gracee

you know what, i came from a very poor family, we have experience eating only little amount of food and save it for the next days and much wors is my mother got sick then and we are crying bec.we thought we would lose her, you know whats good in your part is that you are still a resposible father and you family is complete,while in my case, my mother and father were separated and all bills is shoulder by my mother...i also have my brother and sisters and here in our place we also have a high cost of living....so you see, you are not alone...i keep my faith, i don't do wrong to others and still have hope..we had also experience not paying our monthly house rental...and we used to beg to our landlady then..but now i can say we are still poor, but bec.of courage to survive, me and my sister were able to finis our college (hey i graduated with honor) and landed a job, i also have problems right now and like i get a very low salary....but i just bear in mind that "in every tunnel of darkness there is light that awaits us" and "what is success with out pain".....be strong, lets cross this life with determination ok??just don't stop looking for a job....

for a very simple reason...what you are feeling for her may not be love just a simple attraction....bec. if you loved her you can accept what she is right now, and its her past anyway....another thing you must have been hurt by your ego or pride bec. you are not the person who took her virginity..you are not yet open-minded....

that happens to me, i even get a half bit to ulcer, because i really couldn't eat but you know, like what i did, i tell it to every person that i know even not to my close friends, because if you say more often, you will justwoke up one day and just smile at it and the pain will vanish and your life will be normal

well, its kinda weird, all i can adviced you to do is to talk to ytour ex-bf and open up things,,i know its hard but hey there's no easy way in this world right? the fact of the matter is you're still inlove with him...and the only way to know if he love you back is to ask him.... so that if he say no, you can start your day and move on...

well, does your boss already has a commitment???if he does, stay away from him...if not, well examined your self and try to feel if you there is the possibility of falling with him....set some limitations...i've had a boss who happens to be so fond of me, lately i found out that he got a crush and even attempt to harass me, don't let it happen to you...if you like the way he's treating you, still set your parameters and if not, show some signs or find ways that he won't be able to go near to you..

well, it seems that yourwork, family relations really upsets you...when was the last time you take a rest or vacation? why don't you do it even just a few days...or have you tried to go in a place ,say in a place near you where you are alone, you know, we human beings must make it a point that we spent even an hour before the days end alone....it helps believe, like you im also an independent person, but what are problems seems to be is bec.of our too much independence we tend to shoulder the problems of the world...have you open up this problems you had in work in some of your office mates?why don't you asked your management and have an hour of discussion with your problems... just don't forget when you and your boss talk stay calm ok??organizing a union of employees do sometimes help to allow your management that they are not good, butbe sure you'll have your officemates support...about your family, well, they are not food that when you don't like it, you'l just throw it somewhere..be strong, i know you can make, all you have to do is to set aside other issues and know your priorities..GOd don't give us trials when he knows thatwe can't survived from it... by the way, have youtried looking for another job?how long have you been working there??try to look and explore the world of employment...

try seek advice from a psychiatrist, it could help, as of now what i can give you try to bear this in mind DOES NOT LIVE JUST TO HAVE SEX!!! AND SEX IS NOT EVERYTHING TO MAN!!! TRY TO ENGAGE IN A MORE PRODUCTIVE ACTIVITIES, I KNOW ITS KINDA HARD SINCE YOU DON'T KNOW WHEN YOUR ADDICTION WILL ATTACK, WHY DON'T YOU TRY TO OBSERVE THE TIME, THE PLACE OR THE CONDITION WHEN THIS ADDICTION IS ATTACKING AND HOW LONG IT ATTACKS OR STAYS IN YOU MIND,THEN WHEN YOU KNOW IT OR AT LEAST ITS pattern ..try to engage in a more productive activities like weight lifting when it attacks you...oops i can't stay too long in the net, my boss might arrive...i'll hope you follow this.. gracee

well, i don't know if this would really help you, i know its so hard to live a life full of problems, most esp.if it calls financial aspect...but isn't it hard if you don't have a life anymore/why don't you try to look the things that surrounds you and try to count your blessings.what you have to understand is that not everything arounds you upsets you, there are still things that give you hope, thats why, whether you admit it or not there is something that forced you to live....i've experienced such boring feeling you, when everything seems to be routinary and in work you get low salary, but life is a learning process, maybe youshould develop to some skills that could give you more money, try to have sa sidelines, don't be shy, its good that you try..about you having sex without your wife's knowledge..its really bad...because u are being unfaithful to her, and what i can see in your personality is that your not industrious...you want to solve things yet you don't want to take steps to do it..bear this in mind...it is tru that rewards will come from god, but he won't give it to us unlessw e are worthy of it...try to follow your psychiatrist advice,give it a try,don't let time waits you to do it, you are the one who is suffering from it so i guess you should do some things for you..

who told you that long distance relationships don't work, i had one and we are still going on, but the thing is we have seen each other and spent time together,how bout you? most long distance relationship didn't work because they couldn't answer each other's demand...in your case, the man must be afraid of falling too much or he just like you but don't love you.. in my case at first, my bf is not serious, i could feel but i still insist, until the day we saw each other, i prepared for that day i make it sure that im soo pretty and thats it he falls to me and until now we are happy...

to hey if you think that i give a shitty opinion, so be it!i'lkl respect your opinion anyway..but she shoukd understand that there are really deeper issues concerns that she ned to sort out with his boyfriend,got it??? im so sorry if i you think i don't give her a help, maybe you're too intelligent enough....

hi there, well, it looks like that i still need to give questions for you to help you analyze more, first it seems that you don't have an early sexual life and you are still in a stage where you want adventures in life..answer this pls.is your wife the first person whom you had sex? i've read again your letter and it seems that you are just downloading porno pictures, did you have any experience with gays and do have sex with them? are you attracted to same sex only on the perspective of sex or do you see yourself having commited to them? well, it seems that you are an adventurer of sex, but you know what i had a bf before who happens to be a first timer to have a gf and he just used fme for experienced, i think you are unwittingly and unknowingly using your wife, and since she can't satisfies you, you are looking for an alternative...why don't you have seat with your wife and talk things, try to open up things with her, i know its kinda hard and you are afraid of rejection or whatever reaction she might give you, or try to do some excitement when you are having sex with her, you may also have share of faults why she can't satisfies you...when you are about to do it, try to be naughty or try to asked her where she wants to do it,sometimes changing of doing area could help you...styles do it! i commend you for still asking god's help, but you should understand that god will not help you directly, you are going through a hardship, well we all have our own right??? try not to surf the net and focus your attention to more healthy things...God must have sent the answers to your prayers but you are maybe too blind not to see that the things that surrounds you are the answers already, your wife and your work and children.when was the last time that you and your family went out for picnic or date?or go to church? do you spend time with your kids, have you attended to their school meetings,sometimes we need to divert things so that we can forget the bad habits we are doing...answer my questions and let me what i can help you.. gracee

hi there, there might be reasons why your bf don't want to have sex with you anymore, lets say you don't excite him anymore or he preferred virgin people. try to give him space.

hi there, well it seems that you have a psychological problem towards sex..don't worry many people are suffering from it and i guess you should not be shy to open up such problems to psychologists or psychiatrist....but i could still help you by answering this, do your wife satisfies you in bed?how many time in a week do you do it?how many gf do you have before you settle down?do you do premarital sex before?answer this and i'll help you analyzed your attitude. gracee

hi there, well, i guess we're on the same boat, i just had a break up with my boyfriend, and like you the reason was really something blurry,, all seems perfect for us and one day he just woke up confused about his feelings for me...it was painful of course, but i just bear in mind that there are really things in this world that is sooo hard to explain and understand.. in your case, your gf may have found someone new that arose her curiosity....though im not quite sure about it, but the signs based on your stories are there...i do get way from my first bf before by showing how uniterested i am to him until the boy asked to have a break up with me, in your case your gf must be doing the same thing.. on the lighter side, just set her free, what are you doing right now, such as not going to places that both of you hang-up is good for now,though i know how it would hurt you but think this way, life is a learning process and you are not the only person who experienced the same thing but they managed to survived and so was you!!! gracee

hi there, well, i guess we're on the same boat, i just had a break up with my boyfriend, and like you the reason was really something blurry,, all seems perfect for us and one day he just woke up confused about his feelings for me...it was painful of course, but i just bear in mind that there are really things in this world that is sooo hard to explain and understand.. in your case, your gf may have found someone new that arose her curiosity....though im not quite sure about it, but the signs based on your stories are there...i do get way from my first bf before by showing how uniterested i am to him until the boy asked to have a break up with me, in your case your gf must be doing the same thing.. on the lighter side, just set her free, what are you doing right now, such as not going to places that both of you hang-up is good for now,though i know how it would hurt you but think this way, life is a learning process and you are not the only person who experienced the same thing but they managed to survived and so was you!!!gracee

hi there, well, i guess we're on the same boat, i just had a break up with my boyfriend, and like you the reason was really something blurry,, all seems perfect for us and one day he just woke up confused about his feelings for me...it was painful of course, but i just bear in mind that there are really things in this world that is sooo hard to explain and understand.. in your case, your gf may have found someone new that arose her curiosity....though im not quite sure about it, but the signs based on your stories are there...i do get way from my first bf before by showing how uniterested i am to him until the boy asked to have a break up with me, in your case your gf must be doing the same thing.. on the lighter side, just set her free, what are you doing right now, such as not going to places that both of you hang-up is good for now,though i know how it would hurt you but think this way, life is a learning process and you are not the only person who experienced the same thing but they managed to survived and so was you!!! gracee

well, i think i can help you sort things out, because my boyfriend did it to me...when he do it with my close friends too. first of all, i want you to know that its too painful for us and that kind of experience would really hunt her for years....if i were you..try to give him space.....and believe me time heals all wounds but in your case, it would need a longer time,if you really love her set her free and i think you need it to realized what you really want right?after sometime, if you feel you can't leave without her, try to win her back,,,court her again..if she doesn't wnat you anymore, respect her decisions, you must learn to accept all the possible consequences that may bring because of your stupidity... gracee

maybe_crazy, its a good thing that you open up such too personal problems, i commend you for bringing it out, it shows that your wife is really suffering from her personal dilemmas, what you have to do is to get rid of the girl in the restaurante and focus in trying to save your marriage,using the principle of exhaustion, i believe that your love for your wife is still there, its just that it was overlooked by her sillyness.try to make your wife feel that she's everything in you and about your sexlife, try to make her feel hot, go to romantic places, where there's no one knows the both of you, well it would help her reveal the real her if no one knows her. and asked her to have a child, if she can't let assistance from a doctor be, but if you can stilldo it please do.. gracee