OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 No no sex but once he came very close to me - I could feel it, the sexual tension. Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 He was like a love puppy before I decided to leave and then later I was his enemy. Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 And he hurt me by being like this and I have been hurting ever since because I also loved him but had no choice to leave because he had a girlfriend. I think him punishing me did something to my head. Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 Either I am crazy or he is still punishing me. Why am I certain that he is punishing me still? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 And how exactly was he like a "puppy" for you? What exactly did he do for you? I have a lot of questions, because if I'm being honest, your posts are not clear. What I'm gathering is that you two flirted a bit, you thought he was into you, it turns out he wasn't really, and wasn't all that disappointed to see you go. I would venture to say you wrote a big love story about him in your mind, and are hurt that he didn't choose you over his girlfriend. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 You'd have been further ahead to write your letter on paper and then either put it in a drawer for later, or torn it up or burned it to get rid of it. That way you could have gotten your thoughts out and unloaded on paper and that could have helped you feel better. Coming out of the blue with a message like that - well no wonder the guy blocked you! You were wrong to write that letter. The guy is probably in a relationship and getting on with his life. Leave him alone, dont to try to contact him again. Link to comment
ninjabib Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 Yes OP this is a whole lot of nothing. Sorry. Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 It could be. You are all very good at what you do. :) I could feel that I could count on him, he did something to help me which was huge and he could risk a lot. The way he looked at me was staring at me to the point that that was uncomfortable. He was smiling always when looking at me from the distance. When I said I was leaving his face was like nearly crying and then he started hating me. He was married! Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 He stood close to you and you decided you two had a sexual encounter? IN your OP you said he had a girlfriend, now you say he's married. I'm sorry, but what you're writing is starting to sound like erotomania. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 I could feel that I could count on him, he did something to help me which was huge and he could risk a lot. The way he looked at me was staring at me to the point that that was uncomfortable. He was smiling always when looking at me from the distance. When I said I was leaving his face was like nearly crying and then he started hating me. He was married! OP, you said previously he had a girlfriend. And now he is married? You keep adding or changing details that is making your story very hard to follow, and frankly, hard to believe. Anyway, I think the attraction or flirtation or "sexual advantages" was mostly in your head. He clearly doesn't want you pestering him now, as he likely knows you misinterpret things tremendously and have a hard time distinguishing reality from fantasy when it comes to him. He was to block you, frankly. Link to comment
loyal Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 It could be. You are all very good at what you do. :) I could feel that I could count on him, he did something to help me which was huge and he could risk a lot. The way he looked at me was staring at me to the point that that was uncomfortable. He was smiling always when looking at me from the distance. When I said I was leaving his face was like nearly crying and then he started hating me. He was married! Maybe you should see a professional about this. I think you are having trouble with reality. Perhaps that is why he blocked you: he saw that you were making something out of nothing and was disturbed. You sound like Lorna from Orange is the New Black. I think you need help. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 What prompted you to send this 14 mos later? Yes it's a reason to block you. He has a gf, you never dated and he's not your therapist. Unfortunately getting something like this from someone who "liked you", particularly the bit about 'forgiving him' would prompt most anyone to block this. It's time to reflect and perhaps make an appt with a therapist for some short term therapy to sort this out. Also get on some dating apps so you can start messaging and meeting available local single men.We liked each other for 8 months. After 14 months of no contract I sent him this on social media and he blocked me. "I do not know why I am doing this but I feel I need to. I think I was really in love with you. I do not understand that you can still think about someone after such a long time. I remember starting to be in pain everytime you were leaving so running away from you I thought at that time was the best option. The worst part was forgetting your voice because I did not want to. I cried when I read the story about your family health problems. No one ever looked at me the way you did. I think you are the most beautiful man I have ever seen with great character. I know I should not have written this but I want to move on and I think keeping this all keeps me away from forgetting and it is definitely the time. I forgive you for everything." Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 What prompted you to send this 14 mos later? Yes it's a reason to block you. He has a gf, you never dated and he's not your therapist. Unfortunately getting something like this from someone who "liked you", particularly the bit about 'forgiving him' would prompt most anyone to block this. It's time to reflect and perhaps make an appt with a therapist for some short term therapy to sort this out. Also get on some dating apps so you can start messaging and meeting available local single men. thanks. Why is the forgiving bit so terrible? I do not know why I sent that. I was fine for months and now I have a broken heart all over again. :( Link to comment
bluecastle Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 May I ask how old you are? Link to comment
bluecastle Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 Along with some others, I would consider talking about this—and whatever might be stirring a few layers deeper—with a therapist. I can't quite tell, from what you've written, what you are "forgiving" him for. Is it not liking you the way you liked him? Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 Two months after I left he emailed me to take my number so he could show me something funny. He did not call so after 2 months I emailed him and he reported me somewhere for contacting him. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 Reported you "somewhere"? Where is that "somewhere"? And what did you write in that email? Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 I just needed help with school and finding the right course and I remembered that he was taking in the past about being able to help me with finding the right school etc. Link to comment
bluecastle Posted July 31, 2019 Share Posted July 31, 2019 So you emailed him about school and he reported you? Where did he report you? To the school? To some kind of authority? Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 Yes. He forwarded my email to them. Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted July 31, 2019 Author Share Posted July 31, 2019 I am shaking. That was awful. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted August 1, 2019 Share Posted August 1, 2019 While I have no doubt that you have feelings for him, it's clear he didn't feel the same way (even if he may have flirted with you or given off other "signals" that he was interested -- people do that sometimes without even realizing they're doing it.) He probably felt overwhelmed (or annoyed) by your professing your feelings to him in that e-mail, and his way of dealing with it was to simply block you. He also may have blocked you to keep you from repeatedly contacting him as it's clear the contact is unwanted. I'm sorry this happened, and I know it's painful, but it's a really good lesson about NOT investing emotionally in someone who isn't reciprocating your feelings (and, in this case, wasn't available to you because he was already with someone else.) Since he has blocked you, your only choice really is to move forward and work on being able to let go of this. He actually did you a favor, in a way, because if he hadn't blocked you, you might have kept contacting him, kept hoping something would develop between you, etc. Now, you can be certain he doesn't want that, and you can move forward. It's hard, I know, but you can do it. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted August 1, 2019 Share Posted August 1, 2019 Yes. He forwarded my email to them. How do you know this? And how do you know he blocked you? Did you attempt to contact him again? Link to comment
OlaOlaOlaO Posted August 1, 2019 Author Share Posted August 1, 2019 A friend told me that someone from some office got my email. I know because I am unable to reply to him now. Link to comment
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