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Haven, you've always got something interesting to say, you don't by chance live in the san diego area do ya? But she is right, most girls you meet aren't going to be randomly at a club or a bar or some such. You say your friends are all dating now, use that to your advantage! I'm willing to bet at least one of your friends' gf has some single friend who she'd be willing to introduce to you. And maybe some of these girls might not have all that you're looking for...at first glance. Don't be afraid to just take a chance and see where things lead. Right now you have nothing to lose and everything to gain, so just give it all ya got, and by all means, have fun and be happy!

I never would have imagined that loneliness could infact be a symptom, but apparently it is. Ya learn something new every day, and at the young age of 19, I often learn more than just one thing Well (I didn't take the time to go through all of the replies, sorry for my laziness if I repeat something)...as I was saying, well, do you have any hobbies? and if so, I'd assume you like to be around people with the same hobbies. I'm sorry, I merely have a hard time imagining that someone would be unable to find somebody if they ademantly look for a relationship. I got the impression from your OP that you are waiting for something/one to come along and magically lift you out of this lonely funk. The longer you wait, the lonelier you're going to get. It's hard, it takes effort, and it takes time, but in the end if you want to be with somebody, you've gotta just go out there and find them. If they aren't attracted to you as you say, do some research, improve your personality, expand your hobbies and interests. I'm not trying to tell you to settle by any means, but I often times see that a lot of people sit and wait for the "perfect ONE" while a dozen great opportunities walk right past them. Maybe you just aren't giving people a try, or maybe you've overlooked potential girls and just didn't realize it, it's very hard to know somebody just by the look of em or even the first impression. I'm not trying to offend you or insult you, I'm just saying that if you really want to be with somebody, you are going to have to be much more positive and confident about your chances, and take a much more proactive approach to finding somebody. There are around 6 billion people in the world right now...for anyone to say that there is absolutely nobody out there for them...hogwash. I'm done now

I'd think that seeing her in heals would take any worries out of the height issue but that's just me.

First off, I don't condone cheating at all. If I had a friend that was doing it, I'd strongly reconsider my friendship with him. If nothing else he'd already lose my respect. Now usually it's not your right to go blabbing his business...however, you are getting dragged into this whether you like it or not. I'd try to talk some sense into your friend, and have him tell her himself...but otherwise I wouldn't lie for him. It's not your fault he can't be faithful, and it's not your job to cover it up. I understand not wanting to land your buddy in hot water, but some things go beyond that male loyalty. At least in my mind it does.

I think that's a really good idea. I've just been going in circles as to whether or not it would be good to say something, and if so, what I'd want to say. I like that though, it proposes something beyond friends, but not necessarily as serious as a date. Thanks for the idea, I may not actually see her for a couple more days, but I'll let you know what I decided to do and how it goes

No I haven't straight out asked her out yet. I knew she wasn't sure what she wanted yet, and the last thing I wanted to do was make her figure it out too soon. Although I sort of wonder if she's waiting on that?

I sort of feel as if I'm deluding myself on this one, but I figured I'd grab some opinions before I get ahead of myself. There's this girl I like, and have known for a little over a month. In the beginning things were pretty off and on, there were moments where the chemistry was dead on, and then some moments where she just wasn't feeling it. There were a few nights that ended with us kissing and falling asleep together, but it didn't go further then that. I asked about how she felt about being more than just friends. She'd said something about trying to tell herself that she liked me too much, and although she does think I'm a cool guy, she's just not comfortable being more than friends right now. Normally that's my hint that she doesn't want to take it further, but her friends were telling me that she's just like that. That she has to know the person really well before she gets into a relationship. I really like this girl, (as well as you can really like somebody after knowing them for just a month) and I'd hate to just give up on trying here. Lately I've been playing things cool and have just been talking/getting to know her better...but I'm worried about getting stuck in that friends category. Not that I'd mind being just friends, but I'd rather know if I have a chance now so I can either make the effort to make it something more, or move on and just be friends. So the questions here are...Do you think there's a chance? Should I talk to her about my intentions (I don't want to put her in an uncomfortable situation...but on the flipside I don't want to sit in an uncomfortable situation instead)...or should I just continue to enjoy her company, and if it happens it happens, and if not well I've just made a good friend? Thanks for the input in advance.

I used to not even think about it. But with my last relationship things got pretty serious and marriage was discussed. Needless to say that didn't work out as I'm currently single, but nowadays I do think about stuff like that when I find a girl that I'm attracted to. It may not be "manly" or whatever, however I'm looking for something serious and long-term, not something that's just a fling, so I guess as I go down that "list" of qualities, I sure do think about those kinds of things.

I'm attracted to easy going, independent girls. Not too sporty, but a little athletic and active. Mostly what stands out to me is if the girl is nice, fun, and happy. I also like a girl that can spend time on her own and not always need my attention, as much as I love to give it, I like to have my "me time" too. That's just a short list though....would be too much to put my long one!

I'm in about the same situation you are. I just got out of a relationship a couple months ago, and not normally being a social person, I had a few good changes to make. From my experience talking to people is just like anything else, it just takes doing it over and over again to get good at it. The best thing to do is just to be natural and be yourself, especially if you really like the person. When you find the right one it will just click.

I kind of feel for ya haven. Even with e-mail not being the best form of communication, I still like to get /some/ sort of verification that what I wrote was actually read. I understand people get busy, but it really doesn't take more then a minute to check your mail, and maybe a couple more minutes to reply to anyone. Has our lives really gotten so busy that 10 minutes out of our day is too much? I'm not saying checking your e-mail should be a priority, but for you busy bees, it may be a good opportunity to take a break from your busy life and relax for a couple minutes. P.S. E-mail me any time Haven, or any of you for that matter (xl_illusion_lx@link removed) I'll always reply

Hmm...don't know how right I actually am with this tip...but here it is anyways. I think it has a fair amount to do with rhythm, though I'm not quite sure how to explain it. Another aspect I'd pay attention to is not just what's going on down south, but the rest of her body as well. But most of all, just stay focused on her. I can almost guarantee that the more she likes it, the more you'll like it .

So you checked his e-mail...big deal. Seriously though, you're in a relationship right? Now what's the most important aspect about a relationship? Communication! I think not saying anything is a bad idea. Look how much trouble it has cost your conscience already? This isn't really a battle of who was right and who was wrong either. But yeah, just talk to him about it, forgive and forget...who hasn't checked out their gf/bf's e-mail before anyways?