69_king

First of all I think it's really lame to consider someone out of your league, you got a whole superiority thing going on there which I think is pretty arrogant and you shouldn't consider anyone "lower" than you it's disrespectful. You just know when someone is at a different level than you (higher or lower). Whether that is right or not. Whether you like it or not. Its unavoidable. It happens to everyone. That is all I am saying. But let me add that you should never put that in their face and you should not let it control you too much. Its annoying, and you have to try to ignore it, but its still there. And that is one reason why a person may be nervous to ask someone out. How old are you? 16? are you afraid she wants to trap you into marriage or something? obviously she likes you and if she's only 16 too then she's probably a little bit naive and she thinks its the right thing to say all that stuff.

I don't know, I'm just kind of a natural at it, I guess I let my tongue just lightly brush her lips and the tip of her tongue without thrusting it in. I only do that once in a while when the kissing gets a little more passionate and even then I don't "thrust" it but more gradually put it deeper. I also kind of suck her lips a little and try to kiss in unison and rythm with her. I should point out that I never actually think of any of this stuff, I just let it happen. Oh, and use your hands at the same time, like brush your hand through her hair and stroke her head. Kissing isn't just about the mouth.

I'm out of college and I don't have any female coworkers my age so the only chance I'm going to get to talk to a girl is by asking her out. It sucks because I can't get to know a girl except by asking her out but I have to ask her out before really knowing her and she doesn't really know me so it can be a little nervous sometimes. I don't know why, it just some chemical thing in your brain. Lots of times I think a girl is out of my league, but lots of other times I like a girl and don't want to ask her out because I think I am out of her league

my mother caught my gf and I once on the couch, I was 20, she was younger. Anyway she just told me she didn;t want me doing that in her house and that was it, she never really talked about it again.

doesn't it ever hurt the guy who's doing it??

Holy Cr@P, if those hints aren't enough then I don't know what is! She wants some kind of intimate interaction, maybe not sex, but you can have a lot of fun without going nearly that far.

Holy Cr@P, Why didn't I figure this out 5 years ago! I never got it! Girls want some guy that doesn't care about them, just wants sex, treats people like dirt because its all part of some f@#$ed up game thats being played with their hormones and subconscious mind. It proves my theory that nice guys finish last! I can't get a job because I'm too honest. This bastard keeps beating me at golf because he cheats and I don't. I can't get a girlfriend because I'm too nice. Oh my god, it all makes sense now! I'm looking for a nice girl but they never seem attracted to me. The only girls that seem attracted to me are the bad, sl\/tty ones because maybe this is some kind of reverse challenge. They want to turn me BAD!! Ok, so now I have to let some nasty girl take advantage of me and turn me bad and then I will be able to get the nice girl!

I hate pants!! I like girls who wear skirts. I guess shorts are ok too. Brands don't matter. The schoolgirl outift's always a big hit. I don't really care about the style that much but I believe everybody should wear clothes that improve them. Even a little bit. Give me one reason why you wouldn't want to look better. I suppose some people don't care what they look like but you only live once, looking good feels good so have fun!! I've been criticized for dressing too nicely but it grabs attention while the guy in the faded jeans and wrinkled t-shirt blends into the background.

Hey! You're right, I'm overanalyzing it! It might be because I have a degree in Computer Science and when making a good program you must analyze every possible scenario to its end, no matter how unlikely it may be. Some of the scenarios I have been imagining with my little problem are hugely unlikely. But life is not a computer program. (actually life is f*#@ed up) I'm not going to worry about the future so much, I'm just going to have fun and let it happen. Things never work out the way you imagine them anyway, so don't even try. Thanks

I was 20 and my girlfriend was 16, she had been with one other guy before sexually but said she had kissed about 8 guys, is that a normal thing to say when shes lying on top of me? Anyway, we kissed for about half an hour on the couch and then started getting more involved and although we didn't go all the way we spent the next half hour getting undressed while playing with each other. We both brought each other to orgasm. I would rate the whole experience about 8/10. I would rather do what we did than have intercourse anyway. And she said I was the best kisser she had ever kissed and it was my first time (I didn't tell her that though!

I have never had one (or seen one performed) but I thought it involved the girl sitting on the guys lap and "grinding" into him until he reaches orgasm. Although, maybe not all are the same because I had a friend at work who went out to a strip club during lunch one day and returned 3 hours later having supposedly had 8 lap dances!

OK, I'm 25, living in Vermont USA and I haven't had a real girlfriend since I was 20, actually I haven't had any kind of gf since then. My problem is I'm good-looking, intelligent, classy, honest, pleasant, the list goes on and on but I'm a little shy. So my problem is I've been (unwillingly) searching for "The Perfect Girl" (at least perfect for me which is quite different from what you might imagine) And it doesn't help that my mother and her friends keep saying I should be a model and how fabulous I am and all this crap. They are exagerating anyway but still that sticks in my mind and I feel like I could have any girl I wanted, but thats not the way I really am. The girl's I like are quite different from what most guys like, I don't like thin girls for example and I like interesting, intellectual girls. Anyway, for the last 5 years I have not met a single girl that "fits" who I am looking for. I have "noticed" a few girls who I would have liked to ask out but I was too shy and never got the chance (I have only ever gone out with girls that have asked me) Finally I decided that this is ridiculous and yesterday I asked a girl out who I had just met last week. She's very nice and I like her (not perfect but I don't care about that anymore) and we are going out next week (hopefully ) Oh yeah, I had to get myself drunk to build up the courage to phone her! One of the reasons I am so reluctant to ask girls out is that I am so scared that I might have to hurt them one day by ending our relationship. I think I respect them too much, you know? That's why I have always hoped to find the the girl who I know is "the one" and I would never want to break up with her. But how do you know what the girl is like unless you go out with her? Ok, I'm dragging on too far here. This is my problem: I asked that girl out right? Then today I find out that a friend that I ski with (he's about 35 or something) is having his 23 year old niece visiting from England in about 6 weeks and we are going to be skiing together and stuff. Now, I have a thing for English girls, and I'm afraid that I might like her more than this girl I just asked out. So, do I : 1. go out with the first girl and pursue that normally regardless of this new information and try to avoid the english girl when she comes or hope she doesn't like me? 2. go out with the first girl and break up with her (If I can bring myself to) if I find I can't avoid hitting it off with the other girl. 3. try to avoid getting involved with the first girl and hope that I hit it off with the english girl even though she will be going back to England and we will have to have an email relationship. (which I had with my last girlfriend 5 years ago who was also living in England and which we ended peacefully) 4. go out with both girls secretly if it works out that way LOL OK, I am NOT doing #4, I think my best plan would be #1 considering that I know nothing about the english girl. And I really do like the first girl. But I just know this english girl is going to be amazing, that's just my luck, you know, you would think I'm lucky to have these choices well, I'll tell, its really stressing me out!