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Baboon, Enjoy it while it lasts, wish my wife had 10% of your wifes adventure in her. I dated a girl in college that was pretty much the same way. It was great but it eventually leads to cheating, I also had a friend who had a girl friend who acted the same way... lead to cheating. Has she always been this way, or has something happened, something bad like a death, or a criminal act? Crazy Good luck to yah!

I will talk with my wife about marriage counseling, and give it a shot. My wife won't take any medication for depression, I kind-of agree with that, I don't think you should go around in life drugged up, but maybe in some cases that is all that will work. I guess my wife could stand to lose a few pounds, but she really isn't to much over weight, she just doesn't ever feel sexy, or it's hard to explain becuase I don't quite understand it myslef, I guess it has to do with self love or whatever. I appreciate the comments and both your views. Hopefully we can work this out. It felt good to get this out to strangers, I have discussed this with my friends, but friends usually stay on your side and the advice is often presented in a biased fashion.

I'm new to this forum, and I am here because I'm looking for guidance. I have been married for 4 years, and have known my wife for 7 years. Weird, I don't seem know where to start, so if I jump around a bit please bare with me. I think I'm falling out of love with my wife, my wife is a caring person and treats me very well. But for the past year she has been extremly depressed with herself, and I have been trying to help her but I seem to have run out of gas. I saw a different life for us when we got married. But I feel like my feelings are "bad" that I am thinking mean things. I have a good career and I thought in time so would my wife, but she is really struggling and has no direction, I don't blame her or anything but it's been bothering me for a few months. I don't have a very good sex life with my wife for the past 2 years, I have talked and talked with her about our sex life, I need more than "hopefully" once a month when she feels like it or is in the mood. She says she doesn't like her body, and feels a lack of confidence and has a whole bag of hang ups becuase how she grew up in a strict catholic house, couldn't where make-up, buy nice dresses, stuff like that. I have tried to support her, and understand though I still don't for some of the things. I'm open to sex and my body and being naked, maybe it's a guy thing. Anyhow.. She has talked about ending her life on some occasions but I don't thik she ever would I think they are just ideas, I grew up with my grand mother uttering those words "i wish i was dead" almost every Sunday dinner, so to me it doesn't really mean much and I know she won't anyways, but it bothers me. I have also talked with her about that also and suggest that she should speak with someone "like a doctor". She seems better in the depression area for the last month, but she always seems to slip back into it. My wife is a very fragile person, can't take any kind of critisum. We don't have any children. Anyhow. I don't know if my falling out of love is temporary or has been coming for sometime. We are really good friends, we tell each other everything, but romance is almost non-existant. I don't want to sound like I am putting all the blame on my wife, I'm sure I have some issues too. I am affraid that the love for her is slipping away, I'm affraid of ever mentioning it to her, I'm affraid maybe I'm not sure. I have never cheated on her, or have any woman in mind, other than what set me off to look at my feelings, I saw a woman, for the 2nd time, I never thought I'd see her again, (k saw her at a resturante) not saw her and was cheating (she works at the resturante). I was in a dream land, not that she was super pretty, but I was imediately attracted to her, in more than a sexual way, I was taken by her smile and gentleness. Since that day I have been confused, I have not revisited the resturante under fears I may approach her. I don't believe in divorce, but how can you have marriage without love or romance. I am very confused. Thanks for listening (reading) Crazy...