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well, he's eight- i don't think he needs to know just yet. i wouldn't explain it as that word is misused all the time.

a guy i've been seeing is separated and has been for the past 2 years. he was only married a year. his wife now lives in another city and until child custody issues get settled - he legally married to her. they have had several mediations in the past two years but might end up in court if they don't come to an agreement (involving his kiddo) in the next year. i'm dating him. is this morally incorrect? i mean, should i tell him to hold off until he actually signs his name on the dotted line? what do most people do when legal issues are left untied for this long?

yes, i know how it works. i worried once my ex moved & we started doing the long distance thing. but how do i ask someone to do this? do i go too? where do i go?

omg LEAVVVE!!!! and dont boil the family bunny.

I am old-fashioned about women promising to obey their husbands when getting married ok, the top part was a joke. i do prefer "old fashioned" dating. it's more romantic & less confusing. if he asks me out, why should i pay? it's not all about money, it's how they were raised. georgia knows what i'm talking about. these are gentlemen... the kind that open doors for you & walk on the street side to sheild you from traffic. i love them. down the road 50/50 is more appropriate obviously. for some strange reason, i like my men to pick up the check at dinner always. i'll get lunch, movie, drinks- whatever. the waiter needs an obvious place to drop the check, you know?

hey- i'm new to the dating scene again. for the past 3 years i've been in a serious relationship. since then, tv has aired a million scary "get tested!" STD ads. i do not have an std, but as they say-- it can happen to anyone. so, here i am about to get serious with someone 5 years older than me (i'm 25). should i suggest we get tested? i wouldn't even know where to go! the commercials just say "get tested!"-- i don't suppose this is something my dentist can take care of, is it? seriously, do people really have these conversations? i just don't know quite how to bring it up -or- aare those commercials directed towards the more sexually active crowd?

i wouldn't read that much into it.. but interesting question in the past, one bf had issues ejaculating when he was taking rogaine (or something similar)-- something to consider

may i ask your age(s)?

i hate asking that question, "what should i do?" -- but i really need help here since i've never been in this situation before. i've never even dated a divored guy before. i've posted here before. this new guy is really throwing me through loops. he moved back home a year ago & has been dealing with child custody issues ever since. i am trying to keep things on the downlow to help him (before hew was introducing me to everybody-- family, etc). i doubt they think we're just friends, but he's convinced. so right now i don't see his family much anymore and probably wont until his divorce is final (another year or so). they know we still hang out, and we do see eachother as much as possible. ....but is this ok? i mean, it's not ideal but i can see where being involved with someone could hurt his case. i don't know enough about divorces. i would like to see him get custody & definetly don't wan't to mess up anything. help?

hey all. for the first time in ages, i had someone utter the words i hate to hear : " i want to cum in your mouth" sorry. and gross. that pretty much sums up my response as well! in college, a few guys i was serious with brought this up - and immediately dropped it as soon as i told them no. THIS new guy said "why?" -- he asked why! after telling his "nuh uh- yuck" he said, "i let you cum in my mouth" -- okay, this shocked me. females & males are not the same--at all. if one has to ask "did you cum?" then, i don't think they mind a little extra. i said that & he acted hurt-- saying we'll talk about it later. so, how important is this REALLY? and a q for the women: do you prefer the warning tap or less clean up? a little background- i have tried this out of curiosity & gagged. i'm just kind of shocked at his responses & wondering if this is the norm now...

yeah, i know the obvious way to make him stop (haha) .. nobody can keep that up for years ..or weeks! that's exactly what i'm afraid of. i just hate to end it because i can't handle it/he won't listen. but yeah, ending it might be the best option. thanks, i appreciate you taking the time to read & respond.

that's kinda what i was thinkin' -- this thread reeks of bad karma

a guy i'm seeing is trying to push things way too fast. i've only known him a week and he already misses me all the time, throws a million compliments my way every chance he gets, etc. we've hardly ever had a "normal" conversation. meaning, i'm still learning what he's all about. usually i don't mind compliments.. but this feels like too much too fast. i have let him know, but he has only let up a little. he still asks things like "did you miss me?" -- i replied "i barely know you!" with a slight giggle. but he still says it. also, the sex thing: we aren't sexually active- at all. but he let me know in detail this ranks high on his list. what he wants to do to me, etc. finally, i told him to stop because it embarresses me. HE replied: "what, you don't like attention?" when i told him to stop complimenting me so much, he said this: "i'm just being honest. you don't want me to be honest?" i feel i can't win. is he just messing with my head or what? is there a way to make him stop until this type of chit chat is approproate?

thank you for the replies. unfortunately, i've already met his son. the day we met practically. i work in sales -- and they just happen to be in. there's a lot i wish i could change and a lot i wish i knew about his background. i have asked but he's kind of vague (or maybe i just spill too much). thanks again-- you have given me a lot to chew on.

so do i. it was really strange.. the kid was off playing, but still--nothing felt right about it. would it be out of place to explain why i'm so hesitant?