joe45 Posted January 29, 2018 Share Posted January 29, 2018 Got gf at moment but have yet introduce her to my parents. I knew her a while.My nosey parents would ask what she do for living and I’ll tell them she works at factory making clothes, does she drive they ask and I say no, ask what her parents do and I say one works at restaurant and another works at factory. They don’t speak English. My parents ask me why she lived in Canada since age of 8 and she’s 30 now and doing a low end job and why she can’t drive or no drivers licesne. They are telling me find someone who is smarter than me, strong, and can help me and provide family and give value and benefit into our current household or why even marry her. Mom also mentioned if girl can drive that daughter in law can driver her around. Lol. Mom said she getting old and we need someone to help us out. Lol how many girls these days in Canada would cook and clean and work full time job as professional and at same time marry an office assistant guy The thing is if girl has a high end job aka lawyer and drives a bmw why would she date me. They also want a guy who’s also successful white collar. I also got low end job lol You comments and thoughts please They also don’t like girls who wear makeup , get Nails done or any pretty stuff. They think it’s waste of money. they mainly looking for homely women who also makes the money and stays home and does household work Someone who you marry can be of great added benefit and value to me and my parents in helping them be it doing the taxes, driving mom to grocery shopping, great financial management and can take care of family and other stuff .....etc Link to comment
abitbroken Posted January 29, 2018 Share Posted January 29, 2018 You know what --- unless you are in Quebec and she speaks French -- your parents are right to be concerned about a woman who doesn't speak and works in a factory or at a restaurant. They would think 1) They might be trafficked 2) they might be illegal or at least there under tenuous circumstances 3) She could be looking to marry to stay in the country. 4) What do you have in common with a woman who doesn't speak English and works at the lowest rung at her employer? ow many girls these days in Canada would cook and clean and work full time job as professional and at same time marry an office assistant guy So you want a woman who is going to cook and clean for you and not work or have a very menial job to look after you? Ever heard about pulling your weight -- you don't have to find a woman who is a lawyer with a BMW, but a woman who speaks the more prominent local language and is therefore not stuck in life? Someone you have things in common with? your parents love you and are concerned for you. you talk about benefiting your "current household" -- why not move out and get a roommate. Why are you a part of your parents' household still? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 I think mom is also looking for her own personal driver and housekeeper. She is not being selfless. She is also looking fir a woman who will help support her and your father. Right? UGH! I do agree with finding someone who is legal, speaks the language, and has some education, for the benefit of you and future children. Why are you still with mommy and daddy? How much education do you have? Have you considered a better-paying position? Link to comment
joe45 Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 She is here legally She been in Canada for long time since age of 8. She is 30 now Link to comment
joe45 Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 Prefer her family is well off too since my mom said she met a guy and his wife’s family bought mansion they live in and wife is accountant and guy is part time restaurant worker lol Told me I can find one too a rich girl and help us out in life Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Do I understand this right? Your mom wants you to find a girl with a good job and who makes decent money so you can hopefully marry her and then this girl can be your mother's slave and drive her where she wants to go and do chores around the house? No girl in her right mind would sign up for that. Link to comment
akrngrl Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 1000% no woman would sign on for that. I think your mom needs to stop meddling in your love life Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Prefer her family is well off too since my mom said she met a guy and his wife’s family bought mansion they live in and wife is accountant and guy is part time restaurant worker lol Told me I can find one too a rich girl and help us out in life I think that this may occur in a rare situation. Why don't you do some self improvement, so that you have more to offer, instead of depending on a woman to provide for you. Where is you self respect!!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Do I understand this right? Your mom wants you to find a girl with a good job and who makes decent money so you can hopefully marry her and then this girl can be your mother's slave and drive her where she wants to go and do chores around the house? No girl in her right mind would sign up for that. OP, Is this a joke! I can't believe this! LOL! Link to comment
Pleasedonot5 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 OP, sorry your parents are giving you trouble. Love is love is love is love. Status has little to nothing to do with it. Go with what your heart says. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Your parents are daydreaming. This won’t ever happen. No woman today signs up to be her mother-in-laws’s servant and is rich. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 May I ask where your folks grew up? Sounds cultural and like they are from a different time and place. How long have you been living in Canada and are you a citizen? Because if you are Canadian , guess what? You don't have to be bound by those traditions. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 May I ask where your folks grew up? Sounds cultural and like they are from a different time and place. How long have you been living in Canada and are you a citizen? Because if you are Canadian , guess what? You don't have to be bound by those traditions. Exactly. ..... Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 May I ask where your folks grew up? Sounds cultural and like they are from a different time and place. I seem to recall that the OP is Chinese. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 This reminds me of "The Stepford Wives." Robots, so to speak. Link to comment
ManyDates Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 May I ask where your folks grew up? Sounds cultural and like they are from a different time and place. How long have you been living in Canada and are you a citizen? Because if you are Canadian , guess what? You don't have to be bound by those traditions. He doesn't, but in many cultures the parents will disown the child if they don't follow their specific culture, regardless if its Canada, USA or anywhere else "free". Recently went through it with a girl, I wasn't some form of Orthodox Christian (being a baptized "regular Christian" wasn't good enough lol) so it was a no-go with her parents. I just walked away from it, no time for that. Link to comment
thealchemist Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Your an adult, act like one. If my parents told me they wanted that in a daughter in law I would laugh at their faces and walk off. You are going to have a hard time ever finding a SO(worth a d@mn) if you don't put your parents in their place. It doesn't sound like your parents are just expressing their views as much as telling you what to do. Why is it your SO's responcibility to be your parents slave? It sounds like they need to hire a person to fill this need instead of trying to enslave a woman to be your wife and their servant. Your parents sound terrible. Lazy and controlling. Link to comment
joe45 Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 Not young as I’m 37 plus I have a hard time getting a gf too I go on many dates from online and most of them end up being one time coffee dates. Not much time plus most women are taken ,married I think if Iet this girl go I won’t find another one too. My history dating wise isn’t successful at all. My job is considered low end even though I tried and went to school and my social skills aren’t good Link to comment
thealchemist Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Not young as I’m 37 plus I have a hard time getting a gf too I go on many dates from online and most of them end up being one time coffee dates. Not much time plus most women are taken ,married I think if Iet this girl go I won’t find another one too. My history dating wise isn’t successful at all. My job is considered low end even though I tried and went to school and my social skills aren’t goodI am sure with parents like you have you will continue to have dating issues. I can't imagine how messed up they have made your relationship awareness\logic. Cut the parents out of your love life and you might have a chance. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Don't let your mom pimp you out for her fantasies of a rich and pampered life. Find a girl you love for who she is not a slave and meal ticket for your mom. Your mother sounds over involved and needy and dissatisfied with life. Why didn't she find a guy who gave her all that? That's the real issue here. Link to comment
ManyDates Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Not young as I’m 37 plus I have a hard time getting a gf too I go on many dates from online and most of them end up being one time coffee dates. Not much time plus most women are taken ,married I think if Iet this girl go I won’t find another one too. My history dating wise isn’t successful at all. My job is considered low end even though I tried and went to school and my social skills aren’t good Take the girl and run, your parents will get over it. Link to comment
limichelle Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Is your mom going to be dating her? No! Then who cares what she thinks! No girl will be good enough for you by your moms standards. So just date who you want. Lisa Link to comment
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