69_king

yes, if you're very good looking, well dressed, smart, outgoing, intellectual, independent then lots of guys are going to think "There's no way she's going to want to go out with me!" That's a sign of respect, actually. So usually the only guys who would go after you are the macho guys who know what they want, get what they want and think they are better than you. Now, there is a small number of nicer guys that will get over the intimidation but still respect you and ask you out. The only problem is that's like 1 in 10 or 1 in 20. So they are harder to find.

Maybe you're too nice and polite?? That hasn't seemed to work for me.

I think if anyone should complain it should be the person receiving the "attention". Its their problem and maybe you can talk to them about it and ask them if they want to report it but if you go straight to the boss without consulting them first and say "I think those guys are harassing the new girl" then you won't achieve anything and you are only going to get the B.I.T.C.H. label. I'm not saying its right, I'm just saying talk to the girl first and let her deal with it or help her deal with it. If she doesn't seem to mind it too much then I would just get on with my own business. Don't get too worked up about it unless it is harmful. I once had a co-worker who had a Shania Twain screen saver on hios computer , nothing rude, fully clothed. Anyway, he had to remove it because one of the female workers considered it sexual harassment. Isn't that going a little bit over the top? What I'm saying is that if she seems to be bothered by this then go talk to her and together go find someone to report it to who will make it stop.

Thanks for the replies, I'll check that stuff out! In the past I've been able to noticably reduce them by going to sleep early, not sleeping too long, like go to bed at 10 and get up at 7, not drinking, not going out in the sun. But all that is sooooo boring!!

me too, I have never had any noticeable reaction to caffeine.

I have pretty dark circles under my eyes, sometimes its worse than others. I look in the mirror and I look tired and a few people have actually asked me if I'm tired. I do get about 8 hours of sleep each night. Does anyone know how I can reduce these? Its depressing to see myself looking tired when I'm not.

I can't really remember it clearly but I think I was 16 and I kissed a woman at least 10 years older than me. I was slightly intoxicated Anyway the first time I kissed for real I was 20. Let me point out that I had plenty of opportunity before that but was too shy!

orgasming that just sounds too weird!

no problem, thats the way you're supposed to act, although the facebubble thing sounds a little weird. You probably won't have an easy time getting a boyfriend but I am sure there are a few nice/shy guys who would be totally cool with that stuff.

I'm 25 and in a similar position to you. I haven't had a girlfriend in 5 years and I haven't asked anyone out in 3 years until last week. I had 2 girlfriends that year 5 years ago. I never had one before and they both asked me out. Anyway since then I have been through University without finding anyone, there were way more guys than girls where I went and in my specific program it was about 20:1. I play golf and I've asked out 2 girls who play at my club but they are always going back to university or something in the next week. Anyway, I still think university and clubs (activity clubs, not nightclubs) are the best places to meet. And sometimes through other people. My mother's friend works with a girl my age and last week we all went out for dinner. I decided it has been way too long so the next day I called the girl up and we are going out tomorrow! It was easy! I mean it was hard as hell to call her up but all I had to say was "Do you want to go out" and she said "Yes!".

I don't know but if you're comfortable enough with someone to stick your *beep* in their *beep* then you shouldn't care if they have a little *burp*.

you can't be serious You know, if you concentrate really, really hard, you can turn the pain into pleasure. I do this when I am going to the dentist or I'm outside and its really, really cold. I don't really know how I do it, but I just try to imagine that it feels good and I even think to myslef sometimes "Come on, give me more!" Anyway it helps me get through unavoidable pain and I guess its worth a try if you are having pain during sex. Also, you need to relax, especially the PC muscle, I think thats what its called. its the muscle between your vagina and your bum.

0.8% is closer to 1/100 not 1/10. anyway I really like sneezing, it must feel excpetionally good for me because ther is no way that my orgasm is 100 times stronger I can usually sneeze by looking at the sun.

the guy can get off too, you just have to rub in the right place, concentrate on the area just below the head of the penis, and I suppose its better if you are not wearing thick jeans. It might also be better if you are not circumcised. and its not really that silly, if you are young, its very safe and kind of feels like you are having real sex. Call it training sex But you can do it if you are older too.

has anyone ever had a girl fart when you were going down on her, like from a 69 position so your nose is "you know where" ?

just wondering, is it a different story if you caught him masturbating in the bathroom? I don't know, he might be thinking about you when hes doing it but how would you feel? It means hes just not getting satisfied as often as he needs.

I don't find Julia Roberts extremely attractive. (even when she was young)

I've got to remember that one, oh yeah!

oh, I thought when you said 99.9% of the time it was the rabbit that one person had picked the donkey. but you seem to have that covered already anyway

doing the 9 times table wouldn't work for me, I've got a math degree, I'd have to try solving differential equations or something, oh cr@p! there goes my geek alarm, ok, switching back to cool mode. 8) Yeah, so, like I'd rather be concentrating on the experience, you know? just be real slow and smooth for while

I once read somewhere, on some health site, how to make a woman ejaculate no matter what size you are. Although, it sounded kind of complicated. But I guess that would classify as "knowing how to use it"

maybe he's trying to find some new techniques or positions to try with you although I think if I were him I wouldn't be looking at it when you were around. I suppose if I knew that my g/f or wife truly and absolutely loved me then I wouldn't care so much if I caught her looking at pictures of naked firemen.

what do you do if she picks the other answer? Anyway, you can't really call it a pickup line but twice I've been standing in a line next to a girl and she's asked me what time it is even though there is a clock in plain view about 10 feet away, trying to start a conversation. It's not very imaginative but it was sort of cute

You know, there's probably a million shy, good looking guys and girls who can't stand hearing that personality crap all the time (even if its true ) people think its mean and wrong to talk about good looks and bad looks like if you say "I only like good looking people" then they call you a jerk. But its perfectly ok to say "I want someone with a good personality" Which is the worse insult? : "You're ugly" or "You've got no personality" saying "You've got no personality" to a shy person is like saying they are ugly to their face.

It's probably easier to be someone who's ok or pleasant looking than someone who is really hot because the hot person feels like they are gifted or something and then they have to live up to that, and not waste it, and maybe they initimidate other people (unintentionally) which isn't always great. People will also be jealous of them. And especially if you become a model or something then you are constantly worrying about your body and losing your looks and everything. It ends up becoming a chore.