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Sounds like this guy has some major issues. Don't let him make you feel guilty. Sometimes its just not possible to continue a friendship w/an ex lover. I know how you feel. I've been tossed around like a rag doll too. It hurts and its really confusing. Don't allow it people to do it to you. You're better then that.

Don't call him. I know it is so hard not to, but don't do it. If he's interested after a while he'll wonder why you haven't called. He'll call you. Otherwise you'll always question where you stand with him and you won't be able to tell if he really likes you, or if you're just convenient. In all honesty, most of us want what we simply can't have, or what is not easy to obtain. Alot of your desire for him may be just that. Good luck

I agree....risk management. Good insite

Regardless of what he has going on in this life, he can't expect you to stick around if you don't feel loved. Words only go so far, his actions are what matters. I suggest telling him what you just told us. If he's the right one and truly loves you he will find some way make you feel loved, regardless. I spent 5 1/2 yrs in a realtionship with nothing but words. If he can't show you, there is someone out there who can. Good Luck

Do you enjoy having sex? As a woman, I think you will find that you enjoy it even more if you're on top. As far as doing it right, it will come to you.

I know the feeling, me and my guy work opposite schedules, only see each other once a week. You're jumping to conlcusions, sounds like she really likes you. When she does leave, don't question her about where you guys stand, just take it as it comes.

He does owe you an apology. And though I admire your ability to ignore his phone calls and keep it short, it needs to be addressed. My ex would try the same thing, acting like nothing ever happened. But it would be eating me up inside and I'd become bitter and angry with him. The 2 of you need to talk about it, in person. Let him know that you are hurt. He needs to give you an honest answer about where the 2 of you are headed. And if he won't, let him go.

I know you're hurting, and right now all you can think about is HER. And it seems like you're never going to get over it, like you're never going to find anyone better then HER. Its hard to understand how she can possibly be happy and you be so miserable...Its only normal to feel this way. It will take some time, but it will get easier. I promise. It takes time to heal from a break up, and it is a very painful process. You will come to realize that its ok to have a few people who come into your life that will cause you to experience heartache, saddness, loneliness. Its those people who we love and never thought we could live with out that show us in the end who we were meant to be, give us strength to continue, and give us the knowledge of how to be better. My grandmother's words of wisdom that have helped me through some of the hardest times in my life: "This too will pass."

I completely agree with your thinking about being alone. You're not giving up, you are simply happy with who you are and don't need someone else to make you feel complete. In my opinion a soulmate doesn't have to be someone you are in an intimate relationship with, it can be a very best friend. Besides, you're young, you never know what will happen. But when it happens, you won't feel as if you settled.

That's great, almost losing her has shed some light on the way you've been mistreating her. But take her seriously, becasue when a woman finally gets to that point of being completely fed up, there is nothing in the world that can change her mind. I was in relationship for the last 6 yrs, I kept telling him certain things needed to change. He'd change for a few months and fall right back into his old ways. (according to your list, you two sound alot alike) Just this week, I left him, and I'm not going back. Good luck to the two of you.