Shinobie

ty for your post smallworld it is very helpful. I find it really HARD to flirt because i am extremely shy.Especially when someone says something nice about me like a compliment i just mumble on and dont say anything.Ive always had problems with this like one of my best friends got mad because he complimented me and i said heck no im not or something.I dont know how to flirst with a women im bad at it actually im bad at everything yes girls are very confusing i say i prolly understand them .1% .

Dude dont do that to yourself sex is just sex....Try to think of things liek love and what being with a girl truly means.Ive tried to keep these gosh darn male hormones at bay because i HATE those hormones.Its like a burden having them isnt it?But ya when i look at a girl i try to picture a loving thought.I mean whats so special just all that for that 5 sec feeling i mean come on dont put urself in animalistic ways.We are human beings we should be able to control these stupid urges.All these people try to make it a BIG thing.I personally think most who make it a really big thing just want to show off cause i have a couple of friends like that.LIke my arrogant friend bragged about it.But my best friend didnt brag about it at all he mostly had sex because he was in love with this girl and i personally think that the genuine way to do it.If i was in a relationship i wouldnt care if i had to wait like 3 years for sex as long as i liked/loved the girl.LIke most of these guys push sex on women and i find that really disrespectful.Its all down to when you are ready and the girl is ready.Try not to think of sex too much man because it will do ur mind good without it.Dont stress over it ull get it someday.I mean ur only 18 thats not too bad.And dont listen to young people that are like 13-16 having sex that put u down.It prolly makes them feel powerful to put someone down.Its like ooooooo ive had sex im the MAN!Do yourself a favor and dont listen to some of this stuff and keep ur mind off sex if its stressing u out to do some of the things ur thinking

One question about ur meter dudecar about people being attracted to each other.I dont understand why people have to be bad looking and the others can be surpisingly beautiful?.It just doesnt seem fair at all but ah whoe cares iono.Back to music it make sme happy.

I feel that when ur 2 are personally stable and ready i believe its great.There are many girls and guys around those age gaps that only want to party drink and be with many girls or guys.Id rather settle down then going out with girl afte girl.I idealize finding the one and having a loving relationship where one day i could of have kids with and pass on my thoughts and memories.That is the dream i have and i hope it comes true Dude it is up to you not your friends it is your choice if u would love to be settled which can be a great thing.Choose what u want and i hope u find happiness and maybe even a stable nice settled relationship if u truly want it.

Hmm corvidae u look like the type of guy that would attract a girl right away dude.Good luck man i hope u find someone i bet there ar eplenty of women out there for you.

Well there is this girl at work that i work with.She says these good things about me.LIke that i am not bad looking,im fun to talk too,and that im nice and caring.Why wouldnt she like a guy like me i mean if she thinks those things of me?Instead she is going for some other guy and i dont know whats so special about him.I heard her mention something about hes really hot.Sorry i am trying to stay away from that aspect but maybe she goes for a guys that r better looking.Maybe she was lying about some of the things about me.I know im really nice and caring but thats about it iono

Iono i insist on staying to yourself and more like talking to your friends more and stuff.Try not to get in the middle of conversations people that migth not like u in say the popular people.Iono it might be good to be a more social person to get friends but i usually stayed to myself and didnt say anything but thats also partly because im shy.The only problem i ever had with getting picked on was by the popular hot girls.But all this passes by really fast.High school come sand goes fast.Ya maybe u can u can go to prom and all the fun dances and things.If ur shy like me there is really no use to going to dances or anything because i would always be dateless if i went but maybe u can go and hang out with friends there and stuff?

[kitz] And, Shinobie, what's even crueler than "creating life and then killing it by your own stupid mistake" is bringing a new baby into this world, into a family where it isn't really wanted, can't be supported properly or loved like it should have. P.S. i dont know how to quote U wanna know one simple way of not bringing a kid into the world where it wont be loved and cared for like it should be or an abortion.Dont have sex at all condoms and stuff do work most of the time but if u dont want that to happen just dont have sex till ur rdy to support a kid and love iono

LMAO this comment doesnt make me mad it makes me laugh.That just shows that ur insecure about that.PLus it shows that u are SO predictable.I knew the second i would post that u would say that!Like 90% of girls are the same my sister is going throught eh same stage.My mom called herself a jerk about herself when she was young.A waitress at work said the ssame thing about herself.IVe known many women that think the same way about theirselves.As ive known many guys that say they were out there for nothing but sex and taking advanatge of women such as my dad and other people i know.So both sides have their bad.Thats the only defense u got is that.IVe had a girl tell me that im not bad looking,that im an enjoyable person to talk to,and that im really nice and caring.I would rather be the persona i am now then getting sex all the time i dont care about that.I dont want sex sky maybe U think about that.I would really want love way more then that .You migth want it just for fun destroying its meaning and stuff but i dont want that.I cann tell u one thing a person growing up the way i did without all that sex and relationships and things its given me a way better aspect about it but not about myself.Its given me so many morals and stuff well i guess thats just how everything makes people different.As for the sex age limit the only thing i have against lower age sex is the fact that if u guys give birth to kid u have no WAY! of supporting it that well but at 14 ur parents have to come in and help......I dont care if youngins do it its their fault.....If they feel like wasting all the good free years of their lives and turning it into somewhat of a hell i feel sorry for them yes but its their fault.

Well first of all i personally is that having a law against underage sex is a good thing.PLus especially when u get pregnant.Whats the first thing any young kid is gonna do.IS go to mommy and daddy to help take care of the kid.The poor people are taken 18 years of their lives to take care of us lil brats!Now they might have to spend more money on the kids cause they cant do one thing to support it at that age.I mean a kid taking care of a kid ya thats pretty logical with alcohol u say.ITs fricken great to have a law against people who r basially kids to drink it.I mean alcohol makes u very stupid and very unaware of whats goes on around u.PLus at a party or something with how many inconsiderate jerks there are ur gonna get taken advantage of.Ya then on the thing of abortion mean how cruel is that u create life then u kill it by your own stupid mistake.Thats really cruel in my eyes

Just one question that bogs my mind?I just want to ask why do u 12-14 year olds have sex or the ones that had it then too.I mean ur still a kid mean if u got pregnant or someone pregnant how would u support the kid?And do that many people still believe in true love before sex?Or do most people nowadays just believe in it for fun and enjoyment?

sorry i dont even think i should post anymore.

Ya im 18 and still havent had a gf or any of those things uve said.Hell ill prolly be 50 lol and everything will still be the same.

that wager would be a waste of time iono.Cause the way i feel i will get up to where kyro is and still not have a girl.Girls r just so distant to me and i dont understand them most of them r mean to me its pointless.I dont have one ounce of confidence in me iono what it is im so far from it.

There has never been one time in my life where i have seen a guy get a girl with confidence being ugly.Now with being hot or somewhat attractive i see how confidence would matter.With myself being ugly i have not had any interest in me from any girl.Ive noticed girls at work being mean or stand offish.Even after i do things like saying hello,busing their tables,holding doors open for them,and or doing things they ask for you.They still have no interest to talk to you or anything.OLder waitresses that work there like to talk and stuff and they are really nice.But i see nothing in younger girls but disgust with me.All younger girls are good for is calling me ugly....being mean to me and toying with me in like high school and middle school.Im getting kind of fed up with younger girls i guess ill have to wait like 10-15 years for a gf but i polly wont even get one then so o well.

Ya i dont really believe that women are more mature then guys thing much either i believe that it is equal.Like in school most girls do that whole drama nonsense that gets really annoying.Then a thin with some guys in shcool they all try to act really bad and act like they are some super stud or something.I personally have not got into any of this nonsense in school or immaturity.As for if i got excited for a hot girl looking at me.It would not be different for most girls looking at me.The satisfaction of how i feel is the same.Although there have been no girls that have looked at me for a long time.

O i know skyteph ya i know i dont have any confidence.Im just saying that when i look at girls they dont look over at all or give me one glance.So thats why i think its because im ugly.Its like why do girls get all excited when a hot guy looks at them? then an ugly guy looks at them and they get all weirded out.I have one word "shallow",Thats all i can quite possibly think of.With how things keep staying.I know i wont ever have a girlfriend ever in my life.And i wont ever experience the feeling of love and having kids.Mostly because im ugly.

the key word is "hot" if ur like me and ugly even when u get older eveything still stays the same so dont get ur hopes up.

Ya i feel the same way only imma stupid youngin and dont know how the heck it would feel at that age.....People say looks dont matter....But i dont really believe that for a second...U say looks dont start things but i disagree.My friend that all the girls think is really hot had a girl come up to him and said "i noticed that your really hot".YA how easy is that to get a girl or start off a conversation.And one time he said the dumbest pick up line in the world and the girl just giggled.Say if a guy like me or my other bad looking friends said that to her she would just look away in disgust.I believe the problem for many of us single guys that been single for a long time is that we look bad.I have not had one girl in my whole entire life that has been interested in me,none.And i wonder if its the same for and of u guys that has had nothing their whole life?The reason some of us guys want a gf is the reason that we want somebody that could tell us that they love us and so we can tell them we love them.One that can say ur beautiful in their eyes.One u can someday marry and have kids with and love them with.Thats what i see the point of life is not some successful job or anything.I mean yes something good to support ur family.I find that a LOT of the human race is shallow and its very hard for bad looking people to get someone to love in life.

Ive noticed for myself that u have to least be attractive but also confident.

Personally i dotn go for the attractive girls because they are usually shallow and not nice.I usually go for the ok looking to not so attractive girls.But those ones still don't look over.So either i dont know whats wrong with me except for the fact that im ugly to all girls.Im not the type of guy that keeps on staring at a girl.I usually just look over to see if she is looking then look away.PLus when im at work like say we get a new young waitress.They always end up like my friend richard cause guess what hes hot thats surprising....Its like look at me im hot all the girls come flocking to me.Thats why i ask the question why am i bad looking and why are other people bad looking what did we do wrong?God just went poof ur ugly poof ur hot.Its like none of us did anything to get how we are but we were just made that way.Its like why were some of us born to be ugly and suffer being lonely.

U guys state that if u act confident around a girl it works.But it does not work for me and probably other people too.How attractive u are is the deciding factor all the time it seems like at least at my age.Like ive tried to keep on looking at girls and making eye contact but they never look over.Some even look away in the disgust which basically gave me the assumption that i must be pretty darn ugly to a lot of girls.Out of all the girls i have seen or been around like new young waitresses or girls at the mall or something a total of 0 have shown interest in me.So ive basically came up with the conclusion that looks are the initial factor for everything and that confidence doesnt mean jack crap if ur too ugly.I mean i would have tried to talk to them if maybe one girl would have made eye contact or shown interest but none of them did.

Ya i wouldnt ever have sex wiith a prostitute even by how ugly and lonely i am.

dont u think u guys r being a lil harsh on guys.Girls just lay back and let the man have all the pressure.I mean if the guy doesnt satisfy u and say u truly luv him shouldnt u still stay with him?I mean isnt that what a guy deserves.Maybe just see if he picks up his game in the near future.

Dont worry man we go through this all the time.I too have barely any friends and never had a gf.What helps me is these pills i take.They are anti depressants called lithium.Have u ever thought of taking pills?they really do help.I also listen to music i like a lot like the killers and linkin park and that makes me happy for some strange reason.For what reason did ur gf break up with u.Can u try to get another one?Yes not having a gf makes me very sad too and haunts me too.But u got to forget about that or either try to get another one.Do u go out at all and socialize.Or do u stay at home like me?Is there anything that makes u confident at all?If so can u keep ahold of that and use that to gain support for yourself?Sorry imma bad helper with posting but try to keep yourself alive we care for you even though we dont know you.