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  1. BrokenHeartGirl
    Well my mother has told me in the past she can take care of him, hes not disabled or senile. Hes able to cook for himself. He just sits around all day and is unable to go out. I know maybe it sounds like I'm being selfish. But when i have invited friends over they have told me how "creepy" he is, or he reminds them of grandpa al from The Monsters tv shows. It takes my self-esteem down to 0. I have had my jobs call me in the past, he answered. They told me "who was that weirdo that old man thats hard of hearing"? I dont suppose anyone can understand unless you've been in the situation.. he refuses help of any kind btw. we tried to get him to go to counseling and he refuses it. I dont appreciate people telling me to get over myself. I am being honest and was looking for some advice. I never told this to anyone.
  2. BrokenHeartGirl
    He tells me hes going to die next probably. I just dont think someone my age should be going through this. I have cousins who are in their 40s and their parents are younger than him and normal. I feel bad for him but how am supposed to have a father like that and not feel weird and ashamed? Everyone including my family looks at me with pity. I dont know anyone who is in this situation.
  3. BrokenHeartGirl
    I'm 23 years old, i go to college away from home. I am very ashamed of my father and have been for years. which is why I wanted to get away from home. He started verbally abusing me, my sisters and my Mom when I was 11. When i was 11 he used to throw me out of the house and i used to be on the street...Then my mother threw him out one day... He has some health issues while he was gone, massive heart attack,cancer etc. My mother took him back when i was 14. He wasnt able to work and just sat in a chair all day watching tv or laying in bed. I was always at my boyfriends house or friends house. I was never home because I never wanted to see him, he gave me a creepy feeling.. He is old- 73. hes hard of hearing. I'm very ashamed of him, i have not invited any of my friends over because im so ashamed. Also when people call my house, he answers and he makes them repeat about 5 times what their saying cause he can't hear. He also is not able to go anywhere because he cant walk and refuses to go into a wheelchair. One time we went out for my birthday to a fancy restaurant and he got crumbs all over himself and dandruff was all over his jacket. He also doesn't cut his nails and their very long. My mother is 10 years younger than him and a normal person who is active and working. I invited my new boyfriend over for dinner cause he wanted to meet my parents. I was embarrased. i didn't say anything about my father but he told me he feels bad for my mother because she like a "nursing maid". That really hurt, i felt my self esteem go down so low. I told my mother about how i feel and she said i should just tell people hes my grandfather. I suffered from depression my whole life because of him. How am I supposed to deal with him? Also I feel everyone in my family looks down on us because of him. I feel like I have no self-esteem when I'm around them. I think he should be in a nursing home not living with my mom. She has no relationship with him other than taking care of him. She has no friends because shes ashamed for anyone to see him.
  4. BrokenHeartGirl
    I guess I feel a bit uneasy confronting him but I am very offeneded by what hes doing. I do have to laugh on the other end, knowing what a jerk he is. Heas a very jaded person so it explains alot. I really feel like cancelling my part of the trip now. My airfare i payed for.. But he is a real jerk- he was nice and we got along along time ago. But hes turned into an unhappy person and Im not sure I want to be around him.
  5. BrokenHeartGirl
    My family is taking a vacation soon,,4 of us.. we all have to pay for ourselves.. In deciding on a hotel to stay, i picked a moderate priced hotel. He says to me "I have no budget, so I can stay anywhere I want" I found it to be insulting. I just said well you can stay at the 5 star hotel and the rest of us will stay at the 4 star.. He just he doesnt want to do that.. Then today we were talking about shows we wanted to see and he said in a sad voice like hes crying.."oh i feel so bad because the great shows cost alot of money and too bad we cant see them" Again I found it to be insulting but didnt say anything..Then we were talking about a show that cost alot of money which i got into for free along time ago, i just said its great when your company pays for you. He said to me, "Well people like me can afford shows like that, thats who pays the money for them".. I was really taken aback, felt weird but didnt say anything. Later on I thought about what he said and felt its very insulting and sarcastic. I feel very upset... Am I overreacting? I mean i would never talk like that to any of my friends, if I did i know they would be mad at me. I dont want him to keep sneakily insulting me because he makes more money than me,, how do i tell him? Also He is in his 30s, lives at home and makes over 200, 000 a year. He doesnt even have a bed, sleeps on a couch or the floor. I make a normal middle income salary. So to me thats where the funny part of this whole thing is. I almost said it to him but Im not that rude..
  6. BrokenHeartGirl
    We were very close friends, he has not talked to me in over 1 year since he got engaged. He clearly cut me off on purpose.
  7. BrokenHeartGirl
    What really upsets me most is that in her email she does not apologize, say shes sorry. The way she worded it is that the blame is on me. Really upsetting.
  8. BrokenHeartGirl
    My friend had plans to move to LA and fell through, we planned together, i am so mad, what should i say? she let meknow too late
  9. BrokenHeartGirl
    Sounds like my situation I found out through his friend that he got engaged, found out from myspace he got married. He totally cut me off. I would not send anything, i think its the biggest insult to not be invited to a friends wedding. I think it says it all really.
  10. BrokenHeartGirl
    I pretty much acceptthat he is no longer my friend or in my life. He does not exsist any longer. Honestly I do not forgive him. He has kept me on his instant messenger yet chooses not to speak with me, I guess it would be easier if he erased me from his life entirely like blocking me. He could have simply wrote an email or sent me a message and I would have understood. I don't think after this experience I will ever trust someone fully like I did with him. He is someone I thought I would be friends with for life and would be there for me through anything. To me its really a betrayl and also fraud. Whatever his choice was I accept it but its a really bad lesson I learned. Also his brother stopped talking to me around the same time, last i spoke with him was on messenger as well and it sounded like he teamed up with his brother with the rude things he was saying.
  11. BrokenHeartGirl
    Well I am looking it at his perspective and I think its really messed up. Also that last time we had contact was on instant messenger and he was rude and mean to me. He still has me on his instant messenger, im not blocked so obviously she didnt ask him to cut all contact cause he could block me. He just does not send any messages to me. Same with his brother. I just honestly feel he was never really friend, I can't understand how a friend could treat another friend like that. I just dont know how i will trust anyone again.
  12. BrokenHeartGirl
    I understand that, I would do what my spouse wanted but I would def let my friend know whats going on. I could never just stop talking to someone who I was friends with for 10 years. Unless they didn't mean much to me. Thats why i feel terrible.
  13. BrokenHeartGirl
    I posted along time ago about my friend who did not invite me to his wedding. I'm a girl hes a guy, we were friends for 10 years- strictly platonic. I considered him to be one of my most closest friends and confided in him, he tols me he felt the same trust and friendship for me. I felt lucky to have such a good friend.. He got married some months ago. I was not invited nor did he even tell me he was having a wedding. I found out through his myspace that he got married. I saw the photos he invited most of his friends- female as well. He also stopped talking to me since last october, havent seen him in 2 years, and everytime i tried making plans he had an excuse. Also last time i spoke to him on Instant Messenger he acted like a jerk to me, and thats the last time I had contact with him. Ofcourse I feel hurt, but I feel like the whole friendship was a lie, that he was never really a friend. I feel stupid for confiding in him and trusting him. Also his wife, i met her several times when they were dating, I always went out of my way to be nice to her, she was always rude and quiet. One time I ran into them in the mall and he started talking to me and she stormed away no where to be found, he had to go looking for her. So I'm guessing she was very jealous and maybe told him to cut him off? What do you think? I have bascially accepted he is not my friend but it hurts and it scares me to think another friend could do this to me in the future. Also his brother who i was friends with stopped contact with me as well.
  14. BrokenHeartGirl
    I live in a building in NYC, when i was younger i used to talk to everyone and answer thier questions, now that im older I realize i was talking too much and these people are just nosey and they never tell me much about themselves. I realize i kinda made a fool of myself. I just want to shut up and mind my own business now, say hi and bye and thats it, i saw one woman who used to ask me lots of questions, I said hi and walked up real fast.. I dont want to be rude, but im older now and i just want to mind my own business. I thought if anyone asks me questions i could just say im in a rush- gotta go. Latley if i see someone i pick up my cell phone so i dont have to talk to them.. am i being rude?
  15. BrokenHeartGirl
    sorry delted
  16. BrokenHeartGirl
    I have an Aunt who i used to be close with cause i thought she was a fun person to talk to. Shes into art and stuff like that. She was nice for awhile but then started getting weird to me, being quiet, not responding.... She started writing me emails putting me down, saying i'm not a hard worker,etc When I sent photos of myself and friends from birthdays or just to be friendly She never responds. She also started writing emails telling me to tell my mother certain things instead of her calling her herself. I was acting like a messenger..I got upset and told her can you call her cause im really busy with work. She then sent me an email asking if me and my mom and my sisters can stop by her place. I just wrote back saying im sorry but im very busy and call my mother to see if shes available. Ever since then shes been sending me emails like a mailing list thing but i feel its to get my attention. I just never respond. Now she sent an email asking me if I saw the Johnny Cash movie cause she says she just saw it and knows i love johnny cash. And then she says i hope your doing well with your job, love life and everything. I feel like shes being nosey and thinks i might give her info I really want her to leave me alone, I thought by not responding she would stop but shes continuing. Should I just write back a short email or should I just continue to not respond?
  17. BrokenHeartGirl
    kissing and getting physical is something that comes naturally. Since you have no experience you should not try anything and let her take the lead. Why dont you pay for hooker since it seems your just looking to get laid? Its not that expensive really.
  18. BrokenHeartGirl
    Deleted- Too Personal I realize.
  19. BrokenHeartGirl
    I'm not married, she is. I am single . You must have misread my post miracle Ley- Shes the one who ignored me, i dont know why.
  20. BrokenHeartGirl
    when it comes down to it, she doesnt feel attracted for some reason thats the bottom line. Something about the guy puts her off-maybe he acts like her brother? Something like that.
  21. BrokenHeartGirl
    I never knew any girls who were single including myself who thought a guy was very handsome but wanted nothing more than friendship. Usually girls want friendship only with guys who they do not find hot.
  22. BrokenHeartGirl
    Well do you think their telling him hes handsome to make him feel better and not hurt his feelings? Many women do that.
  23. BrokenHeartGirl
    They friendzone because their not physically attracted to the guy their friends with, kinda like their brother. Im sorry but its the truth.
  24. BrokenHeartGirl
    Its a long story and somewhat complicated but I will try and sum this up>> My best friend is dating an ex of mine, i tried talking to her and shes so rude to me and refuses to talk, what do i do?
  25. BrokenHeartGirl
    Thanks pretty. It has been a week, thats the longest he has gone without calling me/emailing. I guess maybe I could be jumping the gun. I'm going to call him and just see whats up. He is shy so that could be it as Well.
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