?

Hi everyone, can anyone give me some advice... there's this girl i met and she's real extraverted. she smiles and talks a lot and gets on really well with heaps of guys. it just so happens that i like her, and i think she's interested in me too. but i'm not sure. i'm not sure because she doesn't treat me any different to any other guy who she converses with. rumours have it that she's going out with this senior dude, but i've asked her on two occasions and she told me on both times that they're just good friends and they're not going out. i asked her out to coffee last week, she said she couldn't do it that day but she offered me her number... i really want to call her because she shows signs that she is interested in me. but the thing is, how do i know she doesn't do that to every guy she meets? if i didn't go up to talk to her, she doesn't even seem to notice my existence. but when i do we get on really well. how do i know that she's not just messing with my mind? could it be that she just wants to be friends?

Bro, for real, these guys are all right. Girls like that are spoilt and vain. They haven't the slightest clue what it's like to care about someone else. All they can think of is what they can get out of you. I know getting over girls are not easy but this one is necessary. take up some new activities; meet new people and expand your social circle... you'll feel much better and once you're over her, you'll see how ignorant and arrogant this girl is. Trust me And try not to fall for the same sort of girl in the future...

Well, this is what i figured after thinking it thru... ok she might be popular and attractive, but she pretty much stood me up the other night (she told me she was coming to the show but didn't turn up)... that's disrespect right there. i'm not that keen for rude girls with no manners no matter how attractive they are. She didn't even say sorry... Oh well there're plenty of fish in the sea i guess, good luck to you guys too ^^ don't get too bogged down over a girl

ok, i have a serious issue... i been smoking for 3 and a half years now. smoking is just fun for me at the start, i guess peer pressure played a part in the reason i started. Back in the days in high school i was a bit of a badass and i did a lot of bad stuff with my mates but since i've been to uni i pretty much quit. Except smoking. they say it is the most addictive substance, and i been trying to quit smoking for ages now without success. i guess i associate smoking with chilling out, and i really like taking that 10 minutes off once in a while and just chill out with a cig. it has evolved into a stress coping mechanism for me, and when i think about it, it's bad even tho i only have what, 4 to 5 a day. like, i'm not a chain smoker who goes on a pack a day but i just don't want to smoke anymore. i've tried to replace it with going to gym, taking up sport etc. etc. and everytime i go on a quitting mission i last 1 week to 1 month before i get bored and just want to chill out with a cig. i don't know whether it's the withdrawl of nicotine addiction or i'm just in a habit to do it but i really can't stop smoking altogether!! it's driving me nuts. Somehow i always talk myself into having another fag. i know it's bad for you but i can't seem to quit since there is no immediate consequences. and there's no motivation for me to quit. everyone i talk to either smokes or don't smoke. i can't seem to find anyone who's quit... Am i going to be smoking forever?

well, i get kind of mixed signals from her tho... ^^ i think i do tend to think too much into insignificant things that probably means nothing at all, but after all i've never had a girlfriend before so i guess i'm just a novice... but it's like this: i asked her to the ball but she kindly refused... she told me she had to go with another dude who asked her first, but she ended up going by herself. but at the ball she was surrounded by guys (seriously) and i didn't really get a chance to talk to her. i couldn't even have a proper dance with her because some other rude indian dude just interrupted. but i caught her looking at my general direction a couple of times, and when i did turn around she looked away, so i presume she was looking at me. and yesterday, i was performing a solo for my mate running a talent quest show, and i asked her to come. she said yes (really excited style) but didn't turn up because she was running late to another party of her mate's... (i came second by the way, lol) i don't know, i think she's just friendly, so i don't really want to screw it up and look foolish. i don't want people to look at me and say, "yeah, he's just another guy who fell for her bla bla bla" put it this way, i'd rather be a mystery than she desert me (quote john mayer lol)

Hey guys i need some advice for my situation... i am a second year uni student... anyways, there's this indian girl in my class that i met this year. at the start of the year i noticed her straight away, cos she's really attractive. it's funny cos up to now i've never found indian girls pretty. she came up and introduced herself the first time we met, and i realised that she is really outgoing and smiles a lot. (and plus speaks very good english). she seemed like a really nice girl compared to the other pretty ones with bad perseonalities. it's hard to find a decent girl with a kind heart these days. the only thing is, i don' know her very well and she is very popular. she strikes up conversations with pretty much everyone in class. and as you can imagine there's a lot of of guys after her. we go to the same class everyday and i see her everyday, but i always just admire her from the distance cos after all, we have different social circles and fighting over a girl with other guys isn't exactly my style. my friends that know her tells me that there's a long queue, so i don't see why i should be any better than others that she falls hands over feet for me. i mean, i'm confident about myself but for someone of her status i'm sure she can get a guy a lot more talented than me. but she doesn't have a boyfriend yet and i really like her. i've got to know her a bit now and we small talk regularly. i've asked her out to coffee as well and we had a good conversation and i got to know her better. it's just that i get the feeling she's too popular and she's out of my league. even tho we're doing med together i'm just a humble guy with a normal upbringing. we seem to come from completely different worlds and i feel like i'm dreaming about something that could never happen. what do you guys think?