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i know i made a mistake, believe me. i know about using protecion. but you don't always use your best judgement when you're in those situations. and this is the first time i've done this. i posted here to know if i should worry, not to ask if i did something stupid. i know it was.

about 2 months ago, i had unprotected sex with a girl. it didn't last long, maybe a few seconds before we stopped. she was paranoid that i came inside of her, but i pulled out. so she became really nervous and worried about getting pregnant. she was a week or two late. so she took a test and it was negative. then she said her period started. so i was relieved. this was all 2 months ago. i asked her yesterday how many times she had her period since then, and she said just once. am i good here? i just think too much and worry that she is pregnant. i know thats stupid because she had her period, but i'm just wondering if its possible or if i should stop worrying. thanks.

I don't know if this is the right section to post this, but here it goes. About 2 or 3 months ago, I had unprotected sex with this girl i'm not in a relationship with. But we stopped after a few seconds. She isn't pregnant. Test was negative and she has her period. But what i am worried about is STD's. I haven't had any symptoms, and she said she's clean. But i just get paranoid that i have HIV or something. It bothers me a lot. I should probably get tested, but i just want to know if you think there's a good chance that i do have it. And how do i go about geting tested? Thanks.

I know these types of threads probably come up often, but i need some input. My gf and i almost had sex. I didn't have a condom on, which was a mistake. I couldn't tell exactly how far it went in, but i think the very tip was either just barely inside of her, or pushed up to her opening. Then i stopped right away. Before then it rubbed against her a lot. I doubt it went in but it may have just a little. As soon as it happened she freaked out because of the risk. I didn't cum during or before this. And afterwards it didn't look like i had any pre-cum coming out of me. I know there was probably some at first but there wasn't any after. She worries A LOT when it comes to this stuff. Her period is supposed to start in about 6 days. Should we be worried?? thanks.

Thanks for the replies everyone. We just worry if some of my semen got on or near her vagina after i ejaculated. I don't think it ever does considering it comes out in the opposite direction, but still.

Oh, i forgot to add that she took 2 pregnancy tests so far, and they were both negative.

My girlfriend is a few days late. This is weird for her because her period is always on time, never late. The thing is, we haven't actually had sex. We have "dry sex" without clothes on. We don't use protection either. We've been doing that for a long time. Lately we haven't done it much this month at all, only once or twice. She worries a lot about it. I know the chances are slim, but her period being late is making her worry herself sick. I was never worried, but now even I'M starting to wonder because the days keep going by. I'm posting to hopefully learn a bit and to help her feel better. I should add that she's been depressed for a while, and we're also going through a rough time in our relationship which effects her a lot. She also worries so much that i think it could be making her even more late. She worries so much that she feels sick. So could these factors be slowing her period? I keep telling her thats why its late. I've read about this topic in the past but i'd like some fresh advice. Is it possible to get pregnant this way? Do you think she could be? I personally think it would be very hard to get pregnant this way, but i keep hearing "you never know." Anyway, thanks for reading and for any input.

I've been with my girlfriend for 13 months. We fell in love right away and we had such a great start to our relationship. Its been mostly great in my opinion. This sounds dumb, but we were like out of a movie or something...so in love. Breaking up was never even thinkable because we wanted to be together forever and get married. We still feel that way, only we started fighting constantly a few months ago. Long story short, i have some anger problems and she doesn't open up about anything anymore. Its weird because she used to be the one who begged me to talk and open up. Now its the other way around, and I'M begging her to open up about how she feels. We would fight, say we would stop and say we need to do this and that, but then we didn't do any of it and we'd fight again. Honestly its her fault because i always beg her to do the things we need to do to get better, like just getting together and talking. But it kept going on like that. Then a few nights ago, the unthinkable happened. She broke up with me out of nowhere. We had a little fight, but it wasn't even about us. I was mad at my parents and i sounded mad, so she took it personally. We made up. Then she just wanted to break up with me. It was really dramatic and drawn out. In the end, I basically kept her from leaving my house, and we decided to not break up and to just take a break. The next day we talked about everything and it all seemed great. We hung out that night and it was awesome. She thanked me for not letting her break up with me, and its like we had a new appreciation for our love and each other. She basically said we aren't on a break too. That was the main part of the story. I'm posting because ever since before then up to today, she's been behaving so hostile towards me. She was so nice that night we hung out, then last night she got mad at me because i was curious about something so i asked her. We made up and we were fine. Now today she FREAKED out when i talked to her. I've been feeling like we haven't been talking about our relationship, which is what we need to do to help get better. So i simply told her "i just feel like we haven't been talking" and she flipped out worse than i've ever seen her. She said I'm selfish and thoughtless for caring about that when she has family and friends in town for the holidays. I was really scared and i sounded sad. Then she said i'm a baby and she needed to go. She was yelling at me and i did nothing to deserve it. She's getting mad at the drop of a hat and treating me like crap. She used to be so awesome. Now its like i don't know who this girl is when she gets hostile. She is normally such a nice girl and its usually me who's the one doing this kind of thing. But i honestly don't think i did anything. All i can think of is that she's been worried about a personal problem, but thats all. I just don't get it. Its just really strange that she's being like this after she thanked me for keeping us together and all of that. Anyway, i mainly just wanted to vent. I hope i'm not the only one who thinks she's wrong here. Thanks for reading or replying.

Thank you very much for all the info. It is all very helpful.

So far my gf and i have just been making out. But i think sometime soon she might want to take it further and have oral. She has done it and received it before with her last bf and only him. But I don't have any experience yet so i'm a little unsure of how it will go and if she will enjoy it. I have read alot about it but i couldn't find any basic specific help - like how do i start? And what should i focus on doing/not doing? etc... Things like that. One time she told me she wouldn't let the guy finger her because it hurt alot. So i think i should avoid that. Any advice is appreciated. Just a simple explanation or something would be fine. Thanks.

This is kind of weird to talk about, but here it goes. I've noticed my penis is curved when i have an erection. Is that common? Its not a huge curve, but its definitely obvious. What do girls think about that, if anything at all? Things have been getting hot with this girl i'm dating, and i'm worried she will be weirded out or turned off by it if we ever have oral. It would be my first time doing that. It just seems embarrassing for me. Plus, we have a lot of the same friends. And i know girls talk about that stuff, so i'm worried about that too. Help! What do you think?? Thanks.

Its not a huge "problem" or anything. I just find it a little embarrassing because its obvious when you look down there. We were standing so its not like i could adjust myself to hide it! Its just a personal thing i guess. Like i said, i wanted to pull her closer to me but i wasn't sure if i should because of my erection. I don't know what to do there. I know its normal to become aroused when making out, but i was also talking about just hugging and smaller things like that. Thanks! I feel a bit better now.

Thanks everyone. I know its normal, but its annoying because it comes at bad times and i wish i could stop it. I wouldn't mind if we were really getting into it, but if we're just hugging or something its embarrassing! We've only known each other a few weeks. Do girls in general know about the whole arousal thing? Would this girl be bothered by it or anything? I know she has done "things" with guys in the past, so she's not a beginner. Anyway, it just seems embarrassing to me, i don't know why. Girls don't have to deal with this! It was kind of keeping me from enjoying the kiss and the moment. I didn't want her to feel it up against her. Is that normally done during making out?

I started dating this girl a couple of weeks ago. Whenever we get close physically, like hugging really closely or kissing, i become aroused. I don't know why. Its not always sexual, sometimes its just normal contact. I can't help it. Last night we had our first kiss, well it was more like making out. And i was really aroused. Is this normal? It was kind of embarrassing, i don't think she noticed, but still. I wanted to pull her closer to me, but...you know. I really love being close with her, but this gets in the way. What do you think?

Don't worry, i didn't want to give my last name and i told her that. I didn't give her my home number either. I asked her what she's looking for, and she said "to get to know each other better." I have no idea what that means. If she just wants to hook up, i wish she would be forward about it instead of acting like we're together. The weird thing is, she lives hours away from me, on the other side of the state. And she wants to meet. Weird, huh? ...Thanks everyone

I met this girl last night in a local chat room. We started talking, then she asked me to tell a little about myself. So I did, then right away she said "I would LOVE to meet you." I was a little weirded out because we didn't even have a conversation. Then she asks for my number and gives me two of hers. Then she wanted to know my last name. We barely talk when we're having a conversation. I asked why she wants to talk on the phone and meet so soon, and she said "to get to know each other better." I'm a little confused. Does she want just a friend to chat with? Or is she looking for me to be her boyfriend of some kind? I've never had a cyber relationship before and honestly i'm not looking for one. I thought this was a chat room for people to hook up as "adults" if you know what i mean. I was only browsing around. Most of the people there are looking for sex with someone in their area. So i don't know what she wants from me. I think its strange how she wants to meet me seconds after talking to me and seeing my picture. And today she called me "sweetie" and names like that. That is odd because we have barely spoken! It wouldn't even count as a conversation. What do you guys think? I don't really know whats going on here, something just seems a little strange to me, maybe i'm wrong. Thanks.

i think you may have a chance but maybe she just sees you as a friend. Good luck, i went through the same thing man.

its hard to say man. I mean, the thing with the other guys isn't a great sign. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask her out. From what you've said, she might like you but she could also see you as a friend. Learning from my past mistakes with girls, i would say ask her out. But if you're affraid of being hurt again, maybe you should wait and see how things go for a while. I know exactly what you're going through - the same thing happened to me twice last year. I'm still kinda going through it now so i'm learning as i go. Maybe someone else could give you more advice because i don't think i helped much.

My first question is, how long should i wait before i ask a girl out who's just broken up? I think her relationship lasted about 5 months or so. When is too soon? Too long? She's a friend, but she knows i used to like her. I'm really confused because i can't tell if she likes me that way or not. We're perfect for each other and get along really well. Anything i should be doing? How can i get the message accross to her? I don't know what to do here. Then, there's her friend. Same situation. But she's not single, she's having a lot of problems with her boyfriend partly because of me. She knows i like her, and we've talked about going out but as usual, i don't know exactly whats going on or how she feels. She also knows about her friend and I. Everything is pretty much out in the open with her. They both probably think i like the other so its kinda weird. I can't figure out what to do. The one girl is single, but i also have feelings for the other. The thing is, she's still in a relationship. I don't know what i'm supposed to do!! I don't wanna blow my chances or pass an opportunity up. And I can't tell if they like me "that way" or not. Should i ask one of them out? And which one? I can't decide anything. Its all very confusing. Do you guys understand where i'm coming from? Sorry if i'm making no sense. Thanks for any help because i really need it. I can give more details if needed.

This girl is a friend, but we liked each other when we met and we still do. But she has a boyfriend and thats why we couldn't go out. Recently, she's been having problems with him. She keeps telling me about it too. He thinks she's cheating with me because we call each other often. Last night, she left me a message. She was crying and said she really needed to talk to me. We talked and she told me how he's a jerk and stuff like that. He goes through her private property to see if she's talking to other guys and accuses her of all sorts of things that aren't true. Here's my problem. I didn't know what to say to her when she called me. I don't know what to do in this situation. What do i say to a girl in her situation? I like her a lot and i've been waiting for them to break up, but i don't know how i'm supposed to act around her. Do i tell her to break up with him and make him look bad? Do i not say anything and stay out of it? Anything else? I mean, i want her to leave him but i'm confused as to what to say. How do i deal with this? And do you think this girl likes me/wants to go out? Here's some things she said - She said she didn't know who else she could talk to. She said she'd consider dating me if they broke up. She admitted she had a crush on me and wanted me to ask her out a long time ago. She keeps asking about me and her friend, who i used to like... There's more but i can't think of anything right now. Now her friend is single so i could choose either girl, but i have no idea how. Anyway, what do you guys think about everything? I'd appreciate any advice because i'm very confused and i've never been in this situation before. And i hope i didn't jinx myself by posting about this because that happens every time! Thanks!

Thanks strawberry_gashes17. Oh, i forgot to mention that she left me a voicemail today. I haven't talked to her in a while and she said "sorry for blowing you off lately... i've been having more problems with my boyfriend, thanks to you." But she wasn't mean or anything, it sounded like she was in a pretty good mood. I think she is up to something, because why else would she say that to me? This is the second time too, so i think there's a chance of them breaking up. But they've been together for 7 months i think, so i don't know. Thanks again.

This might be getting ahead of myself, but i have a question. Lets say we're at the point where one of us needs to make a move. Whats the next step? How do i ask her out or am i supposed to?

Well, except for being from another country, i'm just like you. I'd rather be at home a lot of times than hanging out with friends. I've been that way forever! But i agree with everyone else. You don't have to go out all the time, but try to do it more often. Being around others might make you feel better in general. And its good to have someone around - you never know when you might need them. Good luck.

We know each other pretty well, not too personally though. Last year i drove her home everyday. So we "know" each other but we aren't close or anything. If i ask her whats going on, would that ruin anything? Another thing i forgot to add - i used to like her best friend and she knew this as it was going on. Recently she heard i'm still talking to her friend, so she keeps asking if i still like her and stuff like that. Oh, in an email i told her i'd be there for her if she ever has problems with her boyfriend. She didn't say anything about it after so i think thats a good sign. Should i play hard to get, or should i play along with her game? Should i act like i'm into other girls, or say i still like her? I'm not positive but i know something's probably going on here so i think i have a good chance with her now.

Well i don't know exactly where to post this, but the girl is my friend so i guess its best to put it here. This girl and i kinda have a history. I met her a year ago and had a crush on her. Basically, i waited too long and by the time i asked her out she said no because she has a boyfriend. Later on i told her how i feel about her and she still turned me down. Afterwards things got back to normal and we're getting along really well as friends now. Lately she's told me some things that are a surpirse coming from her. First, i asked her again about going out. She said we should be friends before going out. But she still has a boyfriend - i don't get it. Then in some emails she joked about us being together and how she wants me, stuff like that. This is unusual because we never talked about that stuff, thats not how we are. Last night, she said "why didn't you ask me out when we first met? I wanted you to." She also said i got her in trouble w/ her boyfriend. He saw my name on her phone and saw she was reading an email from me. It apparently caused a huge fight between them, she said they almost broke up because of me. She's also asked me a lot of personal questions for no apparent reason. My question is, why is she acting this way all of a sudden? What could be going on with her? We never talk about stuff like this. She's always been private about her boyfriend when talking to me. Now she's calling me more and actually wanting to talk. I'm thinking she's breaking up with him, but thats just an idea. Any thoughts? Thanks.