playmate0925

If you honestly love your girlfriend, you wouldn't be sneaking around with another girl. Just because you haven't done anything with this other girl doesn't mean that you're not going to later. And if you really cared for your girlfriend, then it seems like you would rather be with her and not the other girl...but it sounds like you'd rather be with the other girl instead of your girlfriend. It's not fair to your girlfriend to believe that her boyfriend really does love her and cares about her, when in reality you have a different girl on your mind. You need to tell your girlfriend about this other girl, and let her decide on her own whether she should trust you or not. By the way...does the girl know you're already taken?

if you're not happy with him, then he's not the one. why should you settle for someone you're not happy with? you'll know when you find "the one"...there won't be any questioning it (well, i hope that it'll go that way for you anyway) but you should talk to him about things first, and see how he feels

me and my boyfriend have a great relationship, it's better than i could ever hope for. he doesn't check other girls out, but he does have a lot of friends that are girls. this doesn't bother me, cuz i know he doesn't think of any of them in any way besides just friendship. i have complete faith in him, and i know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me. what DOES bother me though, is how some of his female friends act. for instance, one day i was standing with him after school cuz we were waiting on some other people. then this girl (i forgot her name) basically wedges herself in between me and my boyfriend so she could give him a hug. in my mind, i was thinking "uhh hello, there's somebody STANDING HERE..." i mean she seemed to not even care that she was pushing me out of the way...one of our friends even noticed what happened, and so he ran up to me and gave me a hug exactly like she had done to my boyfriend, lol and then at winter formal, me and my boyfriend were standing there talking to this group of people, and these two girls came up and gave him a hug...and this is while he was standing there holding my hand! what kind of girl runs up and hugs a guy while he's holding his girlfriend's hand?? both times, he never hugged them back, he just stood there looking a little annoyed. then he'd apologize to me (i don't know why, it's not like he did anything wrong) okay...so that's that then there's this OTHER girl that asked him to go to prom with her...when she KNOWS he has a girlfriend!!! are these people inconsiderate or just plain stupid?? i don't understand it, and neither does he. it's really irritating though, it takes everything i have to keep from slapping one of these girls. and just so you know, i don't have a problem with girls hugging him. i just don't like it when they do it when he's OBVIOUSLY with me, ya know? so what am i supposed to do, just stand there and wait until they go away, or should i say something about it? normally i just look at them like they've lost their mind, but normally they don't bother to look at me to see my reaction anyway.

i wanna know why people are having back-and-forth conversations in a topic about fears good grief...lol i'm mainly scared of spiders, i mean i've started crying when i see a big one. i'm also scared of clowns, ventriloquist dummies (big time), porcelain dolls (i can't help it, i've just always imagined looking at one, then looking away, then looking at it again only to find it staring right at me...and i don't think it was helped any when my grandmother propped this doll up on the bed in one of the rooms at her house, and i went in there and it was FACING THE DOOR!!!) basically i'm scared of most dolls, and chucky (from child's play) is absolutely horrible. another thing i'm scared of, is seeing things in the dark that aren't really there...this has never happened, but i'm scared that it will one day (ever watched "the exorcist"? well there's several scenes where you see this demonic face in the darkness...now i close my eyes before i turn my light off) i don't really fear death, i mean it's gonna happen one day anyway. i DO fear being taken from my boyfriend, or him being taken away from me though. i think i'm scared of dying only in the sense that i wouldn't want other people to have to grieve over me, i don't want them to be upset. this may sound strange, but i'm scared of people (like a bunch of people that aren't my close friends) giving me their full attention. it makes me turn bright red and i just can't stand it. but that's about it...oh yea, and a fear of falling

personally, i think you should just simply ask him who he's interested in. i don't see why you should go on worrying when all you have to do is talk to him about it, then you'd have nothing grating on your mind anymore. now, if it was meant for another girl, then the first thing you need to remember is to NOT freak out. if you let him know that you're crying over him liking another girl, he'll probably be scared to discuss things like that with you after that. just be a friend to him, he might not like the girl forever (if there IS another girl), and yall will still be on good terms.

okay i have a problem, and it's really confusing me. see, me and my boyfriend are sexually active, but we're normally really careful. in december, my period was late, but it came a week or two later. i was previously put on birth control (ortho tri cyclen, to relieve menstrual cramps) but couldn't start taking it until i got my period (so i started taking it when i finally got my period in december) before then, i was seriously thinking i was pregnant because i had several pregnancy symptoms (but i obviously wasn't showing because i couldn't have been more than a month along) anyway, i was extremely relieved when i got my period. now here's the confusing part...my period in january was strange. the first day or two were light but i had REALLY bad cramping, and they didn't feel quite like normal menstrual cramps. also it looked more like normal blood and not menstrual blood. then one day there was this...blob thingy, i dunno. it looked like some type of cell tissue, and it was bright red (i'm guessing that's because it was bloody) and there were these little brown things (not blood...definitely not blood) in it. i know this is really gross, but i had to get a q-tip and examine it because, well it worried me. a little more of that stuff passed before my period was over. i don't know what happened. i keep thinking that maybe i had a miscarriage...and that the tissue (which really did look like a little sac) was the...well you know what i thought it was. but i figured i couldn't possibly have a miscarriage if i had my period the month before, so i tried to dismiss the whole event. well now i've noticed some slight bleeding after sex. this sparked my confusion and i once again wondered if it was the result of a miscarriage (because the cervix is sensitive for a while after that and can bleed when it's bumped against) i'm really sorry this post is so long, but i have to figure out what happened. if it somehow WAS a miscarriage (even though i still can't figure out how that would have happened...yet i can't dismiss the thought), then i don't know if it was a complete one or incomplete...and if it was incomplete, then i would need to go have a d&c done to remove the rest. but i don't know how i would go about doing that, because i'm only 17 and there's no way i could tell my mom. she would be so incredibly disappointed in me, and i really don't want that. any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated. if you can think of anything else that might have caused either the tissue thing, or the bleeding after sex, please let me know. thank you in advance.

my boyfriend has the same problem. he can orgasm through sex and masturbation, but not if i give him a hand job or go down on him. it used to upset me a lot, but i'm starting to just accept it. i wish i knew of a way to help, but i don't (and trust me, i've tried and tried to find a way) we're trying to kind of "retrain" his penis though. for instance, when you masturbate, start stroking it differently right when you get to the point of orgasm. then get it to where you can orgasm without going as hard and fast. that's what we're trying to do, i'll let you know if it works. but until then, just let her go down on you or give you a hand job without the intent of making you orgasm. or when she gets you to the point, you can take over and finish yourself. anyway, that's just the way you are. no point in the two of you getting upset over it if you can't change it.

the girl puts a guy's balls or penis in her mouth, and then she hums. it causes a vibration inside the mouth.

you really should try letting him perform oral sex on you, if you haven't done that already. another thing you could do is experiment with different positions when the two of you are having sex. i find it much easier to orgasm if i'm on top, because then the clitoris gets stimulated as well (you might have to maneuver yourself around just a bit, like tilt your hips back a little (not your whole upper body, just your hips) and rock back and forth instead of going up and down) i hope this helps!

they're right, it's perfectly normal. tell your girlfriend not to worry. as long as you're not sticking it inside of her, it can't do anything to her. and if she's that paranoid about getting pregnant, then i'm sure you already use a condom when things DO get hot and heavy, right? anyway, there isn't any way to keep it from coming out unless you put on a condom from the beginning. so if your girlfriend still freaks out about it, then that's the only way to go.

don't worry, it's normal. many men have a slight curve to their penis, some curve up, others curve down, some to the right, and some to the left. it's nothing to worry about.

i lost my virginity less than two months after my 14th birthday, and i don't regret it. i'm 17 now and i don't have any emotional scars from it or anything. even though i almost hate the guy i lost my virginity to, the reason isn't because of that, the thought of him just disgusts me because he tried having sex with me four months ago (we broke up about a year and a half ago) when i was trying to sleep (i had to share a hotel room with him and somebody else because we went to a concert and had to stay two nights) but as far as losing my virginity, it really doesn't bother me that i lost it at 14. my current boyfriend, however, lost his WAY too young...when he was only 7 years old. i don't know if he regrets it or not, because just the thought of it disturbs me and i don't like talking about it. he doesn't seem to be affected by it though.

All I can tell you, is let him go. It seems like the reason you don't want to let him go is simply because you're so used to having him there. What you need to do is stop talking to him, I know this seems hard but it's the only way to start moving on. I was in a relationship for a year and 8 months, and in those last few months my guy basically depended on me for his happiness. He would call me and he would be crying, saying that I treat him terrible (which isn't true, I supported him throughout this whole phase he went though), and he would break up with me several times in a day and then say that he can't live without me. It was emotionally exhausting, he would threaten suicide if he thought he was going to lose me. One day he eventually said he didn't need me in order for him to be happy, and so I took the opportunity and broke up with him then and there. He cried, and came by my house to give me some of my stuff back. Eventually he got over me and continued happily with his life. You'll get over him, it just takes time. You may not have him to be there for you, like my ex had me for him, but you'll be okay. Also, stop calling him and crying to him. I know this sounds terrible, but it's probably aggrivating him and that only makes him act worse. What you need to do is learn how to make yourself happy. You've depended on him way too much, and now that he isn't holding you up, you've fallen. Pick yourself up and stand on your own two feet. If he tries to come back to you again, don't let him. You're better off without him.

It usually isn't considered rape unless the victim says no, and the other person continues anyway. It sounds like he was just taken advantage of, which can happen easily when someone has too much alcohol. But if he didn't do anything with her and pushed the girl away when his head cleared, then I don't see why your relationship would need to end. You should try to get him to stop drinking as much though, because that can tear couples apart.

Not all guys only want sex. For example, me and my current boyfriend have known each other for a long time although we didn't get to be close friends until this school year, and he always seemed like the type that only wanted to mess around. Well, it turns out he isn't even like that and actually told me from the beginning that he didn't want us to get too involved too soon because it could mess up our relationship. This may be how your boyfriend feels. If he really cares about you, then he won't want to risk anything that could damage your relationship. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that sex messes up every relationship, because my boyfriend and I still have a great relationship even after things became a little more physical. He may or may not want more, the only way to find out is if you ask him why he wants to take it slow. If it turns out that he just doesn't want to mess anything up, and the two of you already have a strong relationship, let him know that not even sex would make you feel any differently with him. The sweet little pecks and laying together will still happen either way, trust me.