ddriver7

I know what you're going through. You mentioned in one of my threads that we have the same problem. As for her friend, I'd just try to talk to her and get everything out in the open. Tell her how you feel about this girl and find out if and why she's got a problem with you. As for talking to her when they're together, I know its hard, but don't be shy. Don't let people intimidate you like that. Who cares what her friend thinks, you aren't talking to her anyway. Try to patch things up between you and the girl you like and see how it goes from there. I hate to sound mean or anything, but you should've asked her out a long time ago. I've learned many times throughout all of school that waiting and never making a move with a girl gets you nowhere, just look at whats happened with you guys now. I've done the same thing dozens of times. You have to take a chance to get anywhere with a girl you like. I always waited for things to happen and never got the girl. All you're doing is making yourself miserable when you could've been dating this girl. I recently messed things up with a girl I liked (as discussed in my threads) and now our friendship is somehow ruined because I want to go out with her best friend. I really liked this girl before we became friends, and if i asked her out to begin with we probably would've went out. Waiting does no good unless its a sure thing that you'll end up together. If you can't settle things now, try to stop thinking about it. I also think too much when I like a girl a lot. Just try to keep yourself occupied. Good luck!

I know she probably likes me, but its weird. To me it seemed like we used to like each other and later lost interest. But like you said, maybe she started having feelings for me later and I didn't notice. I forgot to mention that I found out through a friend that she's had a boyfriend probably this whole time. Maybe she never told me because she likes me, I don't know. You'd think I would've heard him mentioned at least once, but I never had a clue. Weird huh? I still think I should go out with her friend. SHE was the one who asked me if I like her friend, which got me interested in her to begin with, and I really like her now. I would think a girl who tells her friend everything would mention I like her, but it doesn't seem like she did. I was counting on her to get the ball rolling between her friend and I, but everytime I mention it she gets weird. This one day she said "I have something to ask you, but I feel weird about asking you. Do you have a thing for (my friend)?" Basically I said I do. I didn't think she would ask me that if she liked me. Why should I give up what I think could be a great relationship with her friend? I have way more in common with her friend, and I mean a lot, and we just get along better. I think it'll work out. And considering the way she's been acting lately, I don't care what she thinks. She had her chance.

Theres this girl I've been friends with for about 6 or 7 months now. When we first met and got to know each other, we both kind of liked each other. I asked her out but she just wanted to stay friends, and I have no problem with that. We talked a lot, we called each other a lot, etc... But for about the last week things have changed greatly. Lately, when I see her at school it seems she ignores me. When I come up to her to talk to her I feel like she doesn't want to be around me or talk to me. She used to be happy to see me, you know, nicer in general. Although we are friends, we argue a lot. She always says we fight like a married couple. I agree, but we don't "fight", we kind-of always dissagree on things and just try to push each others buttons. It may have started a few days ago, we had an argument about why we always fight and she brought up why she didn't want to go out with me. We said some bad things, but we made up and I thought everything was good. But since around that time, she just seems different like I mentioned above. I'm interested in her best friend and hope to ask her out soon, so I'm thinking thats one of the problems. I asked her if she thought I should ask her friend out and she said "Do what you want. I don't care." She seemed kind of weird about it. She knows I like her friend, but I don't know why she'd be bothered by it - she has a boyfriend and has made it clear we are just friends. I called her last night, left a message. Called her tonight, left a message. Its really weird. She used to call all the time. What do you guys think? It just seems like all of a sudden she's not the girl I've been friends with all year. I can't tell if she's mad about our fight or about me and her friend or something I don't even know about.

Thanks guys. I do know I messed up with her, which is why we are just friends now and I should be dating her friend soon - someone who is much better for me. I moved on about a month ago, and it was one of the smarter things I've done. Its amazing that it took me this long to realize that she was that kind of girl. I really don't like girls who flirt and lead guys on. It must be nice to be able to be in that position. Just imagine how many guys she carelessly flirts with think she likes them. Oh, and I forgot to add that I've known her for about 6 months and I just found out she has a boyfriend two days ago! Apparently he's a "long distance" boyfriend, but still, she never mentioned or implied anything about him once! I'm supposed to be her friend and she never told me, which is what bothers me the most. She was probably trying to keep me "in her book" in case she broke-up with him, along with probably dozens of other guys. Anyway, thanks for opening my eyes a little more. I knew she was that kind of girl, but it never really hit me until you guys made it clear. And lately we haven't even gotten along that well. So at this point, I really don't even want to stay friends with her. Just seeing how she is around other guys in front of me is really annoying. I'm sorry, but girls like this just anger me. I'd rather have a serious relationship with a nice girl than mess around with 20 different girls whom with nothing could happen. Its unfair to everyone involved. But thats just me... Thanx again.

Thanks. Well, I don't really know whats going on now. Nothing has happened since she asked me if I like her friend. Its really frustrating. I can never find a good moment to find out if she actually likes me. I've hinted a couple of times and gotton good responses. But whenever I mention her friend she makes it seem like I have a crush on her and doesn't ever mention how her friend might feel. Now I really like her and want to go out with her, but it just seems like I like her and she could go either way. I hate going back to liking someone who may not like be back. I thought this would be a sure thing since she asked me if I was interested, when I never hadn't showed any interest in her yet. I have her number, but I got it because she got my number from her friend and called me. She's called a few times, but I never really talked to her, just made plans for the three of us. Would it be wise to call her? Its weird, I never really thought about this girl before, but since I found out she may like me, I've started to develop a crush on her. I'm hoping to get some more info about this from my friend tomorrow, but with my luck it'll be like the last three days and I'll get nowhere. Any more advice? Thanks.

Well, I posted a month ago about a friend I wanted to ask out. Long story short, she just wants to stay friends. Since then, I've hung out with her and her best friend a few times. A couple of days ago, she asks me if I like her friend. Although I don't really know her that well I said yes. Now, I don't recall flirting with her friend or anything, so do you think her friend likes me and wanted to see if I like her (basically is she trying to hook us up)? I'm pretty sure she wants to go out with me, I'm just not sure about how to proceed and ask her out. Its always the three of us so we don't have any time alone to talk. Any advice?

I'm kind of going through the same thing now and I know how frustrating it can be. To deal with slow days, I'd try just talking to her and see if she responds well. If you want to avoid being "just friends," try to stay outside of the line - talk to her as friends, but hint at being more than friends in a subtle way, and see how she responds. If she seems interested, I'd go for it. Kind of hard to explain but seems to work alright for me. Regardless, I would ask her out if you really like her.

Sorry I never responded. I just wanted to say that I asked her out and she turned me down. She basically said she likes me but since we argue a lot it wouldn't work out. She obviously thought this through because she didn't even have to think about it. The thing that bothers me is that we don't really argue about important things or anything, we just kind of joke around. I just don't understand why she would constantly flirt and even give me her number and then turn me down. Do you guys think I should try to convince her that it could work out, or should we just continue being friends? Thanks.

Thanks for the response. I wouldn't feel weird, I guess I'm affraid it would be awkward trying to continue being friends if she turned me down or if it didn't work out. I feel like I'm overthinking everything so I'll take your advice and just ask her out, I just have to figure out how.

Hi everyone! I just joined and I need advice. I'm in high school, and theres this girl I've been friends with for a little while now. We're not really close friends, I've only seen her at school so far. Lately we've been flirting with each other a lot and even joke around about going out. For some reason I can't tell if she likes me or just wants to be friends. Sometimes I think she does like me because she started talking to me and flirting when I didn't really know her at all. Things seemed to get more serious yesterday when I gave her a gift for Valentine's Day. I want to ask her out but I'm not positive if she feels the same. She has a lot of male friends so maybe she just sees me as another. I guess I'm waiting for some kind of signal, but I'm affraid if I wait too long she might think I'm not interested. I also don't want to get too close as friends because it would be weird asking her out later on. What are your thoughts? How should I go about asking her out? Any advice would be appreciated.