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I met this girl, we liked each other but she turned me down. After that we were kind of friends, but i still liked her. I told her i like her and she made it very clear on many occasions that we can't date. After a huge argument about this (long story) i thought it was over so i gave up. Then right after, I got e-mails and messages from her saying she wants to know how things are between us. She was basically being VERY strange, considering she didn't want to date me. I wrote her an e-mail saying I want to be friends. After that she wrote to me saying things that imply she likes me. She said she'll call me, she'll have more time for things, she hopes to hear from me soon... These things are weird to hear because we were never really "close." We fought a lot and weren't on that level. She's just being unusually nice. My question is, does it seem like she wants to go out with me all of a sudden? My first impression is yes she does. If you need more info i'll be happy to post it.

I think looks go hand-in-hand with personality. They kind of compliment each other.

Well i may have posted about this before, but its a different situation this time. Simply put, I met this girl and things were really great. I wanted to ask her out but i kept putting it off, and i lost my chance. She got a boyfriend and as of now they've been together for a few months. Here's the thing - some friends of hers are implying that she likes me. I really like her and want to go out with her. I don't know what to do because she has a boyfriend! I've been waiting a while and they haven't broken up, but she did mention they were having problems. I know she's interested in me, but I think her having a boyfriend is holding her back. I don't get to talk to her as much now that school's over, but sometimes i call or we'll talk online. Does anyone have any advice? I'd really like to push things forward with her but i don't know where to start! Any help would be greatly appreicated.

I guess thats a good point. I haven't had that many relationships, but I guess forcing things isn't good. I've tried other girls and I've tried to forget about her but I can't!!! Thats where my problem is. I don't want any other girls, I just want her. She's special to me. A friend of hers told me she has a crush on me. But the thing is she has a boyfriend. What do I do? I guess I have to wait till they break up? I think if I can spend more time with her and get closer once again she'll go out with me. Without forcing it, that is.

This is really hard to explain, but I'll try to make it as clear as I can. I'm a senior in high school. I met a girl at the start of this school year, she's a year younger than me. We took an interest in each other, I liked her and I could tell she liked me too. We flirted a lot. Anyway, after we finally got to know each other I suggested we go out. She and I argue sometimes, nothing serious - its just that we like to push each others buttons playfully. Because of this she turned me down. I was surprised, but I moved on with someone else. The thing is I always had feelings for the first girl. I really like her, i don't know what it is. After a while, things with girl #2 didn't work out. So, I finally decided to stop hiding my feelings for the first girl. I told her I like her, I didn't really get a response. One of the problems is she has a boyfriend. The other problem is she still feels we don't get along. So I wrote her an e-mail about my strong feelings for her and suggested we go out. She never really said "no," she just told me the same things again - we argue too much and she has a boyfriend anyway. So I'm thinking that she does want to date me, but she's hiding it for some reason. She replied to my e-mail and said she liked me before we had all our problems. Recently, we've made up and things are like they used to be when she liked me a lot. I've always had feelings for her, but even more now that we're getting along a lot better. School ended for me today, next week for her. I just hope I'll still get to see her this summer. So what do I do? I need help. What if we end up getting even closer? I know there isn't a great chance of us going out, but I STILL have feelings for her and they won't go away! I've tried to put her behind me but I still like her A LOT. I feel kinda helpless, like things are out of my hands. Is there anything I can do to change her mind about me?? I don't know exactly what I'm supposed to do here. Thanks in advance.

Well, i was going to tell her how i feel, but the night before my friend mentioned that this other girl I like also likes me. Its the girls best friend, i've liked her for a while now but nothing ever happened for some reason. I've been after her all year and I finally told her how i feel and now i'm waiting for her decision. Kinda weird, huh? I switched girls in a matter of one night. But i know this is the right thing to do, i really like her. So thanks for everyone's advice anyway!

Okay, theres a girl i've been wanting to go out with for a few months now. I know she likes me too, but she has a boyfriend now. Anyway, everyone has given me advice to tell her how i feel and take it from there. My problem is i don't know how to bring it up or what to say. What do they mean by "tell her how u feel?" Should I just say "i like you" or what? How do i explain it to her? How do i start that conversation? I've never had to do this before. Thanks

Okay, heres an update - things have been slow lately and was gonna give up, but my friend kept telling me last night to "go for it!" with her. Apparently no one likes her boyfriend and they want them to break up. I think i'll make a move this week, even though she still has a boyfriend. So my question is should i ask her out or just tell her that i like her? Or should I first get her friends to tell her about me? They've already mentioned me but she didn't take the hint.

Thanks! Well I guess I do have it all set up, but I still have to work things out and hope it turns out well. And I'm still not sure if she feels the same, but regardless I'll make my move pretty soon.

Well the friend is a close friend of hers, I totally trust him. He's saying that she's interested in me and how she's "all mine." He also said that if me and this girl just spent more time together and got to know each other better, she'd definitely dump her boyfriend for me. He showed me an e-mail from her where she said how nice and funny she thinks I am. So I'm going to have him tell her I'm interested and we'll take it from there I guess.

Theres a girl I've known for a couple of months now. I really like her, and I thought she liked me but then she started going out with some other guy. According to a mutual friend she likes me and isn't serious about this guy. Okay lets set aside what I already know, I just want to know if she likes me based on her actions - she laughs a lot at everything I say, she tells me and her friends how funny and nice I am, we both get along great and have everything in common, we've had some physical contact, and she called today just to talk to me. I told her we should hang out more often and she said she wants to also. I really like this girl and I'd feel really dumb if she just saw me as a friend all along, so thats why I wanna know before I ask her out. Sometimes it feels like we're just friends, others its more. Right now I'm waiting for her to break up with her boyfriend, but I think I can speed that up if we could just spend more time together. What do you guys think? Thanks.

I don't even know this guy, never met him. I think he's probably really into her, and thats why I don't think my chances are that high. You see, like I said this girl was kind-of desperate for whatever reason. So I doubt she'd dump this guy right away for me considering she's been alone for so long. But I guess that can all change if I play my cards right. I don't really care if he gets hurt - I also got hurt and I have to live with her on my mind all the time now, when I know its all my fault for not making a move sooner. And I was also hurt when all of a sudden I heard she has a boyfriend. What really bothers me is she jumped into a relationship with some loser when I was obvioulsy there for her and I'm a better guy, I might add.

Thats weird you guys went through the same thing. How do I tell her how I feel? I'm affraid if I do it would make things weird between us. I don't want it to seem like I'm forcing this on her, especially if it turns out she doesn't like me after all. But then again, she's been flirting with me more now than before she had a boyfriend, weird huh? I know I have to wait a while, but I'm affraid if I wait she might lose interest in me since she's got a boyfriend now. I don't want to get pushed into the "just friends" category. Should I do something to impress her? Should I have my friends help me out here?

I wasn't sure which section to put this in so I put it here. Okay, I'll try to keep it short and simple. There's this girl I met through a friend. We hit it off pretty well in the beginning. Soon after I started to like her. We got along great and had everything in common, we're very comfortable around each other. Long story short, she wasn't dating anyone and she really wanted a boyfriend. At first I was too dumb to even think of asking her out. So later on I decided I would ask her the next time I had a good chance to. The problem was I never got another good, appropriate chance to ask her out. So I kept kicking myself, and finally I had a great opportunity - but during that conversation she mentioned this guy she was into. That pretty much ended it for the moment. But I still really liked her and wanted to ask her out before it was too late. Then a friend was told me she likes me and I should go for it. So again, I try to find another good time to do it and I hear that she got a boyfriend only a couple of days before. So then I finally gave up and decided to move on. Then I hear from a friend that the guy she's dating is a loser and that I'm much better for her. She was basically desperate for a boyfriend and wanted someone to be with, so she took the first guy she could. He also told me that I should catch her before its too late. Now, I know this girl likes me, and I know I have a 99% chance of her agreeing to go out with me. But what do I do now that she's dating someone? It would be wrong to ask her out now, right? Her friends all say that they won't last a minute. And she's been flirting with me even after she's had this boyfriend, so now I'm even more confused. What do you guys think? Should I wait and see if they break up? If so, how long after should I wait? How can I get her to realize that we'd make a great couple? I mean she already knows that but she hasn't acted on it yet. Any advice? Thanks!

Thanks for the kick in the butt. I'm usually pretty good at helping myself with these things, but sometimes I get so frustrated and feel trapped. You know, somedays are good, others aren't. Things are actually looking up since the last time I posted. I think soon I'll be going out with this girl I really like (unless I screw that up again). This is like my fourth chance to get it right with her so it better work out. I know I can't change the past, but its hard to forget about it sometimes. Sometimes when I really want something (in this case a girl), its hard to accept when it doesn't work out because I wanted it so bad and it hurts when you know it was probably your fault you lost it. I acutally pride myself in learning from past mistakes and I've learned a lot.

Sorry to reply to my own topic, but today things were great! I was lucky enough that she needed a ride home w/o her friend, so we had some more time alone. When I met up with her at school, she gave me a look and said hi in a different way than she usually does. Later we talked and laughed a lot and really had a good time together. She told me that I was really funny and she likes people who make her laugh. (I don't know if that was a sign or if she was just being nice) But once again, I didn't have the nerve to ask her out because I wasn't sure about her feelings for me or if she likes another guy or not. Lately I haven't been sure if I want to pursue her but today I'm really sure that I want to go out with her. We have a lot in common and get along very well and I don't want to risk giving that up because of what she said the other day. Question 1: From what I've said, do you think she's interested enough to agree to go out with me? I mean I know girls flirt with other guys, even if they are seeing someone else, but it does seem she likes me. Question 2: Do you think waiting a little more would hurt? I know waiting too long can be very bad, but I want to make sure I'm not doing a dumb thing by asking her out. I have a feeling that one of our friends told her I like her. So if she does know I like her, maybe she'll start to think I'm not interested if I keep waiting to make a move? Thanks again

Okay, you may have read my last topic about this girl I like and how she would talk about other guys around me. Well basically after a couple of weeks, I finally had time with her alone to ask her out yesterday. But, I was driving her home, and then she mentioned this guy she likes and that she likes him. She also said how no one has ever been as nice and sweet to her as this guy and all this crap about the nice things he did for her. I know from what you guys told me before that her mentioning other guys was a good sign that she was trying to make me jealous. But this time she acutually said they like each other, and now I'm starting to think that we've been just friends all along. My problem is that after this, I realized how much I like her and I really want to go out with her. And I'm mad that I may have lost my chance and that I have to see her everyday knowing that I like her and she probably doesn't. I mean, I know she kind of likes me, but now I'm not sure that asking her out would be a good idea now that it seems she likes someone else. And I'm affraid that if I do ask her and she says no that things will be weird between us. And if I don't ask her out or at least find out more, I know I'll kick myself forever. I know what you all will say, and no, I'm not affraid of rejection. Asking her out isn't a big deal to me, its just that I don't know if she still wants me to because of what she said. I don't want to come off like I've liked her for so long when she probably doesn't see me that way. You know, it would be kind of weird. Funny thing is, I'm back where I started about 3 weeks ago with the same girl. For now, I plan to ask her best friend (who I'm friends with) if she thinks I should ask her out. I asked her this a couple of weeks ago and she said I should ask her friend out, but now because of what happened I'm not sure if that's still true. So what do you guys think? Should I just give up and take a hint? Should I just go ahead and ask her out? Should I wait to see what happens with her situation? I'd just like to finally settle this whole thing, whether we end up going out or not. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Been there before, and I'm actually there now. Don't think its over so soon. It could just be that you feel things are bad and she doesn't. Maybe she's pre-occupied with something else and it just seems like its directed towards you. Just like Sn0man said, better start doing something now. Maybe you could try talking to her about it, if you think you can. I would try to get your relationship back to where it was and ask her out. Good luck!

Well, I finally got to see her at school today. She ignored me for the first part of the day, but finally at the end of the day I asked her where she was and why she didn't call back. She said she never got my calls. What a load of crap. I could easily tell she was lying. I find it hard to believe that a girl who's constantly on the phone never got five calls and all the messages I left, when in the past she always did. After today, I sensed that she doesn't like me that way. To make things worse for me, her friend that I like was telling me about this guy who likes her and how she likes him too. Then she asked me if I hooked up with any girls over spring break. I said no, and then she says "We'll have to find you someone to go out with." So I'm pretty much giving up on going out with her as well. She also said that she got my message, but doesn't like to return calls. So I'm thinking she knew I was going to ask her out and avoided it. No wonder she mentioned the other guy out of nowhere. I just feel so stupid for falling for both of them. But hey, maybe they'll hook me up with a nice girl. Although she probably thinks its all okay, its not. I still don't know why she's being the way she is. Heres what I've figured out so far: Even if she does like me nothing's going to happen, so I've ruled that out. She knows I like her friend, but that seems to be over as well. So I still don't know why she acts differently than she used to. She's all close and friendly with her other friends, but when I walk by she barely says hi. I know it seems by reading all this that she likes me and doesn't want me to date her friend, but in reality it isn't like that. I know they both ignored me for some reason. I don't expect to find a true explanation, but I'm just so angry because I basically can't go out with her or her friend and it seems they don't want to hang out with me for some reason. Oh well, thanks to all who gave me good advice!

Lately I just feel like I can't get my life together. I seem to mess up everything I do. I screwed up this last year of high school and have no idea if I can get into a school, which is what everyone is pressuring me to do. I don't have a job and need I could really use some money. The only thing I really care about are these girls I'm friends with that I'm also interested in, and they've ignored me for the last week to play some kind of game with me, which only makes me feel more frustrated. I mean everytime I meet a girl I like, I can never seem to get it right. I know thats mostly my fault, but when I finally push myself to do something its either too late or the wrong time. Same thing happens with everything I do - I can't succeed, and by the time I get the courage to do better I've missed my chance and screwed it all up and have nothing to do but look back and realize how stupid I was. Example: One day, I spent the afternoon with a friend I really want to go out with. After she made it obvious that she wanted a boyfriend, after I had a perfect chance to ask her out, I didn't. Stupid me didn't even realize I had the perfect opportunity to ask her out. So I try again for days to come, and can't even get her alone, can't get her on the phone. Now everyday I kick myself for not seeing it. The thing thats frustrating is I know how to get my life together, and I know its not that bad, but when I try it doesn't work for one reason or another. Sorry for kind of a pointless post, but I just need to get some feelings out. Does anyone have any advice?

I would say go for it since she suggested you go out. I wish it was always this easy! Some will say its not good to call to ask her out, but I think it depends on the situation. She basically gave you the "okay," so I think she's kind of expecting you to ask her out, or at least you know she would want to.

Its freaky that we're in the same situation. I want to ignore them, but I still keep thinking about it. Like what if they are just too busy or out of town or something? I know its not likely, but I'm trying to look at it from all sides. This morning I thought to myself something bad might have happened to them and I got worried. I know it sounds crazy but I'm just so confused. I don't mind ignoring her, but I do wanna call her friend and maybe ask her out. But she probably won't answer and I don't want to leave another message and seem needy you know. So lets say I don't see or speak to them until next week at school. What happens when I see them then? Should I confront her? I know she won't be honest, I've tried to talk to her in the past about stuff like this and she just said she was okay, but I could tell she was lying. I don't see them crawling back to me because they both have a lot of other friends, male and female, but I'll give it a shot. Now I just feel alone, and everytime I think about them I get more and more angry. Anyway, thanks for the advice. Talk to you later!

Okay now I'm starting to think somethings going on. Over the last few days I've called her twice and left messages to call me. Nothing. Then I finally got the nerve to call her friend to ask her out last night and she didn't answer, which is surprising because we have no problems, so I left a message. What the hell is going on? I mean I understand that people can be busy, but its been days. I don't want to bother them by calling but I'd like to know whats going on. It feels like all of a sudden they don't want to know me anymore. She used to call all the time so this isn't like her. I was sure somebody would call today but I was wrong again. I was hoping to get together and hang out with her this week but I'm guessing she doesn't want to, and I won't see her till next week at school, so I don't know what to do. I have so many different feelings right now that I'm confused about whether or not I even care anymore. I know I've said some mean things to her, but I don't think I deserve being ignored for no good reason.

Thanks, you are helping btw. I'll pm you if I wanna talk sometime, but its no big deal. Its just weird to think she might like me. I could tell she liked me when we first got to know each other, but I assumed that since she said dating wouldn't work out that she really just wanted to be friends. I mean, I still like her, but I've put that behind me. So if she likes me I wish she would just tell me and we could probably hook up. And lots of people ask us if we're bf/gf. Why does she have to play games like this? Just when I thought it was cool to date her friend now I'm thinking about her again. Btw, I've never met her bf, she says he's out of state, so I doubt he even knows that she messes around with other guys. I called her friend earlier, but she still hasn't returned my call. I hope she's not ignoring me as well, then I'd start to worry. If she is, then I've lost a friend and possibly a girlfriend all at once. But I'm probably just overreacting. Or maybe she is telling her friend not to go out with me. I don't know, maybe I'll find out more in the next day or two. Thanks again.

Nice to get advice from someone whos been in the same situation. What do you think I should do? I can't get a hold of her and I don't want to call again. I was planning to call her friend to ask her out, maybe she'll talk to me about this. I'd hate to lose her as a friend, especially if its because of me and her friend going out (which I'm still not positive is the problem). Is our friendship ruined or is this just a bad period we're going through? Or maybe its just a big missunderstanding? Yeah, I forgot to mention that she's kind-of a flirt with guys (which I have another thread about). So I wouldn't be surprised if she liked someone while she had a bf. You'd think she would say her having a bf is the reason we couldn't go out, but she didn't. I can't wait to find out what's really going on and how it turns out. Thanks.