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Sorry I dont agree with either of the 2 post above. Ofcourse he is thinking about it...would you be if you were 20 years old and never had a member of the opposite sex show interest in you? I can completely understand you because I have been tossed into the same situation as yourself....hell you could be even typing my life story except for the fact I am 25. I will be honest there is no answer to your problem. Just hope one day a girl will come your way. People have been telling me the "its just a matter of time" story for 8 years now. Obviously I dont buy that line and would laugh in anyones face who was to tell me it. There is certainly no garuntee you will ever end up with anyone. There is no garuntees on life full stop. It may happen but it also may not just the luck of the draw.
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Can girls seriously ever pick a nice guy? this guy sounds like a complete tool. He kisses you then when you walk of he sneaks in to kiss your friend. Are you seriously blind? Obviously the only thing this guy "loves" is getting some action not carring when or who it is with. Forget this guy and go after someone who is decent who is not obviously a jackass who would cheat on you the second you walk out the door.
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There is actually quite a lot you can do to stop hair loss. 3 Things are scientifically proven to stop and in some cases regrow amounts of hair. Propecia, Rogaine and Nizoral shampoo. A perscription is needed for propecia (not viagra! these are completely separate) Stick on these 3 things for a year or more and im sure you keep what you have and possibly regrow some back. I know this stuff works because my own brother takes all 3 and has gone from a noticebly balding to unoticeable. I am not posting any links because people will probably think I am trying to sell my own gear. I am not, just do yourself a favour and investigate what I have mentioned here. If you dont believe me go and speak to your local doctor i am sure he will suggest using the above. Also I dont care how many girls come on here telling you they dont care...the fact of the matter is many do. Its great there are nice girls out there who dont care but I have personaly heard lots girl talk about balding guys in disgust. Thats just life!
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No chance of it. I would never speak down to people like that particuarly infront of a girl I was interested in. I am just venting on here and very angry right now. I just question the logic in females who pick guys like this who would cheat on them over somebody who is nice and stand by them no matter what.
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I go after girls who I think are nice and that I am attracted too. I am not your normal shark who will go from one girl to another. I have to feel something towards them. Most the time this just leaves me hurt when they chose some other guy over me who is a garbo and that I cant for the life of me understand why they would find anything about them attractive or interesting. But still they insist that he is such a great guy...obviously I am not. At least in thier peanut brain.
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I need to vent this is all becoming too much... Tonight I went out for the 4 billionth time and the 4 billionth consecutive time I was made to feel like I was no more interesting than the paint on the wall. I am and always have been your typical nice guy but I am really sick of getting treated like trash because of it. I am to the stage now where I have no respect left for women....In my circle of friends of 5 males I am the only one who has NEVER had a g/f. Although each one of these guys are my friends each one of them has cheated on thier g/f.....meanwhile here I am Mr Nice guy whould NEVER cheat on a girl ...single...single the year after...single for every year. It is to the point now where my family at Christmas joke that I must be gay. I dont blame them...I would think the same. It has nothing to do with my looks...I know this, so dont pull the whole self confidence *beep* on me. I am confident and I am goodlooking I am 6ft4 tall and very athletic with so called dark looks but...I am also (or was) a NICE GUY. This is obviosuly where I fall down with girls. They would rather date jackasses who take drugs working at McDonalds and tell me what a great b/f they have. I really dont think I will bother going out again. It is more or less banging my head into a brick wall. Nothing but girls working as check out chicks thinking they are too good for me...what a god damn joke. To make matters worst and to just illustrate how much in a females favor the whole nightclub/bar scene is. I was rejected from two clubs because I was not on the "guest list" hahaha there is no guest list just an obvious ploy to keep single males out. Hell females dont even have to line up or pay a cover charge they just walkon in like they are some kind of celbrity. Discrimination? you bet ya. So this is where I am now at. A nice guy turned sour by the *beep* thrown in his face. And people wonder why there is a glass ceeling in business for females....just guys like me with the sh!t thrown in thier face...would you be any different?
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He tried to ask you out knowing you had a b/f and he is such a nice guy? Obviously I dont know your situation very well but from my perspective this guy sounds like a typical shark...only worried when his next feed will be. Just convenient he called you up when he broke up with his ex eh. Sorry if I sound rude but he sounds like a player to me.
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Lol I am reasonably sure it is nothing to do with my appearance. As I have stated. I am very athletic....I work out a lot and have the body shape of an athlete. I am also certain it is nothing to do with how I dress. Sure some girls have different taste in clothing as everyone is different but I have been complemented on having good taste in clothing by female friends. I think you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned body language. Although it is not submissive body language. More about looking approachable which when I think about it...I don't.
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I know it doesn't prevent you from getting women, and yes I know girls probably in general like a guy taller than they are so that is a bonus. My point is that being taller can *sometimes* be intimidating to a girl and make them less likely to approach you. I know not always...but I am sure it plays a part.
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MetallicAguy >> I am not shy and will talk to girls when I go out. Just last night I must have talked to 5-6 different girls who I had never met before....I started conversation with all of them. I also don't suffer from low self esteem or confidence. I think I may come accross as somewhat closed to girls or unapproachable. I think being really tall adds to this even more. I am excited to see what happens when I try out Mjanes advice. It certainly cannot hurt the situation that is for sure!!
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Thanks MJane, I will try it out. I think the reason to this point why I generally shy away from flirting is because I see it as being kinda sleazy. I see guys do it all the time and they only have one thing on their mind and I would expect girls to know this. I don't want to appear like that. I know what you are saying though...a bit of harmless flirting is definitely an advantage. I guess it is a fine line though just don't want to go over the top with it.
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Thanks for the advice people! Dre_7 >> I don't think It is so much that I am negative around girls. In fact I am sure the majority of girls who know me would describe me as rather confident and positive. Sure my username is negative, I agree, but this is just the way I feel after another night out and never meeting anyone in all my life. eagles04 >> Sounds like you can relate to my situation. I actually read your post a few days ago about your guy friend who friends give him trouble when you are around. Sounds to me like this guy likes you, I wouldn't worry what his friends think. After all it is between you and him..not his friends. And they don't sound like that good a friends to be doing that to him. Best of luck! mo'Nique >> You are right. That is the attitude I should have. That way you don't get hurt when you do go out or meet new girls and nothing clicks. I wish I could. I just find it so hard not to 'look' after so long. On top of that there is so much pressure to meet someone. This last Christmas for example my cousins said so have you met a girl yet...I give them the same response as I do every Christmas....Nope They joked about whether I was gay or what? It is small things like this. On top of that crawling into bed every night by yourself is not fun. I yearn to have the experience of holding or being with a significant other. It is all these reasons why I find it hard not "to look". Mjane >> I think this might be great advice for me. I would say I am fairly hopeless of flirting with girls. It is ok if I know them but when I first meet a girl (and this is probably where first impressions count) I come accross I would say as fairly reserved. I guess I know "how" to flirt but don't do it until I feel comfortable enough with a girl.
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Thanks for the advice, yeah I was really close to a female friend and would have done anything for her. I often did things to show her I cared but never officially came out and told her.....reason being was she was never really suggested she was interested in me in a romantic way. I dont see her any more because she eventually met a b.f which has kinda hurt me. Trying to move along but cant meet any girls to do that!
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Hi, sometimes I really wonder if I will ever meet a girl. I am a 25 yr old male who has never ever had a g/f in my life. I do wonder if I have been cursed with bad luck or whether being single it is just meant to be for me. I have been out hundreds of times with my friends and never seem to get any interest at all. A lot of people say have confidence and just be yourself and you will eventually meet someone. I am sorry but I don't see it happening. I consider myself to be an attractive male (and so I have been told) 6ft4 dark brown hair and blue eyes and very athletic but I go out and try talking with girls and they don't want to know me. If they bottled me and sold me as a girl repellent they could make millions lol. I know it sounds arrogant but I don't see what ingredient I am missing. I have a good job make good money and always treat people with respect and dignity but this does not to seem to make a difference. I have been very close to a few of my female friends but they seem to want to date any guy in the world but me. They tell me I am good looking and assume I would have no trouble meeting a girl but it just isn't the case Is there anything I can do to help my situation? I am sick of being told to be patient and that the right girl is around the corner...because I have heard this story for 8 or more years and know this is not true. I also know getting negative about the situation is just going to throw me into a vicious cycle of more of the same but I really am just on the verge of giving up hope. Anyone out there feel this way or have any advice for a hopeless cause such as myself?
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Why being shy and unattractive sucks!
single4good replied to Kyoshiro Ogari's topic in Dating Advice
corvidae lets get one thing straight, there is nothing wrong with your appearance...to me you look like Keanu Reeves, you are definitely not ugly...that is crazy talk. There is not much to say other than you have obviously been placed in unlucky circumstances where you can't meet many girls. Going to clubs in my opinion is absolutely pointless and I wouldn't take one thing from it that no girls took a look at you or spoke with you. I am sure Brad Pitt himself could walk in (without his fame) and no girl would even give him a glance. Most girls you come accross in a nightclub environment are superficial and expect you to come up to them and start conversation. Obviously if you are shy this environment is not going to work for you. On the other hand if you are one of these guys who can walk from one chick to another getting rejected with a smile on your face you are probably going to hit luck eventually. To me you do not sound like one of these guys. Unfortunately I do not have any golden solution to your problem with women all I can say is hang in there and try to stay positive. Once you become negative around girls....its all over. Also as crazy as it sounds there is a lot guys out there in the same situation as yourself....Myself for one. -
Does anybody else in here feel the way I do?
single4good replied to sharp1184's topic in Emotions and Feelings
Unfortunately this is not the case ForAnother....Sure I may have never had a g/f but that is not to say I have not felt like I have had my heart ripped out by girls. That is what makes it even worst. I feel as though I have experienced none of the pleasures of being with a female (the fun times) but only the side of being told I am not wanted or had another person chosen directly over me. And last but not least is the saying which I completely agree with.....It is better to have loved than never to have loved at all. Sharp>> I agree completely, I also will not just throw myself at any girl who comes along. I have to feel some kind of connection and attraction at least but most of the guys I know have no standards, they wouldnt care who she is as long as she is female.....yet they are the ones who seem to end up with the girls I would like to see and I am the one left with nothing at all. -
Yes Shysoul, I have been there and that REALLY hurts. Girls in nightclubs can be utterly mean. No excuse for some of the rude behaviour I have witnessed. And people wonder why (particularly shy guys) fear going up to girls? hahaha
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Does anybody else in here feel the way I do?
single4good replied to sharp1184's topic in Emotions and Feelings
Wow sounds like you are in my shoes, I am 24 and never had a g/f or ever really had any girl take interest in me. I cant explain why either...I also am relatively good looking and have been told it a fair few times but girls just dont want to know me...or you either it seems. I also find it very annoying people telling me ohh dont worry your time will come....waiting 8 years I would have thought was long enough. This saying particularly annoys me coming from people who have never been in this situation. Try being single for your entire life and see how positive you are. All I can say is try to stay positive at least whilst you are around girls because it is all one vicious cycle once you let it get on top of you. Sure... vent all you like on here I think that is healthy. I also have more or less given up hope of ever meeting anyone. I go out at night but have no expectations at all. I am certainly never surprised. I am not sure if watching the habits of others helps at all. I have watched a few of my friends who are great at meeting girls. Only thing I see different in them is they will go up to about 30 girls a night and try to spark up conversation. Sure it works out for them but this is a hard thing to do particularly if you are shy. All I can say is best of luck I hope something comes your way soon and at least you know there is other people out there just like you. Its hard to imagine but its true. -
Couldn't say it any better myself corvidae! Yeah I agree at 18 I wouldn't be too worried. Most people have not had much experience at this age. I am a 24 yr old male and have been single my entire life and like corvidae said had mostly negative experiences with females but I still remain happy and just get on with life. Hopefully one day something will come my way but until then I am just going to make do with what I have.
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Never really had it to the point that I would turn and run. But I would be so shy that I wouldnt even look at her even though I would want to ask her a 100 questions! I know its crazy but it is the rejection I fear. Nobody wants to know they are not wanted.
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Ahh I have been here myself, and I know it is tougher than it sounds just to get over it. Only thing that ever got me through it was the no contact rule. Annie has some good suggestions get out there and try to stay active. You don't always have to go after another guy but at least get out there and talk with some different people. Of course you will not instantly get over him but the less you see of him the less you will think about him trust me! and good luck!
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wow I have had a very similar situation to that exept for the fact I knew the girl for a longer period of time. I know it hurts...your story brings back all the bad memories. I wouldnt waiste any more time on her at all she isnt worth it. You will just have to move along and try to meet new girls...not every girl is a jerk like that.
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He could be shy but I tend too agree with bleeder. The majority of guys would approach if they were interested even given half a clue. I would say move on but i could be wrong...
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When does just friends turn into something else?
single4good replied to FatFeline's topic in Friendship and Friends
I would be careful to not get too keen, I have been in a situation almost identical to what you have mentioned...and its all she wanted to be "friends" i came out feeling quite hurt. The worst part was that I could not really tell her how i felt because I didnt want to lose her friendship. From past experience I would say find out quickly where you are at...get an answer from her. That way you can either hook up with her and stop playing games or you will be able to move on and forget it. Goodluck. -
Looks like I am with 2% of the population also.... I am an ENTJ "Marshal" ty.