hayleyrosa

Maybe what she needs isn't direct counseling but a more relaxed approach, in my area there is a drop in couseling center for young people, try and find something like that near you. Cutting is just a way some people have of coping, don't try and make her stop because she'll just end up feeling even more down.

Things have been getting so much worse. I don't understand, I was getting better last week but now I'm just stuck. I keep breaking down and sobbing, not just crying but sobbing and throwing things. I'm losing control of myself. I can't help it, all I want to do is see my ex but I know I cant. We met up again and I tried to be nice and happy but had to leave because I started crying. I can't keep going on like this, I'm miserable all the time.

Breakups tend to work like fairy stories, theres a set of convensions that people easily recognise and can understand. unfortunately, you, the man, have to be the mean one who holds ground and doesnt give in to the weeping female. If you do give in, it's all just gonna happen again.

I've recently been through the same kinda sh*t your going through. Life's hard and you just can't be bothered to try anymore, right? I'm not gonna say things are magically gonna get better, cause they won't, it doesn't work like that. Go see a Docter, they wont put you on medication if you don't ant to be but they can help in other ways. I know you've analiysed your own emotions but thats not the point of therapy, the point is to vent out your problems to someone who you don't know and it can help. Mental institutions arn't as bad as they seem either, it can give you a chance to break out f your cycle and get some time to yourself. Focus on yourself, who gives a damn about any one else, be bloody selfish. There are things to live for, even if it doesn't seem like it now. And if you really do have to die, do it dramatically, get on a plane to Africa and go elephant hunting until the Green Peace catch up with you or something. Don't become a staistic. This is a story I wrote after my recent problems, read right to the end and you might see a glimmer of hope; link removed

Sex comes in different forms, a one night stand can be fun if you just want some exercise. But having sex with someone you love is different, it's a by-product of the love you feel, not just a cheap thrill. It's a lot more meaningfull. Somebody will turn up when you least expect it and sweep you off your feet and when you truly care about someone, and they for you, neither of you will give a damn about each others history, you'll be living for the moment. So don't worry if your having problems random one night sex, because when you actually need confidence, it will be there.

I've had a one night stand that developed into a long and commited relationship. I've also been told by a guy that I wasn't the girl for him because we had sex on the first date. It all depend on you and him, if your feeling comfortable with him then why the hell not, sex can be an expression of deeper feelings and your willingness to commit.

Met up with him yesterday. He was so nice to me, he hasn't been so kind and considerate in ages. He said theres not a chance of us getting back together but the look in his eyes and his body language were saying something different. I know its not sensible but I love him so much, I've never had this trouble with break ups before, it always made sense to end them but this time, I can't understand why we are not together when its so evident we both want to be.

I occasionally do life modeling and so cant have cuts on show, my usuall coping technique is getting another piercing, they hurt when they are done and you can tug on them or play with them when you need some focus. Plus they are socially exeptable.

I'll tell you what the counseler I'm seing at the moment told me, I recently got out of a mental health ward after a suicide attempt so I don't know how relevent the advice is to other people but hey, it might be handy; If cutting yourself is helping, then keep doing it, its better to do something that helps get rid of anxiety and tension then leave it to grow. Creative outlets may be considered more healthy but they don't work for everybody. Keep them shallow and keep them clean.

I use this username alot these days, I don't want people searching for it and finding old posts that dont affect me anymore, I've moved on and dont want messy reminders. Sorry.