S1asher6

If he's the shy guy I think he is, he may simply be at a lost on how he's suppose to act around you.

No, I don't believe that... I don't believe people completely change. And when people change, it's not so much the aspects of their personality that change. What changes is everything that surrounds them and involve them. At the end of it all, there can only be one of two conclusions to your questioning and wondering, no matter how much you think about it. And quite simply, there's only self-acceptance or on-going wondering whether people can be completely changed - most people keep on wondering. Whereas, let me remind you, self-acceptance is when who you are is no more a bother.

How is the story sick, sad, and disturbing? I agree that the story is sad but certainly not sick or disturbing.

Yea... it's not that funny. But hey, whatever tickles your nerves.

We all walk alone. Anybody walking into your life would just be your companion on the road of life. Aside from your family, everybody else comes and goes. Some stays and those that stays becomes our good friends. It's great when there's someone close walking along side. It's especially great when it's a girlfriend from whom you receive affections. But you seem to have forgotten that, before the girlfriend you've recently broken up with, you were walking alone. Do you remember when you start yearning for a girlfriend? It probably has taken you some time before the first girl came along. Now you're walking alone again. Give it some time. Enjoy the attentions you get from girls. Enjoy giving girls your attention. Enjoy the excitment of the different possibilities. Enjoy whatever you find entertaining. Your life's purpose can't possibly be the girl you've broken up with.

I think it takes experience and how much you've learned from it. But, even then, you'll only be getting a vibe that the girl might like you. The best thing here is a guess based on experience. There really isn't a sure way to know whether a girl likes you or not. Sometimes people themselves can't be sure if they like someone. How, then, can you know if a girl likes you without asking her?

I wouldn't say it's a lot easier for girls to get into a relationship. I think girls have just as hard a time getting into a relationship as guys do. I mean, a relationship is a two way street, right? If a guy likes a girl, the guy makes the first move. If a girl likes a guy, the girl makes the first move. If guys are being served on the plate for making the first move, the same goes for the ladies. It's really a matter of who likes who; whether the girl likes the guy or the guy likes the girl. There are the girls that makes the first moves and strictly from experience, it seems like they have a pretty tough time bringing up that courage. It's not any easier for the ladies. It might even be tougher for the ladies because, as it seems, it's a guy's job to make the approach. Then there are the girls who would just sit there and peek at you. They wouldn't approach you and they probably never will unless you make the initiative. That's when it becomes tough on the guy's part. But reading around on these forums, it doesn't seem like a guy's job to make the first move anymore. When it comes down to, it really depends on who you are; whether you're the go-getter or the come-and-get-me type. If you're the come-and-get-me type, then it's tough whether you're a guy or a girl. Also, it really depends on who likes who first.

If looks don't matter, then why are there so many people battered by their unattractive physical bearing? Take a walk in the park. Go shopping at the mall. Pay attention to the people around you. Reality says otherwise. Just look around and you'll see people of certain height and body type with someone of similiar qualities. For the very least, you'll never see an elegant, classy looking guy in a suit with a thuggy girl in sneakers and baggy pants, wearing a cap backwards. Looks matters. It's not the most important and a good personality certainly plays a bigger part in a relationship. It's what maintains a relationship. But the thing here is not how attractive or unattractive a person is. The thing is what's acceptable. And that applies differently to different people. It's too easy to say that a personality is all that matters. It rings too nicely. But quite frankly, that's a load. I'm sorry. I'm really sorry. But a person's personality is not all that matters. Personality just matters more than a person's look and everybody wants someone that meets their standard in that matter. Again, I'm sorry, but saying personality is all that matters defies reality. Personality matters as well as looks. Each and everybody just have a different balance of the two. Call me shallow... call me whatever you want. I just can't help it. That's the reality I see every single time a couple crosses my path.

First of all, it's just socially improper to view pornograpic materials at inappropriate times and places. It's just social propriety that we keep certain things to the privacy of our time. Second of all, there are people that sanction the intimate nature of the materials revealed in pornography. The intimate nature of these materials have principle values. When something of principle value is revealed so worthlessly, so boldly, and for entertainment, it becomes offensive. Third, I think most people don't find pornography offensive. I think most people just find it improper and it's most improper if pornography is not viewed at a private time and place. Lock yourself in your room and you can enjoy yourself however you want. Outside of your room, any lustful, sexual activity is improper. So... it's not so much as how pornography is offensive. It's more so how proper it is at where and when.

I think it's easy to decide what love is when overcome by a seeming emotion of love. But you seem so sure what you feel is love. And by your definition of love, it may just be. You've decided that you love her. Now let her decide. Love is a waste of time, sometimes.

Trough Lolly, I'm happy for you, truly.

I do believe we are made for certain people. Simply because... we all have a preference. Our potential mates could only be a people within the range of our preferences. However different two individuals may be, they would still be a people within the range of that preference.

Sounds enough like love. I was six years old and my mother was to leave for a visit to my great-grandma. I held on to her sleeve and wouldn't let go and I cried like a baby when she finally figured out how to ditch me. I shouldn't have left go of her sleeve.

I think I'm going to die a virgin. I'm 22.

Put yourself in his shoe. You know him well enough to know that somethings wrong and you get the impression he doesn't really want to mention it; would you then still goes on to pursue the talk or would you back off and let him work things out? The same logic applies: if he asked, he'll probably want to know. If he didn't, he probably doesn't want to know. There's no reason to feel deceitful. It's your business and you're trying to leave it in the past. Unless it's true that you had the desire to share this recent drama with Fred, just let it be the past and move on with Fred to a better tomorrow.