j-boe

I agree with this post on some level. If you think how simple life is, then you'll see that there is nothing to really ever fear. We make little problems into even bigger events then they really are... We are differing from people to animals because of this, because of our imagination. Imagination is very powerful. I'm not saying imagination is powerful in "oh you can create art and poetry through it." I mean in everyday life, our imagination plays a part. -Like you when you're going to work and you start to think how will the boss react because I'm arriving late, you're really trying to imagine what's going to happen you walk in to the office today. -Or if you think when someone stars at you they think you're worthless... See you think that when they look at you they see something, but in reality, they only see you. -j

Thanks for the replies. Really helped clear some things up. (I mean that.) Yeah, Morrigan, you and I are thinking along the same lines. I was thinking if she really wants to start things back up then I'll let her pursue me for a bit. That and I did encourage her to call about anything and that I'm okay with the past. (Which I am, she although really thought I hated her.) Boromir I would of asked her this stuff but I don't want to push her away with talks of getting back together. I myself would like to take this slow. Like you said if worst case comes along I wont be missing anything I didn't have before. Thanks for the words kuhl282000. Trust me dude, it hasn't been easy what we've been through. If it's one thing I would of done over is ended contact before it got to the point it did. I suggest staying with no contact let her see what she no longer has. I wouldn't doubt this girl you speak of, will be contacting you in the future. -j Thanks again.

Well my Ex and I haven't spoken in like 4 months. That and we haven't seen each other in like 5 months. We at the time didn't end on good terms; she suggested we shouldn't speak to each other ever again. She even went as far as not picking up the phone the week after we had the fight; she deleted my number and e-mails, (I sent one after she said she didn't want to speak to me.) what ever she could do to avoid contact. This made me uneasy and I was pretty much pissed about the whole blowing me off thing. Of course I got over it and so we didn't talk ever again. Well last night I was checking my phone and I noticed that I was called 4 times by the same number at different hours. I've seen the number in my phone periodically but never really thought too much about it. But last night I read it out loud and it somehow struck a note with me; I realized that the number was my Ex's. I of course freaked and called her back thinking she might be in trouble or her family is or something along those lines. Well she didn't pick up so I continued on with my night and went out. Anyhow, about 1 PM today she called and we talked and she went on about how she misses me and she's been thinking about me a lot, stuff of that nature. She said she also drove by my place a few times to see if I was there or not but was scared that I might hate her for what she did. She even asked me if I had a girlfriend and when I replied no she said "good". Now I'm a realistic person but what does this mean? She's not seeing anyone either. Is she just lonely? Does she want to start things up in the future? She looking for a friend? Well if any information is needed just ask. I'd like a few ideas to this too. She just seemed like she might want to start some things up in the future the way she was talking. I don't know, perhaps wishful thinking? I mean, I do miss her too. I wouldn't mind to start things up again. Maybe it's all in my head. -j

Yes you can have STD's without knowing, and most of them can't be cured due to the fact they are viruses. Just because you haven't seen any signs yet, doesn't mean you don't have it. I would use comdoms, for your sake. So just think, you might one day have warts and some really smelly genitals... But it's all worth it for that 5 min pleasure. -j

"im still a virgin and im scared it will hurt my virgina" This made me laugh so hard. Like what else would hurt during sex? Made it sound like Virginia is your pet. Hun... You having nothing to worry about, if it was so scary no one would be doing it. Condoms don't make to totally positive, that's the risk you have to take. -j

Not me, I just pull by hand pubes out of my girlfriend's muff. -j

I don't kiss on the first date... I make love. -j

I say no bra at all. -j

Statement retracted. But in all honesty hun. You have nothing to worry about; strip clubs aren't always about sex (unless you're a very lonely person?) If he went with friends it was probably about having loads of laughs and just having fun. That's what it was for me, and I explained that to my girlfriend. -j

Don't judge too quickly. That's my point. -j

Now come on, I didn't say it was going to be easy. Hang in there though. Just sometimes we have to face the music. (Did I write that? Ew.) The idea of him, is better than the real him. I hope this helps. -j Heh, I'm really nice in this post. =)

Sluts? Some are in college. Working their way to something better... Porn. -j

Heh I use to be shy, and then I sat down and said, "what do I need to be shy of?" needless to say it kind of faded away. (Over time.) Now I'm the ruler of the world... -j

Like I said before... No more chances, he had his 'chance' and from the looks of things he's may of had a few 'chances', screw him. Find a nice guy. Back to what I was saying, find someone else. -j If he hurt you once, he'll do it again 'til he learns.

Naw, stay focused on school... Girls aren't worth it. Don't try and 'act' anything. If I could do some stuff different it would be focus less on girls. Maybe I would of had a better G.P.A? More money? A lot more gas in my car? Who knows. Now if ya' find someone you really enjoy, not some girl that's hot, it'd be worth all that stuff. You'd even cross your parents for her, then something happens, you two break up and you'll be all depressed; ending up here again but with another topic. Odd logic, eh? P.S. Wait for college, then you'll have a better view on things.(A lot funner than highschool, and I had a blast in highschool. -j