First off, let me start by saying I'm new to these forums, but I'm very impressed by some of the advice being offered here. Hopefully someone can give me somesort of insight and clarity into my newfound problem.
Although I'd only dated her for a week shy of six months, I felt pretty certain I had found the person I was looking for. I've had good relationships in the past, but this one was GREAT. I mean, we both like the same music, food, you name it. I find her very attractive both mentally and physically. We both had the same long-term goals, which made things very appealing as well. For the first 4 months, maybe a little longer, things were nothing short of perfect. I lived an hour away from her and attended college locally, but that didn't stop me from seeing her on an almost-daily basis. She would always beg me to come see her 6 days a week, and the days when I didn't see her, she would call me. At first, it was tough for me, being so busy with work and school and then her, but I managed it. I met a let of new friends through her, and was quite content with the direction of things.
Then things began to get ackward. I noticed that she was becoming less interested to see me (she stopped smiling when I walked in, or wouldn't hug/kiss me, etc), and I wasn't sure why...but I still stuck with the status quo of hanging out with her most of the time. Finally I sat her down and asked her what the deal was, and she told me that she really needed some space. I was sort of upset, but I told her that I respected that and would do my best to give her that space. But I found it hard to do so, and I continued to come see her everynight, or call her on the nights I didnt (as I had done for months before). After a couple weeks of this she told me didn't want to break up with me, but she would I didn't give her space. I once again agreed, and sort of backed off a bit. But I guess it wasn't enough seeing that she told me a couple of days ago that she wanted to break up. I tried to talk to her, but she was very adamant, and was unwilling to have a conversation about it at the time. Unfortunately, she was drunk at the time, so I was left very confused. I called her the next day to make sure that's what she wanted, and she told me it was.
So now we've parted, but I still feel very strongly for her, and would like it if we could surpass this roadblock. But, I'm unsure if she's willing to give it another shot. She told me that we'd talk about it sometime, but not anytime soon. I don't know what to do. For the meantime I've decided it would be best to stay away from the places where she hangs out at (a lot of nights when I saw her were incidental, we just ended up at the same place), and to let her have some time alone for awhile. I deeply love her, and I know she does too, but what should I do to regain her trust and respect? A lot of it was lost when I didn't give her the space the first two times she asked. I am not a creep or stalker, or ever have thoughts of being such. I'm just a person who was terribly in love, and had grown accustomed to being with her everyday.
I can't understand how having just this one problem turned into a big mess.
Sorry if this is long or poorly written, my mind has been foggy as of late.
-William
