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  1. wee
    well, he's eight- i don't think he needs to know just yet. i wouldn't explain it as that word is misused all the time.
  2. wee

    is this okay?

    wee posted a topic in Divorce Advice

    a guy i've been seeing is separated and has been for the past 2 years. he was only married a year. his wife now lives in another city and until child custody issues get settled - he legally married to her. they have had several mediations in the past two years but might end up in court if they don't come to an agreement (involving his kiddo) in the next year. i'm dating him. is this morally incorrect? i mean, should i tell him to hold off until he actually signs his name on the dotted line? what do most people do when legal issues are left untied for this long?
  3. wee
    yes, i know how it works. i worried once my ex moved & we started doing the long distance thing. but how do i ask someone to do this? do i go too? where do i go?
  4. wee
    omg LEAVVVE!!!! and dont boil the family bunny.
  5. wee
    I am old-fashioned about women promising to obey their husbands when getting married ok, the top part was a joke. i do prefer "old fashioned" dating. it's more romantic & less confusing. if he asks me out, why should i pay? it's not all about money, it's how they were raised. georgia knows what i'm talking about. these are gentlemen... the kind that open doors for you & walk on the street side to sheild you from traffic. i love them. down the road 50/50 is more appropriate obviously. for some strange reason, i like my men to pick up the check at dinner always. i'll get lunch, movie, drinks- whatever. the waiter needs an obvious place to drop the check, you know?
  6. wee
    hey- i'm new to the dating scene again. for the past 3 years i've been in a serious relationship. since then, tv has aired a million scary "get tested!" STD ads. i do not have an std, but as they say-- it can happen to anyone. so, here i am about to get serious with someone 5 years older than me (i'm 25). should i suggest we get tested? i wouldn't even know where to go! the commercials just say "get tested!"-- i don't suppose this is something my dentist can take care of, is it? seriously, do people really have these conversations? i just don't know quite how to bring it up -or- aare those commercials directed towards the more sexually active crowd?
  7. wee
    i wouldn't read that much into it.. but interesting question in the past, one bf had issues ejaculating when he was taking rogaine (or something similar)-- something to consider
  8. wee
    may i ask your age(s)?
  9. wee
    i hate asking that question, "what should i do?" -- but i really need help here since i've never been in this situation before. i've never even dated a divored guy before. i've posted here before. this new guy is really throwing me through loops. he moved back home a year ago & has been dealing with child custody issues ever since. i am trying to keep things on the downlow to help him (before hew was introducing me to everybody-- family, etc). i doubt they think we're just friends, but he's convinced. so right now i don't see his family much anymore and probably wont until his divorce is final (another year or so). they know we still hang out, and we do see eachother as much as possible. ....but is this ok? i mean, it's not ideal but i can see where being involved with someone could hurt his case. i don't know enough about divorces. i would like to see him get custody & definetly don't wan't to mess up anything. help?
  10. wee
    hey all. for the first time in ages, i had someone utter the words i hate to hear : " i want to cum in your mouth" sorry. and gross. that pretty much sums up my response as well! in college, a few guys i was serious with brought this up - and immediately dropped it as soon as i told them no. THIS new guy said "why?" -- he asked why! after telling his "nuh uh- yuck" he said, "i let you cum in my mouth" -- okay, this shocked me. females & males are not the same--at all. if one has to ask "did you cum?" then, i don't think they mind a little extra. i said that & he acted hurt-- saying we'll talk about it later. so, how important is this REALLY? and a q for the women: do you prefer the warning tap or less clean up? a little background- i have tried this out of curiosity & gagged. i'm just kind of shocked at his responses & wondering if this is the norm now...
  11. wee
    yeah, i know the obvious way to make him stop (haha) .. nobody can keep that up for years ..or weeks! that's exactly what i'm afraid of. i just hate to end it because i can't handle it/he won't listen. but yeah, ending it might be the best option. thanks, i appreciate you taking the time to read & respond.
  12. wee
    that's kinda what i was thinkin' -- this thread reeks of bad karma
  13. wee
    a guy i'm seeing is trying to push things way too fast. i've only known him a week and he already misses me all the time, throws a million compliments my way every chance he gets, etc. we've hardly ever had a "normal" conversation. meaning, i'm still learning what he's all about. usually i don't mind compliments.. but this feels like too much too fast. i have let him know, but he has only let up a little. he still asks things like "did you miss me?" -- i replied "i barely know you!" with a slight giggle. but he still says it. also, the sex thing: we aren't sexually active- at all. but he let me know in detail this ranks high on his list. what he wants to do to me, etc. finally, i told him to stop because it embarresses me. HE replied: "what, you don't like attention?" when i told him to stop complimenting me so much, he said this: "i'm just being honest. you don't want me to be honest?" i feel i can't win. is he just messing with my head or what? is there a way to make him stop until this type of chit chat is approproate?
  14. wee
    thank you for the replies. unfortunately, i've already met his son. the day we met practically. i work in sales -- and they just happen to be in. there's a lot i wish i could change and a lot i wish i knew about his background. i have asked but he's kind of vague (or maybe i just spill too much). thanks again-- you have given me a lot to chew on.
  15. wee
    so do i. it was really strange.. the kid was off playing, but still--nothing felt right about it. would it be out of place to explain why i'm so hesitant?
  16. wee
    so what would the proper response be? i mean, can i say "you're coming on too strong.. back off" on the next date? i know i *CAN* say anything... i just don't want to scare him off completely.
  17. wee
    i would like to know this too!!!! i feel for ya tesser. it is creepy & kind of ruins the date. can't they wait a bit?? i just went on a 2nd date with a guy i really like. it was spur of the moment. he was in the area-- i said no, but he knew my area so he started driving around with me on the other end of the line. i finally gave in and told him directions. i don't live alone, and know enough about him to know he's not a threatening guy. i knew kissing might be in the cards--so i was prepared. .......but he was way touchier than i like on a second date. also, he kept complimenting me... a lot. perfect this and that -- which is nice but made me feel uncomfortable after a while. how do i tell him to shut up... nicely? i like him a lot but there's more to me than looks. it makes me less interested now because i feel like he's not looking at anything else.
  18. wee
    also, he's been a total gentleman--above & beyone, except when it comes to kissing & touching. do you think he'd just interested in sex? he compliments me all the time, which i find flattering, but don't know how to respond sometimes. i'm not the type to sleep with someone after 3 dates or 30 dates. there has to be something there, right?? well, i there's def. "something" there but i feel vulnerable already because i've been such a flirt back. what if i'm just blinded because he's unusually nice.. what if it's just lust?
  19. wee
    hey- i need help. last week an amazing guy came into my life. he's very sweet & unlike any guy i've ever met (sounds familiar, huh?) so, i've met his kid--who is a love. but would like to get to know them both at a slow pace, considering the circumstances. i don't want to be "just another woman" since he is new to the dating scene once again. things i'm worried about: he move in to kiss me on our first date in front of his son. i said no, but did kiss him back on the second. is he one of those guys who is sincere about the things he says or is he just a big flirt? how do i know? i don't want to get too close out of fear of getting hurt. i am worried i might say -or worse- do the wrong thing early on.. speeding up the relationship. should he be dating right now? although we have a lot in common -- i have never dated anyone with kids before and none of my friends have kids yet either (i'm in my mid 20's). he calls everyday or comes by my office. so i need to be on my toes. help?
  20. wee
    >>>Don't knock science fiction and fantasy. Too often it gets stereotyped. it's not about the book. it's about the situation. he knew i didn't like the movie/that type of stuff. so, it seems kind of odd to act excited about it. like they said. i stuck with the simple thanku... nice guy/nice thought later, a chick lit girl
  21. wee
    thanks, that's what i did. i was just a little confused because he already knew i wan't wild about the movie (we compared the book after the movie). i read the kiddie book years ago, not the full set. anyway--- many thanks!
  22. wee
    how do i say thanks for the thought -- in a nice way. background: a guy i am kind of dating sent the narnia box set of a movie we saw together. he knows i'm not that into sci-fi type stuff (or whatever you call it). it's still a nice gesture, but i probably wont read it unless im really really bored, have tons of time, and have all my other "to read" books read. i mean, he didn't need to get me anything at all... i know he was just looking for something i could relate to... how do i say thanks w/o lying?
  23. wee
    i'm in a very similar situation... only i'm the f. she should have told you upfront she wasn't ready & laid off a bit. is she seeing other people???
  24. wee
    thanks! i agreee-- he's confused, but i don't know why. i feel like he's hears what i say.. both doesn't bother to comprehend because we keep having "miscommunications" can't i haven't seen him since my last post ...until today.i told him up front he couldn't stay over BEFORE making plans... assuming he would drive home that night. he drove in- we spent the day in the city, saw a movie, etc. then went for dinner, got pushed out (they close @ 10) & so we brought it back to my house & watched saturday night live. nothing NOTHING comes on after snl. he made no attempt to leave. finally after a few obvious hints from me (fed the pets, etc), he said: "well, i just kinda thought we would spend tomorrow together too..." him: would you want to do something tomorow? me: bu-butbut-- i told you from square one you can't stay here! him: i'll just find a place to stay *mopey voice* me: like what? me: and don't try to make me feel bad about this him: i'm not, i just thought we would spend the whole weekend together since i'm in town. he knew i didn't have plans tomorrow. so, now he's at a holiday inn. i've never had someone been so aggressive. (well, i have.. but i liked it then.) geez, alone time *IS* okay. i can't help but feel a bit bad. i didn't kiss him this time.. he should know something's not right. i mean, i could really like him. but the more he does this.. i really just want him to slow it down... what would you have said? did i walk into some kind of trap?
  25. wee
    that thought occurred to me (the idea of him trying to take control)... this is one area where persistence does not pay off. i wish i knew how to say it nicely. i DO know he has only had two other relationships (was in highschool odd he mentioned that one since it was over 10 years ago. (but now i know why!) i just need to find a way to tell him to slow the hell down. i mean, i kind of like hanging out by myself sometimes... it seems like he has good intentions, i'm just not sure he "gets it"](*,) thanks for the responses
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